Hello friends. The next edited we will explore is acceptance. The humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers has emphasized that we need to show three traits if we want to help others to grow, acceptance, empathy, and congruence or authenticity. When someone feels judged or criticized or pressured to change, the natural reaction is to become defensive. Then the person is so busy defending himself that he lacks into his negative conduct and blocks his own growth. he avoids sharing his ideas in order to avoid possible criticism.

Rather, he limits himself to superficial comments and routine contracts that are not risky. He doubts his own abilities. He also tends to isolate himself or hide his actions from others in order to avoid criticism. He further avoids taking creative initiatives, out of fear of committing errors. However, when a person feels accepted, the need to defend themselves disappears. Acceptance gives the person competence to explore his perception of himself, his relationships with others, his way of acting, and his ideas about any subject.

He can then experiment with changes and open himself up to growth. He no longer fears making mistakes, because he recognizes that errors are a natural part of growth and learning. And he has confidence that he won't be criticized or punished for them. Acceptance does not imply agreeing with someone. Often we find it hard to accept the person with whom we disagree, because we feel that acceptance implies agreement. However, we can disagree with someone and still accept them.

We do so by demonstrating that we understand and respect his ideas. Often, we communicate this by summarizing what he has said, perhaps beginning with the phrase, if I have understood correctly, you, we could end by asking if we have summarized his idea correctly, and giving him the opportunity to clarify any errors in our summary. Then we can ask him to do the same with us as we express our ideas. In brief, we show acceptance by showing interest in the person and his ideas, listening to what he has to say with empathy and without interrupting and inviting and encouraging his participation. As a result, the person concludes that he is valued, feels more confidence in expressing his own ideas and doubts and usually becomes more flexible, open to our ideas and willing to collaborate.