Hello and welcome. This is Dena Marie and welcome to Module Two of the client attraction zone to getting clients with confidence program. Did we first check in with you and see how you doing? What realizations or highs have come up for you? Did you become aware of connecting the dots of how you grade your world? In this module we are focusing on self worth the value of you.

Yeah. So this is a subject a touchy subject, by the fact that you are doing this program to give a boost in your confidence to getting clients shows self doubt to some extent. If you find that you are holding yourself back procrastinating when thinking of approaching clients, not being able to articulate with confidence what you do or speaks up self doubt, doubt about your value. fear that you are not good enough and not deserving. thinking you are a fraud because you haven't done everything yourself that you promise your client. Sounds familiar.

This happens when you measure yourself work in terms of what you do or not do, have or not have, or other people's opinion. You become aware of this when you compare yourself to others, others who have accomplished so much more, they have degrees certifications, and are so much more successful than you. And you're thinking, who am I? What can I contribute in comparison with that? I'm just not good enough. I'll never get there.

Why bother? When you stay small, you will feel like a fraud and fear that you will get exposed or measured and found to be not good enough. That's what happens when we compare ourselves to others. We are always better or worse off. As this the writer said, we forget that successful coaches, speakers, healers all started we everybody starts. This comparing ourselves with others starts in childhood, parents unknowingly cultivate the culture of performance and competition.

It starts with a child getting praised when doing something that pleases the parents and reprimanded for not pleasing the parents. This is then propagated further by teachers with the child is rewarded for performing well and reprimanded punished, humiliated, very cold or ignored. We not performing according to that expectations of teachers and parents. Children learn that in order to be accepted, approved of and loved, the need to perform and please others. So many of my clients, including myself, have suffered some trauma, damage some trauma and damage at the hands of parents and teachers. We nothing was ever good enough.

We're a mistake made punishment. here then children learn to compare and compete and measure the value accordingly and most often found themselves least there. What actually happens here is the confusion, of self worth and self confidence, confusing your human being and human doing. for human being refers to you as a spiritual being as an expression of source and therefore your value, your worth is a given and unconditional. your self confidence on the other hand is all about everything external to you. Your talents, your skills or coaching of building a business certifications, titles, house, golf, family, relationships, clients things, everything that you do and have you grow your skills, you buy different houses and costs.

Some people will like you and this might not. Let's zoom into your self confidence now and especially looking at your skills in terms of your niche. Think of clients that you have worked with, or your ideal clients and imagine working with him. What are you good at gifts, skills, talents and strengths. What value do you bring to your clients? How do your clients benefit working with you?

Take your time. Often we get amnesia about how our clients benefit from working with us. Right now down everything, pause the video now and do this exercise on page five. And now appreciate how your skills have grown. How you have gotten better and better at what you do. And the more you practice your skills, the more they get better and continuously evolve.

The thing is that all of this is changing continuously, even you so the problem arises when you condition yourself worth upon anything because then yourself With his on a roller coaster, why, in actual fact, there is no comparison necessary because we are all on our own unique spiritual journey and it is for us to accept where we are now. That is exactly where we need to be. And what we are doing next is a process to separate your being from your doing that you can repeat as a ritual. Before we start if you have suffered trauma as a child, they look out for my program reset your destiny. The process we are doing now is is semi meditation. So put down your pain and paper for a minute.

Sit back. Take a deep breath. As you breathe out, close your eyes and relax Take another deep breath in and out. Think about something small and simple that that you accept. Just accept, like the traffic or the rain, taking out the trash. You don't need to contain it you just accept it.

Now as you feel that acceptance for your body what can you accept about yourself and feel that acceptance about that? Why can you accept about your life, the cards that live dealt you, your business, your health, and feel acceptance about that. Now, think about something that you appreciate. It fills your body with appreciation. Like you family or a pet. And now feel that appreciation over what you can appreciate about yourself, your skills, your talents, what you can do, what you have your reputation.

What do you appreciate about your life, your business, your health, etc. and feel that appreciation about that. Now think about something that you are in all at the most magnificent sunset and feel that all about you as a spiritual being. As a creation of God. You just is you don't have to do Anything you are magnificent as you are. As you feel that all about you, what else can you just accept about yourself?

And what else can you appreciate about yourself? Feel that all about yourself a guy. just become aware of where you are. And when you are ready, open your eyes. How was that for you? For me, this is always so liberating.

The realization of my self worth is not on the line ever. It opens up permission to make mistakes. Grow up because your self worth stays intact and you have permission to learn from mistakes, the joy of being gloriously fallible. Look at this next question and it makes it a no brainer to answer. What is more important, getting your work out there to grow your audience who need your help and who is looking for you are not making a mistake looking the best appear as perfect compared to others. Because this thing leads to other nasty habits that we will look at in the next module.

I just want to take another look at the human being of us. Your human being is separate from your human Doing, your being is unconditional. Yet you're being drives you're doing. You're being is the combination of your values, beliefs, intentions, etc. If you embrace your self worth, you're being as unconditional, then you're doing will be to enjoy the journey to realize that everything is a process to realize that your work is not about you. And your intention is to make a difference.

If you condition yourself worth upon what you do and have and other people's approval, in that being really striving you're doing will experience self doubt. compare yourself to others and see yourself as not good enough unworthy, experienced the fear of not being good enough and beat yourself up. Here's the next exercise in your workbook. to test whether you see your value as intact is to ask, what does it mean to you to fail? What does it mean to you to make mistakes? What does it say about you when you fail?

Or make mistakes? Pause the video and do the exercise. If the answer is I'm a failure. I'm a bad coach. I'm a bad healer. When you use I am a language you identify with it.

That's how you see yourself. That's how you create your world according to that identity. If you also do the question, what does it say about you failing or making mistakes is it is not About Me, it speaks about the situation, then your value is intact. If a client says no, then it's not about them. It's not about you, it's just not your ideal client, or they're just not ready. The moment is not about your value, then it's not about you.

It is about the doing the heading for about others. This removes the emotion of self doubt and self contempt. Because the meaning has changed. To not about you anymore. But that opens up is to look for answers and how to do things differently. It opens up new emotions, such as curiosity, exploration, creativity.

If there is no more self doubt Then it becomes exciting to make invitations to your audience and sharing what you do with him. What does this say about your value? How does this add to your new story? Now put yourself in your clients position. And now looking at you. Would you now work with you?

Would you now trust you? Where is this now on a scale of one to 10? How is that for you? What did you become aware of? What realizations or hearts or questions do you have? Write them down.

Your whole play is to activate your unconditional self worth every day for the next 30 days, together with your power zone and to integrate it as As part of your being as possible for that you have the audio to activate your unconditional self worth pattern designed by Dr. l. maka who have neuro semantics. I also call it your super power number to reveal the jewel of you. Continue to activate your responsibility bubble. And then revisit and expand your story of before to see if there was anything you missed. That you want to create the opposite of in the news story that you want, of who you want to be and what you want. Read your new story of who you want to be to yourself.

See it, feel it and embody it. Before we go, what are you taking away See you in The next module and go and have an awesome day.