Most people fear rejection or failure, for example, because they think that if they are rejected or if they fail, they will be unloved. And they think that love is conditional. It means that people they care about, we love them. And if they succeed, and they don't want to be enough, so they don't want to be rejected, because they they think that love is conditional. But love is not conditional love is unconditional. And I would like to illustrate that with something that a woman showed me in Brazil.

The woman said, Hey, I love you are thinking that love is conditional. You think that you do that you get love, or you do that and you lose love. And he said, No, that's not how it works. I would like you to imagine that you have a small key in your your heart. And when you approach someone or when you talk to someone, the other person has a lock in their heart. Immediately when you start talking, when you interact with the person, when you're around that person, this key goes to the into the lock.

It means that you already get love. It's love is unconditional, no matter what you do, you get love. And some people will say, No, no, no. But if I do that, and I fail, especially won't love me. And most of the of the time, they say they won't love you. But we still love you anymore.

So they will still love you. I'm not saying to do something awful, and to hurt the other person. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking that sometimes you can take actions. And I would like you to imagine that. love is unconditional.

So you are already connected in love with the other person. So no matter if you succeed or you fail, the love won't change with the other person because it's already unconditional. So some people will fear rejection because they don't want to appear bad. In front of other people, or it's because they tie their self worth to rejection. For example, if I approach an investor, and they reject my project, does it mean I'm worthless? The investor didn't reject me, he rejected my project or my idea.

So it's really important distinction here. Most people don't reject you, they reject the way you approach them, or they reject your actions or what you said or what you did. It's not yourself, it's not you that they reject. I would like you not to take rejection, personally. Because sometimes someone can reject you. And it's not your fault.

You did everything. Well, they see that there is Brad Pitt or George Clooney, who goes to a bar or goes to a place and he gets rejected. It can happen. Why? It's because again, you only control 50% of the interaction. You don't control what's happening in their world.

It means that if I approach someone if I take any action, and the person rejects me, maybe the person has a terrible day Maybe someone died, or maybe something awful happened and don't want don't want to talk to anyone right now. It's not my fault. I did everything right. But it's just that the situation, or what was happening in their life was not good. So, I would like you to stop taking rejection personally. Because most people are afraid.

And they say, Oh my god, I will approach this person. If the person rejects me, I'm a loser, I'm a failure. Maybe it's not your fault. Maybe it's not your fault. And it isn't even if the person rejects you. And you see that there are many people who reject you, who reject you, when you do the same thing.

Maybe it's time to get feedback so that you can improve what you do. So rejection is not always bad. Rejection can be also great because it can make you save time and energy. If you approach that person, the person rejects you right away. Maybe you were not meant to be personally or professionally. Maybe it's good I know it hurts because sometimes he wants to be accepted.

He wants to be liked. But sometimes rejection is great. You cannot be liked by everyone. You can't. So be comfortable with that. Be comfortable with the fact that in your day to day life, people reject you will reject you.

That's part of life. That's part of life. And by being rejected, you won't be in love because remember, love is unconditional.