All right, this is the Udemy course. Hey, welcome to you, I MD grant Smith. I'm known as the growth farmer, and wholeness coach, and I am happy to see you here. In this course, you're going to gain the tools and the resources to heal your heart and mind from heartbreak. To become the best version of yourself. We're going to do is utilize the tools and methods talked about in my book called be solid, how to go through hell and come out whole.

Now you have a digital version inside this course. And you're going to be using that as you go through each of these lessons. You're also going to need and you're going to need to find this for yourself. You need a journal. Now I use a college rule journal because it has more lines and I like writing really small but one of the things we're going to be doing in this course is a series of exercises and how we're going to put these principles into play for you You're going to need to have a journal to write that down. I encourage you to use a journal and to use a pin instead of a pencil, because pens are permanent.

But if you prefer to write on a tablet or take notes or whatever on your computer, do what's easiest for you. All right, you, my friend, are worth fighting for. And you're going to hear me say that a lot. And it's important that you understand why. If you've been in a relationship that ended and it crushed you, or if you've been in a series of broken relationships, and you continue to attract the wrong people into your life, you've got some pain in your heart, and in your mind, that need healing. Some of this is linked to maybe some deep fears that you have had since you were a kid.

And maybe you were bullied when you were growing up and those experiences negatively impacted your sense of self worth and your confidence. And because of that maybe you develop some people pleasing tendencies or codependency Is that true. That was for me, I'll share with you a little bit of my story of yours so that you can get to know a little bit more about me and how I can help you. Now, to be totally transparent, and as we're talking about self worth issues, I'll tell you a little bit about myself. I'm a small frame dude. And I was bullied a whole lot growing up.

I was always the skinniest and the strongest. I wasn't necessarily popular, but I was fairly well liked. But I still felt like I was less than and what I wanted more than anything in the world was for someone to notice me so that I can feel confident so that I could feel worthy. Did you hear what I said there? I wanted someone else someone out there to notice me to give me attention. So then what?

So then I would feel worthy. Seeking other people's validation is something that has very terrible outcomes. right out of college. I got married to a beautiful lady who had been my best friend. And for the next about 11 and a half years, we had a pretty good relationship. Actually, I thought we had a pretty great relationship.

One day, I woke up to her saying, I don't love you anymore. And I want to run away and go find myself. And that shook me to my core, hard. It rattled my bones. It rattled my soul. She was my whole world, the love of my life, I found my confidence, my sense of self and my personal fulfillment in being married to her and then she's telling me that she's done.

And there was nothing that she would let me do to save the relationship. And if this has happened to you, you probably understand what I feel. It was intense. It got so intense that I contemplated suicide, because I had this need for validation that went way back to my childhood. I understand heartbreak. I've lived through it.

That experience was like a personal hell. But I didn't run away from the pain Instead, I leaned into it and I let it teach me things about myself that had been inside of me from a very, very young age. This course will walk you through the essential steps for you to take to do several things. You're going to heal your heart, you're going to heal your mind and you're going to heal your spirit so that you can emerge from the worst pains that you've experienced, especially heartbreak, and come out a transformed and whole person, you will overcome your fears and you will become the best version of you. Alright, here's video number two. intro video number two.

Here's how to get the most out of this course. You deserve the best version of you. Your family deserves the best version of you, your job and your career deserve the best version of you. your significant other or your future significant other deserves the best version of you and that's why you are worth fighting for. If you were left by a spouse or a former partner or a boyfriend or a girlfriend if you were abandoned if you were cheated on, or all of the above, this is the course for you to find healing, help, and a rebirth into a whole new you. This course will give you the healing for your mind and your heart to recover from a broken relationship.

And you will learn practical tools and practical ways to love yourself. This is the ultimate first step in healing. And it's the best way to foster strong and vibrant relationships. It's from a place of wholeness, where you attract the ideal partner, and true love for yourself. And we're going to talk about that more later on in this course. Let's look at what each of these lessons is going to provide for you.

In the first lesson, we will address relationship and emotional wounds to immediately apply healing techniques that bring you Peace, you'll gain practical tools and methods to free yourself from mental and emotional wounds that holds you back from peace and freedom. In the second lesson, we'll build a strong support system around you have healthy and whole people. This strong circle is what we're going to call it. Strong circle support system will nurture your healing and growth into the best version of you. You will learn about what healthy relationships and friendships look like how to build the best friendships and relationships and how to remove toxic people from your life so that you don't continue to experience pain and drama. In the third lesson, we will explore what self love actually means, addressing how some people have misinterpreted it, and you will gain practical tools to use self love slash self care anytime.

