If it is the case that behind every accusation there is a need. And if in case of strong or ridiculing accusations, what is not sufficiently aware of his or her needs, an accusation can be used in a useful way. For every accusation can be traced back to source the need. This tracing requires that one does not deny or reject the accusation, but leaves it standing. Instead of following an automated self defense reaction, one accepted as an accusation. The Career reproach is then the starting point of a short research journey.

Then in a huge step, it goes to the source of accusations The steps are first to make your approach second performer later demand insert to formulate the need. Let us look at these three steps in detail. Let us take up the recruits from the previous example. The first step is to formulate the accusation as a clear sentence. When asked for a sample, what are you accusing me? In the example the accusation is already put into one sentence question via division.

The second step is to formulate the expectation associated with the allegation. For example, when asked for this possible So, for me, it relates to like Tyra leaks. In the third step you ask about the motifs for the demand. For example, Even in lovesick mounish endless talk so far the need behind the accusation has been recognized in this case I say the accusation is concretized if one no look at the formulations in the scope, notice that there has been a change in the direction of the statements. accusation you demand I want you to need to pass of concretization runs from the accusation to demand to meet one could make the formula AGM accusation demand need now, this sequence of finesse messages can be refined by adding an S. This stands for state and the formula is then a D and s This results in a fourth step of concretization.

To this fourth step one would ask versus me to go to postman negate finish coat finish. This step two statement represents the endpoint of concretization. It doesn't go deeper than this. The perspective state then becomes the starting point of further communication. It goes without saying that communication becomes much more effective and satisfying if it does not start with reproaches. But with the communication of needs and states, then it is possible to find solid solution for the situation.