Hi, this is Ron Huxley. Would you like to just feel safe because many people who go through trauma or have anxiety or depression, they just don't feel very safe. A lot of this has to do with the fact that many of us have gone through child abuse, neglect abandonment, we've walked a very orphan sort of existence, even if we had parents in our lives while those parents were not always healthy people. And so we've never really experienced what it means to be safe. Well, I want to teach you a technique called the safe place. technique.

This is a very psycho sensory approach, much like the butterfly hug or the karate chop that I've taught you in a couple other videos. This technique it was originally designed by Dr. Ronald Rubin, who is a heart organic chemist and he developed this technique that would allow us to feel safe and secure. The technique is he originated It was called the have any technique happening actually refers to a haven or literally a place of safety or rest. And because so many of us have gone through anxiety depression as a result of traumas throughout our life. I've reframed this to be called the safe place technique. Safe Place is a concept that came by dr. john Bowlby back in the 50s.

He's the originator of the ideas of attachment, a father of attachment he's called and he learned that a small child needs to have a safe place, ie a guardian, a parent Whom they can feel secure and attached to, what's that child does feel safe and secure, it can then go on to explore the world. The child may encounter difficulty to travel down the road and they would come back to that guardian or that parent who they feel attached to. And that was what he referred to as a safe haven. Children who had a secure attachment went into the world were able to learn able to explore it, and then come back when they needed to as safe even in those children who did not have a secure relationship. But he called it an insecure attachment style, had difficulties with school and learning because they're always in a fight or flight survival mode.

They weren't able to actually have a place of safety, to draw their strength from or to return to for comfort and security. When children are extremely traumatized and very far along the insecure, secure, insecure continuum. At the very far end of the insecure continuous something called disorganized attachment. This is probably the most severe form of insecure attachment or poor secure security. And these children are often the kids that we see in our foster care system that there are kids who are placed many of them for adoption. And we used to believe that the children were placed for adoption, were able to overcome this insecurity or this attachment we call the reactive attachment disorder children, which I personally don't really agree with that definition only because of the stigma that's been placed around it as if it's incurable.

This series of videos are really are focusing on healing, and not just about functionality, not just about how to be symptom free Three symptoms, reduce symptoms, but equally symptom free. And so we're looking at going beyond just getting functional, and being able to manage behavior to really be healed. body, mind and spirit. So, in order to do that, we have to be able to include the holistic nature of the individual, the child or adult. It can't just be a psychological cognitive approach to therapy into healing. It really requires an inner healing approach that involves the spirit and the body.

Because we are both body, mind and spirit. As a result of that we want to be able to include all these things. So this is a technique that I'm going to teach you. The Safe Place technique will allow you to lower your stress level and be able to feel grounded into your current present environment, to not feel dissociated from the world around you to feel more competent and confident as an individual to have greater peak performance as an employee or as a professional, and also give you some regulation skills for those of us who get over anxious into panic attacks, or to feel hypo vigilant, which is depression. So what they have any technique or the safe place technique does is it utilizes a very sensory approach by simply rubbing the side of our arms. Some people like to rub just one direction I've seen some people like to run both directions is kind of like when you comfort someone when you see someone in emotional distress, how you interpret them, nothing harder than that.

And what you do at this place is that you close your eyes as you're continuing this motion. And you visualize certain areas that makes you feel safe and peaceful and comforted. And then you incorporate this wisdom moments that allow you to process this into your nervous nervous system, a concept called neuro resilience, a word that I coined called neuro resilience that allowed this to become a very familiar reflexive action and makes you more resistant to stress anxiety. So this is how it works. As you're rubbing up and down on your arm, very lightly, very comforting, comforting yourself. You close your eyes.

And then you imagine yourself walking along the beach. Now if you are a spiritual person, you can visualize God walking alongside you through this if you want to do this alone. As you're walking, visualize yourself walking alone, that's fine or some other comforting figure, that's fine, but you want to make sure that you feel safe and secure and comforted. So as you're doing this ravine motion, what you do is you are going to be visualize yourself walking on a beach and you're going to take 20 steps. 123 steps 456 steps to get distracted just bring your attention back to visualize you're walking on the beach 789 10 steps 1112 1314 1516 1718 1920 open your eyes and move your eyes as far left as you can go find a point in the room and move your allies all the way to the right as far as you can go by another point the room is to the left.

Keep your arms continue to restore your eyes to the right eyes to the Left, eyes to the right. Now you're going to visualize yourself walking along cool green grass, maybe a lawn and maybe walking through a meadow in the forest, but you're taking another 20 steps. 1-234-567-8910 11 steps 1213 let your mind come back. 14 1516 1718 1920 open your eyes, put your eyes as far left as it go find a point. Keep your arm movements going. Eyes all the way to the right.

Find a point eyes to the left, eyes to the right. eyes to the left eyes to the right now you should start to feel comforted. satiated, restful, peaceful, comforted up and you'll see feel just kind of a deep sigh. Take a deep breath at the end. Those are good signs it shows that your nervous system is now engaged in a parasympathetic or relaxation response and is now just registered this peaceful feeling that you have encoded into it. And as a result of that are building neural resilience.

Do this over and over until you feel like you're comforted, safe, peaceful calm. So you can do the 20 steps on the beach. I've movements 20 steps in a grass I movement. And just keep repeating that as you need to. What happens for us is that because of trauma because of stressors because it just life tends to be so full of challenges and stressors, we can actually start having trigger reactions to certain events. So if you've constantly been yelled at and screamed out through verbal emotional abuse of the child, if someone raises their voice as an adult, you can be triggered.

This is simply a learned response to a trauma reaction. And often and we would love to change that. So we're not constantly feeling triggered by somebody raising their voice and feeling defensive. Well, if something can be learned, it can be unlocked. If something has a trigger response, you can get triggered something different. So if your nervous system is focused on negativity and enough a fight or flight reaction based on someone raising their voice, then you can develop a new trigger to something that's comforting, safe, peaceful and calm.

Make sense. So try this happening technique or this safe place technique. Whenever you're feeling distressed. Again, it's best when you start to feel a stress at a low level, say you're on a scale of one to 10 and you're like a three or four start right there. Don't go farther than that. If you're higher, you can definitely utilize this technique to bring your down lower.

But the best results are going to be as soon as you start to catch that feeling of stress in your body, picking up the trigger and then immediately bring it back down. This will keep you at what's called a homeostatic, static balance emotionally and allow you to be much more competent. Again what we want to be able to do is we want our spiritual being control our soul which is a mind will emotions and that our mind will and emotions should be controlled. By unfortunate what happens for many of us, it's all reversed. We have our body because of trauma and experiences in our life, in control of our soul, our mind, emotions, and our spirit, just some little tiny spark down or neither, it's not gone. But it needs to be blown on and needs to be encouraged.

It needs to be built up in order for that to be strengthened in our life. When that is in correct order of spirit and solid body then we are much more powerful individuals. We are much more resilient individuals were much more common peaceful individuals, and we are able to have a greater sense of knowing who we are and who they are, which is very counter towards a sort of orphan mentality that so many of us get as a result of the traumas that we experienced early in life. Thank you for taking this time.