Hi, I'm Sandy factory. And thank you for joining me today on this video blog titled How your emotional wounds strengthen you. So there are three points that I wish to address today. And namely, the first point speaks about our emotional wounds lead us to discover our own paths. And so what that really means is that there are unconscious aspects of ourselves that are either repressed or remain unconscious, and generally they remain unconscious because we are unaware of them or we choose to stop them away or store them away. So our emotional wounds coming up to the surface is almost akin to that image of the iceberg of which 90% of it remains beneath.

The surface and 10% above the surface of which we're aware of. So, in order to understand our emotional wounds and to deal with it, we connect with the wholeness of who we are. So it's remiss of us to only focus on our negative aspects, for example, you might have a tendency to be angry and overreact to certain situations. Now, to walk around saying I'm an angry person is a distorted thought or an image given that that is only one facet of your personality or one facet of your being. And if you think about it in this context, if you've ever been to the art gallery, or for those of you who have been to the Louvre in Paris, France, and you've stood really close to a painting, and observe that you see that the dots really don't look like matches See these bold brushstrokes, which look really tough and quite strong, yet, the moment you step away from that painting, you begin to see the whole of it.

So all those intricate brush details suddenly come together to form this complete image. And I want you to think about your homeless is the same is that when you highlight a negative aspect of your being, you are looking at yourself, you're looking at the canvas of your character, or your personality from a close distance. And what I invite you to do is to step back and look at the wholeness of who you are. So you can be angry One moment, you can be happy and joyous. The next. So the second point is your wounds don't mean that you are flawed.

And so unfortunately, many people perceive that because they have these emotional wounds and they carry their baggage throughout. life that they afford in some context, and it's the furthest thing from the truth. Again, I want you to think about about it in this context, our emotional move or wounds rather, don't mean that we're flawed but rather add a truth to our character. They show that we have danced with life that we have scars that we have these battle scars. And a really interesting point for me is that many decades ago when I worked in a men's shoe store, and we had the sales rep who would come and talk about the the shoe or the hide, and it was interesting because in conveying the character of the hide, most customers or people that wanted to buy the shoes, always look for these blemishes or scars on the shoes.

And what they were looking for is the character of the animal or the, you know the height of the animal. And so in our case, it's important that we have these battle scars because these battle scars represent our commitment to life. It shows that we have lived a purposeful life. And in doing so, we show others how to navigate their way through the light as well or through life. And it's interesting to note that when we hear about people coming out, such as celebrities or sports heroes coming out in the media to tell us about their depression, suddenly it opens the doors for others to also come out and talk about the depression. And it might be any mental illness or physical disability or anything that's related to a personal segment of their life.

But when we live in congruency to our purpose when we are congruent with who we are at the deepest level of our core V, then we invite others to do the same. It really shows our humanity it reveals our character and our humanity to others. And the third point is pain and suffering is part of the human condition. And for those of you who have studied any type of Buddhism, the Buddha said that pain and suffering is part of human life. And he talks about the Four Noble Truths. And so if we appreciate that living an earthly consistent existence rather, or a human condition means that we are subject to pain and suffering.

Yet it is how we internalize that pain and suffering it is how we transform that pain and suffering, to develop a deeper relationship with ourselves that ultimately leads to our inner freedom. So we can use pain and suffering as a springboard in order to create joy and happiness. And I might also add that you can also be happy in the midst of pain and suffering, because you use that, that pain that suffering that turmoil in order to transform it into joy into happiness. And so these come to us as gifts. And certainly when we're caught up in the midst of pain and suffering, it may seem that all we can see is the pain and the experience that's before us. Yet the moment we allow that pain and suffering to settle, suddenly, the seed of an opportunity begins to sprout.

And we can see that something unique, something special has given life to that suffering. So I invite you to suspend your judgment and suspend your thoughts your beliefs of what pain and suffering might mean. And often the case is That we need to walk through. We need to move through the pain in order to experience the joy, the happiness, the peace that awaits us on the other side. There we go. Thank you for joining me on this video blog titled How your emotional wounds strengthen you.

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