Now let's talk about the psychology of breaking the ice and the psychology of approaching people. So the mindset that I have is that I think that people want me to approach them. For example, if I look at someone, and someone just looks at me, I would say, Oh, this person is looking at me because they want me to approach them. Instead of just saying, Oh, my God, should they approach this person? Is it the right time say, Oh, no, the person is looking at me, they want me to approach them. So it's the delusional confidence that I created.

That really gives me the rights and the ability to approach people easily. So it's the I want you mindset. The second one is about taking responsibility for your actions. It means that if you want to have better friends, it's your responsibility to dress act. Take action. No one will just come and say, Hey, this is a new friend for you.

You have to take action for your own life, if you're to create a good destiny for yourself, and really to create the social life that you want, you have to be an action taker. And you have to take responsibility. If you go to a bar to a place, and you're not meeting new people, it's your responsibility. Just go and approach people. Give yourself permission to approach people, and you will see that your life will become easier. You can also have the mindset of maybe the person is cool, maybe the person is great.

Maybe the person is awesome. So it means that when I will be looking at someone, I would just say, hey, maybe the person is cool. Maybe the person is awesome. Maybe the person is great, why not talking to them? And having this mindset of just showing my brain that, hey, maybe this person is great, why not talking to them? And you see here, I'm not focusing on what would happen if they reject me.

What would happen if I'm not good enough? What would happen if they say I'm a loser, I'm not focusing on that. I'm just putting myself in a great state and saying Oh, but maybe this person is great. So try that when you are out approaching people. The other advice I would like to share with you here is to have a friendly and warm vibe. Because the communication between two people 93% is non verbal, and only 7% is verbal.

It means that what you say is only 7%. And what most people do is that they don't really focus on the emotion that they are feeling. They just focus on what they say. So they will go in they will approach someone and even if they are depressed and sad inside, they will approach someone and then they will say I don't understand why it went badly. Whatever you feel the other person seals, so it's important that you have a friendly and warm one. How do you do that?

You just feel the emotions first in your body so that the person feels that it means that you want to access a memory when you felt friendly, a memory when you felt charismatic, for example, or memory where you felt warm, and you just close your eyes. And you visualize for two seconds, at a time when you felt create confidence, or warm or friendly. And then you would feel the emotions in your body and you will amplify them. And then then you will go in and you will approach people. You can try that with the opposite. Try to be depressed and sad right now.

Focus on something that's really sad. And then I'm focusing on something sad. I say Hi, my name is Alan. It says if I want to kill myself, I'd because I'm really depressed. So whatever You focus on is what you feel if you want to feel a feeling of friendliness and warmth, focus on times when you felt friendly and warm. And you can also ask yourself this question, how would a warm and friendly person behave, and then you behave like that.

Okay, so this is really a great advice here. The other advice I'd like to share with you here is to make the other person feel comfortable. When you approach someone that you don't know, your focus should be on adding value to the person's life, but also on making the other person feel comfortable. It means that if you see that the person is not really at ease. Try to see if it's because maybe you are too close. Or try to see if maybe you're a little bit too direct.

And maybe you just have to change the position of your body. Maybe your eye contact is too strong. Try to make the other person feel comfortable. Maybe you're asking questions that are a little bit To personal, try to find things that could really make the other person feel comfortable. And people will love you for that. Because most people never take care of how other people are feeling.

They just take care of themselves and they say, what do they say? Am I good enough and they are always focused on themselves. And now what I would like you to do is to really focus on the other person you say, is the other person comfortable with me. Okay, so, in the next video, I'm really excited because we'll be talking about the fear of approaching people. How can you remove the fear of approaching people so see in the next video