Welcome back to section two. In this section, we're going to talk about confidence and how your confidence will enable you or hinder you from accepting change in your life. So when we think about change, we understand that you need a lot of confidence in order to step out of your comfort zone and make change in your life. Confidence is an internal feeling that people have about their self worth and their self assurance that they can actually do something. And when you lack confidence in any aspect of your life, you're not sure if you can make the change that you need to make. And this can hold you back from taking that first step or second step towards making the change or, you know, attaining the goal that you're looking to obtain.
So in this section, we're going to talk about how we can focus on building your confidence and making it a lot easier for you to, to take that first step and get out of your comfort zone. So when we think about confidence, it's broken down into about seven items that I like to talk about. The first one is, the first part that you have to do when you're talking about your confidence is doing an assessment of yourself. Now, I've been through a lot of these different assessments in life. Every training that I've done on leadership or habits or building, you know, different programs that I that I've been in, they always ask you to do a self assessment to find out where you are on the wheel of life. And that's what we're really talking about here is, is the wheel of life is, you know, the five different areas of your life, whether that be physical, emotional, social, intellectual, or spiritual.
Those are the five spokes and out of you know, it's a self assessment that you do, where you determine online Scale of either zero to 10, or zero to five, Either one works, where you rate yourself on where you are in these different areas of your life. And usually there's an additional one in there that deals with money and finances. So you can have as many of these as you want, but you need the five core aspects of your life to be looked at. And to determine where you're at. Now, you're never going to have a complete circle of sevens or 10s, or even twos around that wheel of life because at different times of your life, you'll be higher and spiritual than what you will be in physical and you'll be higher and emotional than you are intelligence. at some times, when you're working really hard and focusing on finances, your social life may wane a little bit, so you'll never going to be 100% circular, but you need to assess where you are today.
And when you're contemplating change Where you have to make changes, to facilitate those changes that you are where you want to make change in those aspects to obtain the goals that you want to obtain. So that's the way that that is used. And, you know, it's a very simple but detailed self assessment that you can do to find out where you are right now. The next item is, it's about your comfort zone. Now, humans tend to remain in their comfort zone, majority of people will stay in their comfort zone because they understand it, because it's not challenging. And they get to, you know, ride along and do a little bit of effort, but not a whole lot of effort to go through their life.
And some people are comfortable with that, and hey, that's great. But for people that want to make change, or go after important goals in their lives, that's when you need to be able to get out of your comfort zone. So the way that I use the comfort zone is to rest and relax. So you can get into your comfort zone at certain periods of the year or even in the day. But in other times, you've got to be pushing out beyond your comfort zone, in order to make change in your life. You don't want to stay in their comfort zone for very long because as you do, you become stagnant and it becomes easier and easier to remain in that comfort zone.
So you need to consistently and routinely push yourself to change and inspire for a goal or something else in your life that you can strive for. Once you've done that, or in the same at the same time, you want to look at the goal that you want or that change you want to make. And then look at your self assessment and your comfort zone and determine how far away are you how far do you need to change to reach that goal, or that change in life that Want to obtain. So it's very, very important as one of the primary steps towards you know, reaching a goal or making a positive change in your life that you realize you need to change in order to obtain that goal. And that requires growth. It requires a growth mindset where you're willing to take those steps that you need to, to get out of your comfort zone, to elevate one of your levels of, of aspects in your life, whether that be physical or mental.
If you're going to do weight loss, for example, if that's your goal, or you want to make a change in your life where you lose weight, you both need to get physical and intellectual, and even emotional. And you may also have to have some social in that change in order to make it successful and long lasting. So that's where you use those three. Once you've determined that you need to make sure that you you're open to that to that change in making the necessary steps and the action plans to reach that goal. So you need to be open. You have a lot of negative programming in your mind, right from childhood.