The benefits of this exercise will be fostering peace, rest for your mind, and improved mental health. In the fourth lesson, we will explore how these principles affect your life and your decisions. And your choices, and you'll learn how to operate out of wisdom and clarity every day. In the fifth lesson, we will cover forgiveness and you'll learn a simple method to practice forgiveness that frees you from holding on to bitterness and resentment. And finally, we will talk about your spiritual journey and your connection with divine love that shapes all of your human experience. Everything here in this course is about giving all four elements of your life healing, transformation, and wholeness so that you can grow into the best version of you.

For you to get the most out of this course and training please take notes, you'll be encouraged to journal like I said at the in the very first video, you will be encouraged to journal some during these exercises. You can use a paper journal and a pen that's my recommendation to you or you can use your computer if that is easier for you. My suggestion once again is that you use a journal and use a pin in that you write by hand I found and so as science that you retain more information This way. All right, here is the third video. Before we get started, let's identify what your goals are in this course. You're here because you want healing in recovery from heartbreak, right?

What do you want your life to look like in the next three to six months? Are you committed to following through with this course until its completion? Are you fully committed to doing the exercises and making what you experience here a regular part of your life. You have a document in front of you that has the commitment written on it, recite it now to me and recite it to yourself. It's simple. I fully commit to following this course to its completion.

I fully commit to doing the exercises and making what I experience here a regular part of my life. Simple. This is essential for you to get the most from this experience. I want to help you heal, and grow and transform into the best version of you. But let's be real with each other. It's not going to happen unless you choose to fully invest in yourself and commit to this process.

Make the commitment now. And then keep the commitment. Let your yes be Yes, because that is what integrity is. And you are a person of integrity. And I understand how this can be challenging. All of us have busy schedules, we have a lot of responsibilities.

And heartbreak by itself is a difficult subject for people to try and deal with. But I promise you if you will stay with me and follow the lessons presented here. Incorporating what we discuss into your regular life, you will experience healing and transformation like you wouldn't believe. I believe in you because you're worth fighting for. So let's get started in your journey out of heartbreak and into the best version of you. Are you ready to get started?

Good. Go to the first lesson. All right. Lesson number one is addressing relationship wounds, rejection, abandonment, cheating, abuse, any of that sounds familiar to you, what it does to your psyche and your sense of self. How you feel about yourself is tragic. It impacts every area of your life, from your work life to your friends and your family.

And all these relationships because of the impact of heartbreak it can be detrimental to the health of everything. It changes how you see yourself and how you love yourself. This lesson is going to dive into chapters 237 and 10. of the be solid book. Once again, you have a digital copy of that. I encourage you as you go through this lesson, read those chapters once again day or 237 and 10. When you experience pain in a relationship, especially heartbreak that causes The relationship to end.

It can scar you for years if you let it. This trauma creates a ripple effect on the way you see yourself. The way you see other relationships and your ability to trust yourself and others, it can impact every area of your life, from your family connections, to your friendships, to your working career, to your physical health and to your spiritual health, and your mental health. problems that come with heartbreak are numerous. They include suppressing emotions, coping mechanisms that lead to addiction, including prescription medication, narcotics, alcohol, sex, and toxic relationships through codependency. You are breaking free from all of this here in this course.

In this first lesson, you're going to learn the backbone of healing, love, and healthy relationships. We'll begin by looking at the power of kindness. In this lesson, you'll discover how to use the power of kindness to heal your mind, your heart, your religion. ships with others and your relationship with you. Follow the principles use the tools and do the exercise. Experience the transformation.

In this lesson you will need to write in your journal some specific things as we heal and grow together. All right, video number two. What is the answer to the ills of the world? I'll tell you what it is. It's love. Seriously, love has many facets and pieces.

We're going to begin with kindness. Kindness is your first step in healing from heartbreak. Kindness has everything to do with how you talk about yourself. And how you talk to yourself. Who you surround yourself with also has to do with kindness and your decisions and your choices. Everything blends into self love.

We'll dig deeper into the soil of self love because ultimately that's the solution to our deepest And darkest pains, and our worst fears including heartbreak and relationship trauma. When you've gone through rejection in its worst forms, I'm talking about abandonment, cheating, abuse, etc. It's like your heart guy got hit by a speeding truck. And now your heart is an ICU. Now I want you to close your eyes and imagine that for a moment, imagine your heart is in an intensive care unit in a hospital. You don't take a person in ICU out partying to get their mind off of their pain.

No, you sit with them, you let them rest and you let them heal. You be with them be the safe place. Now I want you to take out your journal or a piece of paper. If you are hurting from relationship wounds, where is your safe space? Where can you spend 10 1530 minutes of quiet, peaceful time to just let yourself be This is a place where you can go to be safe. It's in this safe space where you will experience kindness.

