Now it's time to put it all together on a piece of paper, I want you to have a simple, simple outline, a cheat sheet that really focuses on these handful of points. The big strengths, you want to cover the big traits that you want to talk about in this person. And then a story for each one and a couple of words to remind you of the story. I want you to end up with just a simple sheet of paper. It could be this small. Ideally, you can fit it bent over like that, or maybe even like this, but you don't want to do is get up to whatever venue where the eulogy is and pull out like 10 sheets of paper and start reading and that is about as personal as an annual board meeting.

An accounting firm, it just doesn't seem personal. It doesn't seem authentic. Frankly, doesn't seem respectful to the person who passed you again, you're not there to do the official biography of this person for the ages, you're there to help the grieving process to have a send off to put a spotlight on the wonderful traits about this person that everyone will now Miss. So again, I would recommend a cheat sheet make the font a large, so that you don't have to stop and put on glasses make it very large, because let's face it, you may be misty eyed, you're wearing contacts or glasses, it may be harder to see. That's why you want a nice, clean, simple outline, that you can just glance down whether using a lectern, a table, or even if you have to hold it, have it on a single sheet of paper that doesn't take up any more space than this.

Even if you're going to talk for 20 minutes. You should be able to fit in Your main bullet points a couple words to remind you of those traits and those stories. It should all fit on a single piece of paper if you can't fit it on a single sheet of paper. You haven't really done your homework yet of editing down to what's most important. So come up with your notes right now.