Hi and welcome back to how do you show up practicing emotional intelligence? The topic for today's lesson is self management. How do you manage your emotions? self management is the ability to pause and think how do I want to show up? This is a skill that you apply to manage your emotions and your behaviors. mindfulness can be thought of as living in the moment intentionally noticing what is going on around you.

Did you know guilt and regret come from focusing on the past and stress and fear comes from focusing on the future? Focus on the present that fosters openness, gratitude, being calm and being cool? How do you practice being present? Focus on your surroundings, focus on your breathing. Try to avoid multitasking. I'm so guilty of this one.

I don't like to waste time so while I'm waiting for one thing to finish, I will start something else. This is a very hard habit to break but studies have proven that multitasking is not very efficient because the brain has to stop and restart each time you go to a different task. Mindfulness means undivided attention. So if you practice being present, it is a form of mindfulness, you're providing your undivided attention. And this could be in a conversation with someone where you're listening and you are being present. Or it could be something that you're working on where you are giving it 100% your attention.

Be present. Be mindful, you don't have to believe everything that you think. Let's discuss self talk. You need to manage those negative thoughts focus on being positive. Think about what's the best that can happen rather than what's the worst that can happen. be intentional about your options for responding to emotions, and what are the consequences of each one of those options.

What is your reputation for managing your emotions? What are your hot buttons? We talked about this a little bit earlier, understanding What are your triggers? And once you know what your triggers are, then you can consciously decide how you want to manage your response. How do you deal with frustration, anger, sadness, or fear will first name that emotion? Then you investigate what's causing it?

Is it something that I can control and make a conscious decision on how you're going to react to it? Remember, you drive your emotions your emotions do not drive you. There are signs that you're not managing your emotions effectively, you unconsciously ignore or you push your feelings down. You try to ignore them. You behave in ways that do not match the way that you really feel. Other signs that you're not managing your emotions effectively Are you take your feelings out on other people.

Let's talk about controlling outbursts. Understand that the first thing that you say when you feel angry is usually the worst thing that you could say is always to your advantage to take a moment to breathe. Take a walk. Do whatever you need to do to give your cognitive brain a chance to engage so that the response that you make will be a response that you can be proud of. How do these statements apply to you, I'm able to control my temper and handle difficulties without them affecting my mood or speech. Number two, even when I'm emotional, I can speak in a calm and clear manner.

Number three, I could always come down quickly when I'm very angry. Number four, when I am happy, I rarely go overboard. Number five. When dealing with my problems, my long term goals are always the thing which guides my response. Six, I can take an independent view of things even when others disagree. And finally, I demonstrate optimism no matter how difficult the situation or the other people may be.

This is trying to maintain a positive outlook in the face of disagreement for your class products in general about your level of selling Management think about ways to practice being present. Look for areas throughout the day where you were not present, being self aware. Take a look and notice those areas where you may have been on your phone or you weren't listening so that you can begin to be aware of when you are present and when you are not sure about your challenges with being present, and I'll see you in the next