Now write down that safe split. Write down that safe space and write down in my safe space is where I experienced kindness. Because that is what you need to begin. Maybe your safe space isn't a place like a location, maybe it's going for a walk, or going for a drive and getting away from your work and home life. If the idea of getting away and being alone to yourself seems scary, just pause. We're going to do a few things in the next few lessons to bring you healing, peace and restoration.

The first thing is to recognize that your heart and your mind, you need kindness, peace and rest. Relationship breakups and endings create emotional and psychological wounds. The cure is love, and it starts with yourself. Before we dig into the wounds, we need to first bring kindness To you, in this space. Remember the commitment that you made at the very beginning of this course, I want you to make another commitment right now, commit to allowing yourself to have some good quality, alone time at least once per day for at least 10 minutes or more, whatever and wherever it was that you wrote in your journal, that is your safe space. That is where you will go to just be.

We're going to talk about what it means to just be and why that's so important in just a little bit. We're also going to start a practice that will bring healing and transformation to your life. Right now. It's a method of self love called mantras. A mantra is a statement or declaration that you make about yourself that is whole edifying, and empowering. Here's one for you to do right now.

I love myself and will only be kind towards myself. Now reciting that in repeating This mantra is a simple way for you to practice self love and kindness anytime, before you recite it. I want you to do one simple thing in your journal, I want you to write this down. Write down today's date or write down lesson one I want you to write down. My mantra is, I love myself, it will only be kind towards myself. Now that you have it in your journal, you can reference it anytime you don't have to necessarily jump into this course to remember what it is and make this a regular part of your day.

I want you to I want to, I want us to do this together though. Let's recite this mantra to each other three times. I'll go first. Then you follow. I'll do it a second time and then you follow I'll do the third time you follow one more time You ready? Take a deep breath.

I love myself and I will only be kind towards myself. Now your turn. Awesome. I love myself and I will only be coming towards myself. Now you go. Excellent.

I love myself and I will only be kind towards myself. You go. There that feels pretty awesome, doesn't it? Self kindness is so valuable. Kindness is the first step in recovering from relationship trauma and healing from heartbreak. All right.

Here's the exercise. Before we move on to the next lesson, I want you to take out your journal, your piece of paper and a pen, only to write yourself something very, very specific. And this is the exercise for this lesson, as we practice self love, and self kindness. Are you ready? All right, I want you to write about how you love you. Remember you are worth fighting for.

You have incredible value. I want you to write a love letter to yourself and I want you to focus On your heart, we talked about if your heart has been hit by a speeding truck, and now as an ICU because you're in the midst of heartbreak, how you go and you sit with your heart, and you rest with it and you let it rest and heal how you be with your heart. You're going to do that right now. I want you to tell yourself kind and affirming statements. Tell your heart, how precious and how good it is. Make kindness and love the language that you speak to yourself.

When you're finished writing, I want you to read this letter to yourself. Now take this powerful exercise a step further. Go somewhere privately, like maybe a bathroom or a private room where you have a mirror, close the door. Look at yourself in the mirror and read your love letter to yourself. Now this may seem hokey or goofy. And if that's the way you think about it with me saying it, okay, that's fine, but there's something incredibly powerful and impactful about looking yourself in the eye.

Speaking directly to you, you are giving yourself the love that you deserve. And you're visualizing who the target of your love is. In doing so, in in loving yourself, you're breaking that cycle in that pattern of seeking validation from somebody else to tell you that you're worthy until you that you're good. You are good enough, you are worthy. You tell yourself that. Why?

Because you were worth fighting for. With this exercise, you were fighting for your own heart and your own mind. And you are reclaiming it from the painful experiences that hurt you. And you're healing yourself with kindness and with love. I want you to I want you to do this exercise. And then I want you to take a deep breath and move on to this second lesson.

Lesson number two, we're going to build your strong circle. Now we're going to talk about your relationships. And we're going to talk about relationships in their fullest capacity, not just one relationship in particular, talking about relationships with family, with friends with mentors, and others. And we're going to be referencing a couple chapters from the be solid book. Remember, you have a digital copy, I hope you're reading along. Maybe you've read it cover to cover already, if you haven't, here are the chapters that we're going to be referencing, In this lesson, chapter five, chapter seven, Chapter 11, Chapter 15, and chapter 25. your friends and your support system in the healing journey are so essential.

Do you currently have a strong support system for yourself? If so, awesome. You're gonna learn some more valuable tools to increase the potential excellence of your existing support system, but we're also going to learn some new things that maybe will help you reshape the way you feel about your support system. What makes these people so valuable to you? If you haven't carefully selected the individuals whom you are seeking advice from, who you are spending time with who you are sharing your story with, and being vulnerable with, you're going to be making some changes after this lesson. Because the quality of the people you surround yourself with is of utmost importance.

