Why these people judge us? Not by the answers that we give, but by the quality of the questions that we ask your questions need to be relevant, they need to show that you have understood what matters most. There are two types of questions, the big picture questions there ask why and what use these to demonstrate that you understand the importance of significance. And then there are the detail questions. Use these when the big picture is fully understood. But one or more details are crucial to getting the understanding or the implementation of what is being discussed.

Absolutely right. questions like how How and who. And when. The other thing is keep your questions future focused. Questions about the past tend to draw us into conversations about blame these questions of a lightweights, then offer people gravitas, like you questions framed in the present in the now often lead us to think about values. What is important?

These are questions for someone with gravitas. The other sorts of questions which are important for people with gravitas to be asking questions about the future, because it's questions about the future. It'll take us beyond what we're discussing into implementation and making things happen and making things change. If in doubt, there are two simple questions you can use to demonstrate your gravitas will almost always be appropriate. And if you don't know what the right question to ask is, one of these will almost always serve. One isn't even really a question.

It's an invitation. Tell me more about the subject. And the other one is an invitation for the person we're speaking with, to think more deeply. What you're saying with this question is, there's more, and I know there's more. I want you to do the work. And that question is simple.

What else? What else can you tell me? What else have you observed? What else is important? What else do we need to do? Tell me more about what else are your stock questions to demonstrate gravity.

Remember, by your questions shall be judged.