Hi and welcome back to how do you show up practicing emotional intelligence? The topic for today's lesson is what are the key components of emotional intelligence as we saw in the definition of emotional intelligence, it focuses on self and others. Take a look at this diagram. The key components of emotional intelligence are self awareness, self management, social awareness, and relationship management. Take a look across the top of this diagram. The top row focuses on self self awareness is a recognition skill set and self management is our regulation skill set on the topic of self awareness.

This is like the foundation of emotional intelligence. When we look at self awareness, we see a person that recognizes their own emotions and how they impact their behavior. They can name that emotion, they know when they're being triggered. They know their strengths and weaknesses and they have self confidence about themselves and And what they can and cannot do. Now let's make a conscious decision on how we're going to manage it. So now we're into self management.

Here's where you control and manage your impulses and your feelings. After you've named that emotion. Now it's time to manage it. Now it's time to take some initiative, be intentional grieve and make a conscious decision about how you want to show up how you want to behave, impact yourself, the situation and others and how you want to make sure that you behave in a way that is your best self, and not something that you will have to apologize for later. And finally, the last bullet here, you easily adapt to change, you're flexible, this is all part of self management. The bottom two boxes here in the last row are focused on others.

So as you remember, emotional intelligence is focused on ourselves and understanding ourselves, managing ourselves and then interacting with other people. So now we're focused on social awareness. And then as part of regulation, relationship management, so when it comes to social awareness, this is understanding the emotions and the needs and concerns of other people. Now we're focused on others empathy, where we understand what another person may be feeling or what's causing their behavior, taking the time to focus on someone else other than ourselves picking up on the mood in the room, what does your team care about? what interests them? What motivates them?

This is all part of your social awareness skill set, and then finally, pick up on those nonverbal cues watching for body language are people are engaged, are they listening? Are their arms folded? These are all indications of how your message is being received. And finally, the second component of others is relationship management. How do you develop and maintain good relationships? How do you nurture those relationships, being aware of how you interact with people and actually caring about how you interact with other people communicating clearly stopping to ask Did you understand?

Do you have any question instead of just delivering a message and not confirming that your message was actually received properly? Or as you intended? How do you inspire or influence others? This skill set speaks to how do you make sure that you understand your audience and what they care about, and then modifying your message so that it speaks to their needs, working well in a team. This is understanding collaboration, how to work with others, how to be flexible and adaptable, and actually looking for areas where everybody can benefit or the win win situation managing conflict. We'll talk a little bit more about that in a later lesson.

In the next four lessons, we will dive into each one of these competencies, what each one looks like, why it's important, how to practice it, and the importance of journaling about each one of these competencies for your class project journal about what you've learned in this lesson. review each one of the emotional intelligence skill sets or components and journal about how they show up for you and I'll see you in the next one.