Hello, and welcome to quick win four, which is the final lecture in Section four. And the final complete lecture of the course, besides the closing, we've come a long way. And we've learned a lot about the processes of gratitude, that act of gratitude of persisting through gratitude, how it can help you to transform your perspective in life, how it can help you to increase abundance, and now we're working on how persistent gratitude can actually transform the outcome and the relationships in your life. How do you be persistent with attitudes of gratitude and make them continue? And so in quick win for I wanted to do an exercise on paying forward transformations born from difficult experiences. And basically this is an opportunity to practice your gratitude on a deeper level.

It benefits you and it benefits the recipient and so it's a wonderful exercise, I think to pay it forward. And so my Angela See if people never forget, people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. And so when you're treated disrespectfully, you remember how it feels. And it makes me want to make sure I never make anyone feel that way. I'm thankful for that lesson. And so what you'll do in this exercise is you'll get out your journal or notebook and reflect on the following experience in a couple of pages.

Step one, think of a situation or two when you experienced a difficult personal health or financial setback and asked for help, or you were in a difficult relationship or work situation, and someone treated you with indifference, disrespect, rudeness, or even scorn. Think about what that felt like. I know it doesn't feel good, but write that down, reflect on it. You may have felt mad at yourself for being so upset and yet angry for even or even resentful towards the person or people as well as time passed and you thought more about that. It in the situation, maybe you realized how they made you feel hurt that that wasn't as important, though, as that you remembered what it was like to feel that way. And if you were ever in that circumstance with someone else who was feeling similar, you would never want to make them feel that way yourself the way you had felt.

And so step two, now reflect on how your perspective evolved as time passed, if that was the case, if you were ever in a situation like this in the past, or if you're in a situation like this in the future, where you have the opportunity to treat someone differently, who is going through a difficulty, and you have the power to treat them with kindness, or even give them resources. What would you do differently than how you were treated? How did you experience your experience from before change how you treated that person? And so you're taking something negative and turning it into something positive step three, therapy Your day work on ways to pay forward kindness based on how others have been kind to you in the past, and work on ways to pay for kindness because others work counter you in the past. Both can be springboards for positive change.

And so anytime this experience arises, where maybe someone is kind to you, and you're able to pay it forward, and it feels great. Keep a record of that. That's another strategy of gratitude. You can use any of the written strategies to do that, and it'll help you keeping keep your practice moving forward in your life. And you know, you're helping others but you're getting a blessing and a benefit out of it too, because it keeps that gratitude alive in your life. being hurt by others, even in minor ways reminds us that we never want to feel that way.

But in feeling that Sting, we can remember what it feels like in you know, when we were tempted to shortcut, ignore, Judge or short, you know, disregard someone in a vulnerable situation that will go the extra mile even when it's not convenient even when it's not easy to help that person or to at least not say something mean or rude. And so feeling how another person makes you feel, and having its impact branded into your soul and your memory like a tattoo gives you a unique understanding of how you can, how that can make others feel and the power of how you have to impact other people as well. We have a choice in how we respond. While it hurts at the time, we can be grateful for the effects of adversity or anyone treating us badly, because it gives us a spirit of deeper responsiveness to others and their needs.

And it teaches us to take the extra effort to treat people well. And so yes, we remember more than anything in the years after how someone made us feel. And so, that's the end of Section four. We're going to move on to section five which includes a recap, best practices for success and some goodies and resources that you can look at in the last lecture. Sure that will save you money in term and benefit you further. I'll see you in the next section.