How to Decide Yes or No: Six Ways of Thinking about Any Problem

Take Back Control of Your Life: When and How to Say No The How of No - Here's the meat: how to say NO in lot's of situations.
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Transcript

In this lecture, I'm going to help you to make your decision yes or no. With lots of decision making tools. In fact, we're going to look at two different things. Firstly, I'm going to give you six tools to help you make those decisions. And secondly, I'll give you an idea of six different ways that we can think when we're making our decisions. Let's get started.

The next thing to think about is thinking and the different ways that we can think and how they apply to the decision making process. And the communist mode of thinking is what I call head thinking, where we sit down and we consider that last technique that we looked at scoring is very much a head thinking kind of approach. But we also need to think with our heart, heart thinking, think about how it affects you and the way that you will feel and how it affects others. The people and the way that they will feel that's a very relevant consideration. A third relevant consideration is what I call gut thinking, thinking with your instinct, your intuition. And gut thinking is particularly valuable in circumstances where you have a lot of relevant experience to bring to bear.

Because then your instincts and your intuitions tend to be very well honed. outside of your deep experience, however, your instincts can let you down. So if you're an experienced photographer, and you've been working with digital cameras for many, many years, when you're looking to buy a new camera, your intuition is going to be well honed, you will look at a camera and your gut instinct will probably be quite reliable as to whether this is going to be a good camera for you or not. If on the other hand, you're brand new into the skills and art of photography, you're buying your very first digital camera then you don't have that depth of experience, you are much better to rely on data and assessments by other people. Looking at cameras and having an intuition that this is going to be the one for you, is potentially quite unreliable.

The third style of thinking is what I call test thinking. And this is very, very powerful. It's the scientific method if you like, testing is about conducting experiments, trying out different options as much as you can. With the digital camera example. Of course, we're looking at perhaps boring one, taking it out, taking a few photographs, seeing what it's like. And of course, if you have friends who have pieces of equipment, then you have the ideal opportunity to do that.

Slow thinking is the fifth thinking style and slow thinking is also very powerful. It's one way to help your instincts, your gut instinct and gut think, to work effectively. Slow thinking is mulling a problem over letting your brain process the issues and the options in slow time. And we have that phrase, don't we? I'll just sleep on that. And that's exactly what slow thinking is about.

It's about letting the deeper accessing parts of your brain work on the problem while the conscious brain does something else. And finally, the sixth style of thinking is team thinking, getting together with other people, and sharing the decision with them. Now, what we know is that teams can make far better decisions than individuals, but only under certain specific circumstances. The most important of those circumstances is diversity of thinking. If you have a team that is diverse, has different experiences, different backgrounds, and if you respect each of those different experiences and bring them into the conversation, then the team can make a far better decision than you will on your own. If on the other hand, it's a team of people who have worked together for years, they will think the same because they've all had the same experiences that you need to shake that team up.

You need to find ways to access that deep inner diversity. But team thinking can give you a better decision, a better handle on yes or no. In this lecture, we've just seen six different ways of thinking that can help you to make your decisions. And we've looked at six powerful decision making tools. As we move into the next lecture, we're going to start our journey of understanding how to say no. And the next lecture, we'll look at how to make saying no easier

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