Hi, and welcome back. thriver I am so excited that you've made it for secret number three. And of course, first I must acknowledge you, you're here, you made it again, you're taking action on your own behalf. Good on you. So let's just have a quick recap because we want to make sure that we're moving down the path first. The first secret was that you're awake, you're alive.

You're present in your life in a deep and profound way. It might have been a harsh awakening, but yet nonetheless, you are awake. And the second secret that you can own your authentic No, you can live authentically, you can speak your truth. So remember to say yes when you need yes and no when you mean now. And now for secret number three. In this life, we all arrive a beautiful gift, inherently valuable to you know that I didn't, I had no idea.

I thought I had to earn my value. Get my degrees, get a good job, do the right thing. Say yes to everybody. And then I would be valuable. always busy always doing something. But I learned in this journey, that my value comes from me.

And I came here fully valuable, and you did to your gift, like a tree, like a river like a star, you are manifest your real a gift to us. So to take that value piece in for me, it took time. And the way that I started to really integrate that into my life with a practical tool was in the morning when I'm brushing my teeth. I just gaze lovingly into my eyes in the mirror, and I say, Michelle, you are valuable. Michelle, I love you. And in the beginning, I would cry.

And I'm not ashamed of that. Because I know that it was my own. Beautiful, highest and best self saying thank you so much for acknowledging your valuable. So you might cry and that's okay. And that takes me to the second part of this value piece, which is to allow for there to be bad days, there will be those four we are all light and shadow. And sometimes your shadow needs to dance and by processing your emotions and allowing them free, you are on path you are present.

So allow yourself to have a bad day. Perhaps a bad we, I know that you have the resources when you are ready to make better decisions. You do not have to put on a happy face. Be yourself. And the third thing with regard to value is that for me when I came back from my second operation, and I was terribly disorder distorted and I looked terrific. I couldn't even believe I look at myself in the mirror, and I was taking those pain pills and I just kind of wanted to stay in the apartment and hide forever.

My friend Simone came and I was said to her kind of went on a tirade of I did this, and I deserve this. And you know, if I had only done this, and I should have left my job earlier, and all of these judgmental things I said, she said, Stop right there. You're judging yourself harshly. And you know, now you're awake. There is no past and there is no future. There is only now.

And what good does it do to judge yourself right now? And I really took that in, because it did me not one piece of good to judge myself. So remember, you are valuable. You're going to have a bad day and that's okay. And you don't have to judge yourself. Meet yourself where you are with compassion, and know that you are a powerful being who can start to make better choices when you are ready.

Until then keep on thriving.