Poise is about stillness and calm. We'll look at it in three ways. And we'll start with stillness. Because of course, the ability to be still is the ultimate in slow stillness shows real self control. Shows deep attention, stillness, quiet quite a skill and very difficult one, but yet it does create a big impact. So train yourself.
Train yourself to avoid fidgeting, jiggling, twisting your hair or playing with things at home. Particularly when you're Listening, stillness when you're listening, it's hard to beat it for him. linked to stillness, but moving in the opposite direction. There are five tells five ways that people can tell for you're uncomfortable, uncertain and confident. And in order of increasing impact on your listener, increasing adverse impact on the people who are observing you. Let's take a look at five of them.
And the first is cuffs. Playing with your cuffs, or your watch or your jewelry around your wrist shows a little bit of nervousness, an increased level of nervousness, it's when you play with your collar or your neck or juvie around your neck. further increase nerves It's when you play with your hair. And if your hair's long enough, twisting it around your finger and then as your mouth, it obscures what you're saying. And therefore, perhaps shows that you don't want the words to escape. But the biggest one of all, it's your thighs.
People rub their thighs when they're uncomfortable and uncertain. So, keep your hands still under control. But Hi. Make sure that they're still free to make appropriate gestures that reinforce the points you're making. If you've arbitrarily clamp your hands together, you get a stiffness in your body that doesn't portray confidence at shows you're desperately trying to control yourself against the deep urge poise comes, when you can respond calmly, to whatever hits you. And for that, I advise the scope process and the scope process is a five step process for dealing with the unexpected, and the first step is to stop.
Stop so that you can avoid the trap of reacting falsely. Second, the C stands for clarify, clarify what is going on, interrogate the situation, ask questions of the people around you. Make sure you really do understand the situation before moving to Oh, thinking about your options. What are your alternatives? How could you respond and which is the most powerful, appropriate response when you decided that the P stands for proceed Proceed carefully, but quickly and decisively. The E stands for evaluate, evaluate the results that come from what you've chosen to do.
Because if you proceed, and keep going blindly, you may have got wrong. And let's face it, as to how much gravitas you've got, you will sometimes make mistakes. But the fool is the person who makes mistakes and doesn't even notice. constantly evaluate the situation, reevaluate the situation. And if you're not getting the results you wanted, results you expected results you need. Stop, clarify what's going on.
Come up with some new options, and proceed again and continue to evaluate the scope process. The posture avoiding those tails will give you the poise. delivers gravitas.