Let's look at two of them in a bit more detail over the meeting others without conscious knowing or attempt, that's pretty typical one for the oldest, we know that they easily apply their mighty leadership power to achieve their noble goals. Yet in the process of doing that, they all alienate other people who support the need, because they are perceived by those people as being dominant as being a dictator, maybe even tyrant. So as a result of all this, To their surprise, facing unnecessary resistance and arguments, and that's the classic blind spot because oldest are not aware how their intense powerful behavior that they turn on automatically impacts perception by all the people in my archives, I follow this Thought video that vividly illustrates this point. Take a look about traits of the firstborn. Let's go down the list, they tend to take charge, do you tend to take charge?
Obviously, we heard that from you. Yes. You may find this other people may call this pushy or low controlling. Yes. Right. Is that true?
Yes. He blushed. We knew that was correct. Do you find yourself to be usually competitive? Very, very much. So you have definite ideas about how things should be done.
Sometimes not competitive, and sometimes we should wish to check with their spouses, they would say definitely. Do you have problems participating in a group without dominating it? Yes. Yeah, I would say that's a big problem of mine, too. I have to make myself participate without taking over things. Do you know?
Oh, oh. Really? I have a feeling that you do. You get in a group and you become the leader in the group. That's how you drink so ask my friends over there. I don't know.
Doesn't she do that friends? Well, yeah. As you saw in this short video, the oldest thing honestly does not know how they come off. And that's how blind spot looks like adding insult to injury for the oldest, the recent research studies show that early born children, they have higher IQ. So your message is could be very much correct it just the way how you delay with the message that's what causes problems, defensiveness arguments, resistance from others. So now if you are both in life with all this, what can you do?
If you have your brilliant idea, do not rush first maybe ask others about their opinions. Listen to them acknowledge their opinion. Yes. After they're in assault. Voice managing your power managing intensity. Offer your good thought.
And you will be surprised how much your colleagues your friends, your loved ones will collaborate with your Maestro willingly.