Hello, everyone in today's session I would like to cover perhaps the most interesting topic. We all seek happiness, emotional support, and allowing the relationship. So we'll talk today at length, not so much in details, but some principles which governs the laws of happiness. How to Increase emotion Intelligence and better relationships. We start this session with a quote from German philosophers, Southern Haifa. He asked, How can we determine whether a man is happy or unhappy?
He defines happiness as the complete satisfaction of all desires. Is it possible you could say that the happiness of a person can be described mathematically known those lighter moments, this equation came as an inspiration. Like if all the desires are fulfilled, let's say you had 10 desires. And out of these 10 desires, all 10 desires are fulfilled. That means 10 divided by 10 times hundred It'd be 100% happiness, isn't it? Let's see if out of 10 only five are fulfilled then it would be 50%.
But think of an individual who says, He has no desires, the total number will be zero. So what would happen to this equation happiness is equal to desires fulfilled, divided by total number of desires. By total number of desires tend to be zero. Anything you divide by zero remains indeterminant factor. earlier days we used to call it as infinite. in a desireless state.
We don't expect anything. When you don't expect anything. We don't manipulate others Why would I have to even manipulate or think about having a better relationship for example, for the sake of my happiness or for the sake of fulfilling my desires, in that case, my happiness is dependent on outside. I will fail in my life if I constantly all through depend on others. Human Evolution is all about self dependency. Though we interact in the society with a lot of low we support each at that emotional level.
Higher the emotional intelligence the person is considered to be more empathetic in nature is more considered it is more compassionate and who can be more compassionate Can a heart which is discontent can be compassionate. When you expect nothing. You accept everything. Is it possible in a certain state no matter what happens around us, when we realize that something is beyond me, I'm pushed into a certain situation, that I have no other choice but to accept that scenario. That's a good situation. Though.
It can bring about a lot of turbulence and turmoils in life. But accepting whatever the situation helps us. Suppose you don't accept certain thing that has happened in family and you go on fighting, what do you learn out of this? But moment we learn things wisely. We accept the because your heart says because your heart fills that low. Low makes us forget all kinds of defects in others.
And it is out of this low that acceptance emerges out of compassion. How one displays in an emotional state our experiences so that when you're angry that's a moment when we lose this inner emotional balance That happiness seems to simply disappear in feet of anger. And when does anger appear in the heart, when certain things are happening against your will or against your desire. So, such disappointment leads to anger. Anger makes us lose our balance. And once we lose our mental equilibrium, somehow we lose our humanity because humanity, that human nature, human character, it is all about humaneness which arises from the heart.
And third, it is in a state of anger because a small desire was not fulfilled. Then it speaks a lot about our nature. We need to change that in our nature, so that we Remain in a position to accept things. If one wants to have infinite happiness, infinite bliss, then we ought to minimize numbers of desires. For more and more of it to less and less, and finally possible to zero, make peace with yourself. When you go and expecting things in your relationship from the other, what happens when the expectation is not fulfilled, we think less of the other person over a period of time, this relationship somehow it's strained simply out of this expectation.
How do we apply a scientific principle in this relationship? Let's consider the aspect of entropy in physics and physics entropy is the degree of disorder or randomness in in in the system. The second law of thermodynamics says that entropy increases with time. It reflects the instability of a system over the period of time, if there's nothing to stabilize it. When you enter the room of your son or daughter who is just five, six years old, 10 years old, you bring one toy you bring second by bring third by. Books are laying everywhere.
What happens if there is no help from our Say as parents to fix this, give the boys in the right places give the clothes in right places put books in proper places. Some effort is required to make the place neat and clean. Somebody has to do it. external input is required to fix things in order. In human relationships, entropy also develops if there is nothing to bring order to it. We have interactions day after day, and we let things build up inside us.
We keep harboring things and one day we explored unless we do something about it. We need input to stabilize any relationship to iron out the wrinkles or differences. So that we don't harbor and store things forever. But we really need constant input to bring stability and maintain a relationship. That would be a high maintenance relationship that you have to feel so much easier to make adjustment all the time. When constant input is required, every time there's a fight or tension with a friend or family member, you will require little input each time.
Images you come late at home and you justify to your spouse, Honey, I'm sorry I had stuck somewhere because whatever. Second time it happens third time it happens. And we had to go on saying what were the reasons but in truth relationships, he just mentioned what has happened. And that is enough there is no defense but only description of what of what has happened. In the family if you have to tolerate each other, then constant input is required. In situation really hard to give constant emotional input.
It is a broken family, even though you may be together. In true relationship, it is not the tolerance that rules the life, but acceptance of each other, which is arising out of low ritual. in such a state of love. Well, things are taken for granted. Don't need explanations. You don't have to speak lies.
You don't need to manipulate any reasons So it is the low that you have in your heart. That is the input that stabilizes relationships. Low brings a greater level of acceptance. From well does this low come from a pure heart from a truthful, genuine heart? in families, where we are taught, to low to sacrifice to accept, doesn't mean you're able to let go of everything. We can remove the incompatibility by understanding this principle of entropy.
When heart is addressed, our discontent part is in low. It doesn't question anything doesn't demand anything. Suppose you don't accept certain situation, then what happens? There is a problem that this situation and you say, No, I will not accept this situation, right. There's another way of looking at it then you say okay, let me see, suppose I accept the situation, then you will study the situation, why you are accepting it. Secondly, you will learn something out of the situation.
But, if you snap out and say, I will not accept this, then it will not be able to study the situation and secondly, you will not learn anything out of this you will not become wiser and on top of that, you will strain the relationship. So, to ally with such a state of the heart which accepts which loads which remains constant in the state of compassion This is possible only when I go deep within my heart. That's the real conscience. Feel that real conscience all the time all of that conscience to rule our life when one can sense all these differences within oneself as well as within friends and family circles then there is this beauty to such a life. key is to go deeper within your consciousness and that's the pure conscience the help of transmission you'll get transmission recall Prouty, meditation becomes deeper and deeper each time we practice it.
So, Whatever we learn out of this, the key to happiness is to remain in tune with inner purity with our inner, compassionate state, in the chambers of the pure heart. And when we remain pure and innocent like little children, then magical thing happens. No one claims to go to heaven. The religion religions talk about our essence and into heaven. But such a heart for the simple and pure heart loving heart when it is made so heavens descend. We don't have to go to heaven.
Heaven itself descends into our heart. They joy all the time. Hi. I wish you all a wonderful life ahead. joyful, peaceful and most accomplished life in all spheres. Thank you for listening.
This played for seven days, this few elements of this heartfulness practice and see what happens when it's relaxation. Second is meditation. Third is cleaning. And fourth is about how to connect with your inner source, how to connect with ultimate. We have this app called let's meditate, you can download that on your phone. We also have hotspots all throughout the world where you can have trainers you can take the help of trainers.
These trainers will not charge anything to learn. You can go to their place of meditation and have group meditation as well or individual meditation. To have individual meditation until this at a deeper level. In just a few months of such a training, I think life can change drastically.