Now let's talk about the fear of what people would think of us. So I believe we cannot stop caring about what people think of us, because it's something that is ingrained in our brain to protect us. But the problem is that when this fear of what people think of us, dictates our behavior, and we are not ourselves, and we don't take actions based on what we truly want, and based on who we truly are, and that can become a problem. So this is what we've talked about here is how you can be a little bit more yourself and take, take less into account about what people would think of you. So people who are always asking themselves the question, what do people think of me, they're not living their life. They're not living the true life and who they are.

They are adapting to the environment, to other people's expectations, and they're always trying to be liked by everyone around them. A long time ago, I wanted everyone to like me, and I was always worried about what people would think of me So I love playing tennis. And I will tell people hey, yeah, I love playing tennis. It's awesome. And people would say, Oh, no tennis is awful bad, or do you like playing tennis? I would say, No, I don't.

I was adapting quite was just to please people. I was so worried about what they would think of me that I was adapting to everyone. And what ends up happening is that I had no personality, and no one respected me. And even no one liked me because they knew that was there was something off about me. So I know, it's maybe an extreme example. But for you, maybe you're doing that to a certain extent.

Maybe at work, you are adapting who you are just to please people or you are saying things because you are afraid of what people think of you. And at that time, I had a great friend, and he came to me and he talked about the study that in Australia and their state. So her name is Bronwyn, and she took care of people just before he died and she asked a simple question. The question was, what is your biggest regret in life? And you know what almost all of them said. They said, I regret, I didn't have the courage to live a life according to who I was.

Instead, I lived the life according to other people's expectations. And when I learned that, like, Oh my god, I don't want to be the person at the end of my life with regrets. And it really hit me. You know what I mean? It was really, really intense for me. So I don't want you to have the regrets of Oh my God, I lived my life according to other people's expectations.

So I'd like you to ask yourself this question. What do you like? What are your passions? What are your interests? What do you want out of life? Who do you want to become?

If you don't answer these questions, or the people who will answer for from for you. So it's important that you take time right now, after design training, to really think about your dreams, your aspirations, who you want to become. If you don't do it People will tell you what to do, will tell you who you can become. You can just imagine that you have a book in front of you. And this book is who you are your dreams, your aspirations, your interest, your passions. If this book is blank, someone can come and write something in it.

But if it's already full, like you have written everything in your book, there is no place for the people to tell you what to do and who to become. So it's something that I did. And that really helped me with the fact that I don't want to have regrets at the end of my life. So I'm acting always based on who I want to become, and what are the things that I want to do with my life? Let's say that, for example, you don't know what you want to do with your life. Go with what feels right to you.

What deep inside you you want to do. Don't follow the other people's advice or expectations. Don't ask yourself this question. What would my parents want me to do? What would my girlfriend boyfriend wants me to do? Because that's your life.

It's important that you really, truly listen to your No voice that is inside you, let me tell you why worrying about what people will think of you is just an illusion, we think that we can control 100% of the interaction. So it means that I can control what we think of me. But that's not the case. Because I don't control 100% of the interaction, I control only 50%. Any control you are there 50% of the interaction. So I can only control my 50%.

And my 50% is how I express myself. So I don't control how you react. Tonight, I could go to a bar and compliment a woman. And one woman can say, Oh my God, that's amazing. You are so sweet. And the other person can say go away.

I don't control the other person's reaction. I control my reaction. I control how I express myself. So yes, there are things that I would do, I would say that we get better results. But here we are really talking about finding out what you want to do with your life, your passions, your interests, who you want. To become, and then you express yourself freely with the world.

And some people will like you, and some people won't. But who cares? At the end, it's your life. And if you want to be at the end of your life without regrets, it's important that you think about who you want to become, and why and what you want to have in your life and what you want to accomplish. And then you express that and what happens happens. Some people will like you, you cannot please everyone.

Most people try to please everyone you can't. It's good. If you have people who don't like you, it means that you are doing something that is true to yourself. If you have too many people liking you right now, it's maybe because you're adapting too much to their expectations and to what other people want a few instead of what you truly want to become more comfortable with what people would think of you. I would like you to assume the best in people to see the best in people and not to assume the worst. Let's say that you walk down the street and then there's a natural attractive woman or man who looks at you, and who smile?

If you're always worried, oh my god, what would this person think of me, you may think that this person is making fun of you. But why don't you assume the best and say, Oh, this person smile because the person thinks that I'm attractive. It's not about the perception that you have in your brain. And we tend to think more negatively than positively when we are worried about what people would think of us. It's just to protect us. So when you go out and you do something, and you are worried, instead of saying, Oh, my God with this person, see that my shirt is awful.

Instead say, hey, maybe this person Luke, because the person like this shirt. It's thought about sensing the perception that you have in your brain. So to master the game of what people would think of me. I highly encourage you to value more who you are your dreams, your aspiration, rather than other people's expectations. And if you do that you will live a happy and fulfilling life.