Welcome back. I hope by now you've been trying some of these techniques I've shared with you and the deal with your child's behavior. But please keep working on these because it takes time and practice. Now we're going to talk about what to avoid when your child's doing appropriate behaviors. There aren't too many things you shouldn't do when your child is doing something appropriate. I like to think when my child is doing some something appropriate, I like to hang out with them.

I like to put down my phone and be with them. So one thing you should not do is don't ignore them. Be on your phone, do another activities. Find that time when they're doing something appropriate and be with them. Because if you're on your phone, you're hanging out, you're talking all of a sudden, inappropriate behavior. And that's when you go to engage.

So engage with them when they're doing appropriate things. Another thing to avoid when your child's doing something appropriate is focus on the negative. So think about playing a game with the child. And maybe they're playing and everyone's kind of having fun. But we're being nitpicky. And we want them to sit up.

We want them to move their pieces certain way. Try to focus on the positive when they're doing appropriate behaviors. So I was thinking about this girl used to work with young, six year old girl, and I was at her house and we were playing this game. Like a Candyland game the entire game. She has been so negative, I'll never win. I can't do it.

I got this wrong. Pete. The whole game was so negative i was my energy level, her energy level more down to the ground. So the whole time I think, man, we're going to play this game again. And I'm going to tell her every single time she makes a negative statement. We're going to make a tally mark and we're going to come by the end the game I was thinking Wait, instead of focus on her neck.

Let's focus on our pots. So I said let's play again. But this time, every positive statement you make, we're going to get an extra minute of our break time. We went on to have the most glorious fun game I've ever experienced in my life this girl was on top of the world she was sharing she was saying nice things about me nice things about herself. And we had this amazing game and we went on to have more and more fun games like that and we use that in other ways to help her see that being more positive. Just lifts people up.

So think about that the next time you're you're baking brownies with your kids, two kids right and they're having to take turns doing all the doing the pouring of the sugar. Tell them hey, every single time you guys are sharing every single time you hear positive statement, we're gonna get a smiley if we get this many Smiley's we're gonna get an extra brownie. Guess what's gonna happen during browning making, your kids are going to be so polite and so happy to help each other. So focus on the positive when you're with your kids don't focus on the negative. Let this lesson sink in some and then head on over to the next lesson. I'll see you there.