The ups, downs, twists, turns, and surprises of a rollercoaster ride happen when divorcing a narcissist. By generating an air of uncertainty, the narcissist can remain in control. And it is all about control for the narcissist.

I love you. I hate you. This twist is done to appeal to your emotional side. By reminding you of their love at one time, the narcissist is generating feelings of nostalgia. The “I hate you” is an intentionally hurtful slam.

You can have it all. You can have nothing. In a desperate plea to play the victim, the narcissist will claim that you can have everything. But secretly to their attorney, they say they won’t give a dime.

I want this to be over. It’s never going to be over. To the attorney, mediator, judge, and friends, the narcissist claims they want this to be over. But in reality, even after divorce, the narcissist finds ways to keep some measure of control over you.

You will never see me again. You are always going to be mine. The threat of abandonment is done to get you to say that you want the narcissist in your life. As soon as that is communicated, the narcissist begins to say that even after divorce you will always be theirs.