Oscar Wilde said, the only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it. But we can do better than that. Because we're becoming masters of saying no making a noble objection, including making a noble objection to temptation. So what can you do? Well, the first is to recognize that the best time of day to resist temptation is home today when your willpower as its greatest is early on in the day, and after you've eat. Because the willpower to resist temptation literally requires energy and effort.
And the tighter you are and the more hungry you are, the harder it is. So early on in the day after you've eaten your breakfast, that's a great time to resist temptation and to make a firm no To help motivate you think about the carrot and the stick the two extremes. Firstly, the stick. Avoid yielding to temptation by focusing on the adverse consequences, and really visualize what will happen if you do yield to it in negative terms. So for example, it's that temptation of that little cream cake. If you know that one will lead to a second and a third.
And having a cake today will lead to having a cake tomorrow, which will build a habit. Then visualize what that's going to do to you and to your life and to your health and to the people around them and stack all of that up. Do it for yourself and the best. Best way to do this is not to give yourself injunctions, this is what will happen. Don't do it. But ask yourself questions.
Recent research shows that asking people questions about the consequences of their behavior is far more powerful than getting them to reevaluate that behavior and then giving them instructions or telling them information. And on the carrot side, ask yourself what will be the beneficial advantages or not succumbing to the temptation? What will you get if you don't do it? And, again, picture the benefits to you of saying no. So, three tips for saying no to temptations, and the gorgeous treats and inducements that come along. Firstly, do it when your willpower is greatest when you're feeling alert, refreshed and properly fed.
Secondly, focus on the cost of you things temptation, and visualize what that cost will be to you personally. And so Thirdly, look at the benefits of not yielding and the virtues. See yourself having a bright future without yielding to the temptation. Was Oscar Wilde right? Well, of course, perhaps the most important thing in life is balance. A few desire directed choices, balanced with the correct focus on the goals you've chosen, that really matter.
That's what a good life a fulfilling life is.