Do you ever find yourself at a lack for words when anger hijacks your brain? Do you beat yourself up with what it could have should have statements about what you should have said? Maybe what you're seeing is festivity or a missed opportunity for self defense could be reframed as the hidden blessing of non reactivity. How many times have you put your foot in your mouth and wish that you could take back your words? The introverts have an advantage in this department because they tend to deliberate on their thoughts and feelings before they verbalize them. Whereas extroverts are sometimes accused of not having an unexpressed thought the ability to think before you speak is a real asset.

In many times a relationship saver. Developing non reactivity actually gives you time to think things through and in the long run, make more thoughtful decisions. Since your closest relationship in this lifetime is with yourself, it makes a lot of sense to consult yourself first, make yourself the CEO of your communications. Gentle tongue is the tree of life but perverseness in it breaks the spirit. Proverbs chapter 15 verse four