Most of us have negative programming that we're putting, you know, by our parents, by our grandparents, by our social people around us. were being in the comfort zone was easier and better. And, you know, most of most people would have had parents who said, you know, take this course so you can get this job and retire after 45 years. Well, those things no longer happen in this in this world that we live in today. And, you know, we have to think about change more often. We're not going to, you know, graduate from university and go into a job where we're going to remain stagnant on an assembly line for the next 40 years.
That's that's not the way the world's working today. So you need to make sure you're open to the changes that need to come from within you, so that you can make the necessary changes in your life to reach the goal that you're seeking. One of the other things that you need to do is do a cost analysis for the change that you want to make. And when I say a cost analysis, it's not all about money, it can also be about the effort that you need to put into it, the cost of the effort, there may be a cost associated with the people around you and your social standing with people. These are all costs that tend to when we look at them, they tend to hold us back. And, you know, keep us in that comfort zone.
Because if you think that it's going to cost money to do something to make the change, you can be reluctant. If you think that if you grow and the people around, you are not growing, that you're going to have to find new friends, then that can also be a cost. And you have to weigh those costs against the goal that you want to achieve and the change that you want to make. So you need to do a cost benefit analysis. have the potential change and find out if you're comfortable with, you know, starting in that direction to make that change. And see what happens when you when you do that.
You never want to be changing for a negative purpose, you always want to be changing for the better. Now, this means that we're always trying to improve ourselves. We're not trying to regress and move backwards in life, we need to always be pushing forward in a positive manner, always looking for a step up versus a step back. So you need to make sure that if you're going after change, that it has positive connotation in your mind. Because if it doesn't have a positive connotation in your mind, you're going to sabotage yourself and push back from making that change subconsciously. Now the next thing is change or control.
Do you want to be in control of your life and the status quo? Are you willing to accept that there'll be conflict between where you are today and where you need to be? And that will bring you outside of your normal control in your life. And that's what changes. It's stepping outside of where you're comfortable where you're in control, and making the move forward to a different place that's a positive place in your life. The last step in confidences, it's between internal and external change.
Unfortunately, many people get impacted by external change, such as a job loss, a failed marriage, or financial problems, where they're impacted by something external. And they might not have any control in that. So they're forced into change and that can be very stressful. It's better than if you can internalize the change that you need to make prior to an external changed and implemented on you. So if you can change in your mind and purpose Hire yourself prior to any change, then you'll be much better off. And that could, you know, it's difficult to do.
Let me stress that because, you know, if you're working in a job 40 hours a week, do you want to be spending another 10 hours a week on training that will make you more attracted to a new job? Should you lose the current one? We don't most people don't look at life that way. They think, well, I've got a job now and I'm comfortable with that. So, you know, I might as well with the boys or girls or the girls have a few drinks tonight. When you're thinking proactively, and thinking about internal change, you're thinking, you know, what, can I change in myself to make me a better person and more attractive to whatever it is that you want to change into whether that's attractive as an employee or attractive as, you know, in in some other aspect of social life.
So when we look at confidence, you know, There are action plans that we can build around that. And we'll talk about those now. So we understand that the first thing we have to do is assess our current skills, our current capacity within ourselves and how confident we are to making a change. So that's the first step, then you have to look at your motivation to make change. Do you have the drive to continue on and take action steps towards your change? Are there opportunities for you to grow personally?
You know, can you learn to perform new tasks and activities to make yourself move forward in a positive manner towards your goal or change that you want to make? So these are all questions that you need to ask yourself when you're looking at your confidence level towards making change. So I suggest in action step number one for this section. Why do you think you You have not already made the change that you want. And write this down. You know, what's holding you back currently from making the change that you're looking to to make today?
You know, what is stopping you from making that change? Is it fear of loss, security and the status quo? Write down, you know why you're not making the change, you know, what's stopping you? And then try to identify in this action step. What is holding you back? Is it loss, fear of loss security?
Is it the status quo or, you know, just staying in your comfort zone, write it down on a piece of paper or on this document if you printed this out, and that will help you determine where you need to work. So then, once you've done that, you should take action step number two, which is list some information, skills or training that you can undertake to support your desire to make change in your life. So look at