Let's come to the subject to the question of what actually isn't reproach and what makes a communication reproach. Because the broach is first and foremost overall statement addressed to someone for a statement to become approach, it needs to characteristics reproach is based on an observation. This is usually correct or real mainly it is a few imputation one can see that the other is doing something or refraining from doing something such an observation in this message would not be explosive in communication or it would be received with shrug of the shoulders. Hold it would remain would be the confirmation yes That's right. For an observation to become a reproach, it being must be made in a certain way. As the name implies, the statement is not shared, not handed out, but from an observation is thrown at the partners feed up in some poor guy whose ditch nonfunctioning, thrown at his head, too busy in fight at some token, which the student loan was slumped in front of his beer.
In this respect, the linguistic image of an approach is very appropriate and the German cover approaches called for vowels. In front throwing. This throwing takes place in more or less while tone accompanied by cleanses and body gestures, by the act of throwing things to others. The accuser expresses to perceive something in the person that does not suit him, and that he wants to change. A reproach can be formulated as an excuse. But it also can be expressed as a complaint.
You go to poker every Friday, you stand in front of the mirror for hours, whether the statement comes across as an excuse ation or a complaint. In any case, such accusation is directed against the behavior of the other. This leads to the definition of an accusation. reproach is an extra SAFE Act directed against the partner with the aim of changing the behavior of the other. In this respect, every accusation represents the 10th of manipulation. However, do not take the word accuracy or manipulation as valuation.
They are meant as descriptions. This description does not say anything about whether it is good or bad to make accusations or if they are justified or not. In any case reproaches are used extensively in relationships and apparently communication cannot do without reproaches even if they often have heavy destructive effects, accusations unfold the destructive potential which is all the more effective, the more intense they are. So, let us look at the different intensity levels of reproaches