For the exercises done, both partners must want to do it and do carry on the exercise. Otherwise Nothing good will come out of it. It is helpful to take half an hour or an hour to devote yourself to solving the destructive or recurring accusations. The appointment for the exercise must therefore be concrete and binding when at work time how long the practical instructions for using in criticizing accusations are simple. All you need is curiosity, openness and tenacity. The instructions are don't throw the reproach back.

Don't deny it, but catch it. Look at it and say oh, okay, bye is no use handling a whole bunch of accusations. The accusation must be formulated in one clear sentence. That is not always possible immediately, and so it is not right. If different accusations are made in the first minutes, standard comes to two spades are played on a swimsuit on its own. To pretend to tie onto fallacy a tube was filtered on its own to see Mallanna Hi.

If the accuser had the impression that he is done all of his accusations, you ask him or her What is the central reproach to Mr. malla Nana now the reproach is put in a clear sentence and Magnus can start with concretizing for this they take on fixed roles. Partner a as active gives inflammations and Partner B as companion asked. And you always ask Chris the same sentence, what do you want to say with that? And you ask in a friendly and interested tone and partner goes inside and consciously looks for the next answer. This is how it goes on. But let us first look at mistakes that can be made.

For example, partner be asked in an annoying or ironic or otherwise inappropriate tone. Oh, what do you want to say by that? Well, you want to say by that it is also a mistake, if partner a reacts impatiently because he's not getting anywhere and the moment I already said it, don't you listen. The structure of the exercise is simple, but descending into the inner emotional world, step by step requires concentration and readiness. So stay student in the example the two had already relief and demand. Let us continue at this point.

If you need us to head out of my hospital damansara on it's really off the heart and that's now let's face would have its own image of the falafel cannon was featured on its own newspaper stayed nice up good food was featured on its own a very basic Switzerland on its own, it's been done to typo and they have to hide us naturally ours. now boasts the need and the state in which the partner is is clear. legalize the foundation for good solution. The solution must take into account that the partners uncertainty and the partner must be prepared to accept the chief find it difficult to be in the state. This solution could something like this. Okay, you can take that uncertainty heart, I understand.

But what do you suggest? You know, I can't always be on time. I have patience and emergencies and I can just leave. But I don't want to hang in midair that long. You can text me and I wouldn't hear anything after 330 minutes. Then I go.

I tried to send you an SMS And if you haven't heard from me after 30 minutes, then you won't wait any longer you just do something for yourself deal deal. So much for this exercise. As I said it is very simple instruction, but it requires a spirit of research and patients to fulfill it correctly. Here's some more aids in case you get stuck. Other variations of the Christian are not useful in this SSRS Stay tuned. It will work.

I have described this exercise In such a way does that pose partner work together on it, but you can also do it alone. doing the exercise alone is recommended if somebody knows that he's prone to reproach or he's caring, Rubbo choosing, instead of waiting until the thing blows out of him, and he starts a fight, because his partner is annoyed by the constant detects and fights back or shuts down. He can ask himself the concretization Christian the question, what do I want to say by that? Particularly, you go to a quiet place where you understood and think about Christian announcers. It is even better to speak out both Christian and answer quietly. I also recommend that you print out the exercise sheet, which you will find in the accompanying materials.

And record the answer answers by writing. In the end, you will be clear about your needs and you say it and will be able to communicate this to your partner. In this way, you have a good starting point for exchange and to find a solution or easily