Remember what we learned in the first lesson. kindness to self is the backbone of healing and recovery. If you don't have healthy and hold people around you, and supporting you in the healing process, you are not being kind to yourself. There are certain characteristics that healthy and whole people have that toxic people don't. You're going to learn that in this lesson. Now, here's something I'm not going to do.

I am not going to tell you specific people that you know, because I don't know specific people that you know, I'm not going to tell you that you shouldn't hang out with charlo or that you shouldn't spend Time with Dan, or that Bob is just a terrible influence on you. I'm not going to do that to you because I don't know any of these people. But I am going to talk to you about healthy characteristics and healthy attributes of good whole solid people because those are the people that you want in your life. This small group of people that we're going to build around you for your support system, we're going to call your strong circle. And for the rest of this lesson, we will look at what your strong circle support system is, how to build the best one for you, what characteristics to look for in the right people to support your healing and your personal growth.

And you will be given the opportunity to talk with the right people to help you in this process. All right, let's look at the components of your strong circle. Your strong circle are the two to five people who give you the most help healing encouragement and restoration now that also can include some advice and some counseling. If that's the direction you want to go in, and those people you want to bring into your strong circle, here's the thing, we don't do anything alone. And that's why being selective and careful about who you surround yourself with, is so important. And why we begin this whole course and experience in the wholeness journey.

And what I talked about in the be solid method with kindness. Who do you want in your support system? Now, I'm not asking for specific people, in terms of specific names of people that you know, I want you to look at this from a character quality standpoint, and so much of the lessons that you're going to learn so much of the teaching I have for you here is about looking at character quality. It makes all the difference in the world. Here's some character qualities for you to key in on. You want responsible people close to you, people who make good and wise decisions.

We'll talk about decision making in a later lesson because that is also very important. You want people who are loving Who are supportive and who are kind. You want people who are optimistic and see the light in things, people who bring out good and the best and others, people who see the best in other people. Who do you not want. I'll give you some examples of those people. You don't want pessimists or complainers or constant partiers who spent all of their free time drunk and stoned.

And in some other lala land not operating out of their wholeness, because those aren't the most healthy people to be around and to surround yourself with, especially when you're healing from heartbreak. Be aware of other people's patterns of behavior, who you surround yourself with is who you are choosing to attract into your life. Think about that for a second. Who you surround yourself with is who you are attracting and who you are, you are choosing to attract into your life. Your relationships influence your behavior, the influence your beliefs and your decision making because we are the median, we are the middle of the five people that we spend the most time with. Now, this is true in your emotional well being, your outlook on life, your inner peace, your finances, your spirituality and your physical health.

Again, we are all influenced by who and what we bring into our lives. What characteristics make the best people for your strong circle? We've discussed this a little bit earlier, but you want people who give healthy and great advice because they're wise and knowledgeable, if they have experience in overcoming hardship or heartbreak, that's very powerful and helpful to trust is a key factor here. Remember, the safe space is also the people that you're with. If you hang out with people who like to gossip, people who operate on the latest rumors, they want to know the little tidbits and all the saucy stuff that's going on so they can go to the rumor mill and tell everybody about it. These aren't people that are going to help you in your healing journey.

You want people Who honor your privacy, because your heart and your mind deserve that. Remember, you are worth fighting for this strong circle support system or the close confidence that you lean on during your healing. These are the people to spend your time with. Because when you're not at work or taking care of your family, these are the people you want to influence you and to surround you and support you. We become like the people that we hang out with. So getting healed and whole may mean that you reevaluate who you spend your time with.

And that by itself may ruffle the feathers of some of your friends who like to be irresponsible. If you have friends like that, or friends who like to sit around and complain and blame others for their problems. You need to surround yourself with people whom you want to influence you and you want to guide you into healing from your worst experience. To help you transform into the best version of you. Great athletes surround themselves with other great actors. Athletes so that they can grow and improve their game.

Great musicians surround themselves with other great musicians who are even better at their instrument than they are because they want to level up their game. great writers do the same thing. It's about leveling up. So do this with your life and your relationships to heal and grow. Alright, this is the third video. All right, we're going to do an exercise we're going to create your strong circle.

This decision to change your closest circle of friends and the people that you spend time with is just for you. It's for your healing, and it's for your restoration, because you are worth fighting for. So choose the best people for your healing. Choose the people who provide the best attitude and environment for your peace and your well being. Do this exercise wants you to take your journal out. I want you to make a shortlist of people with the characteristic trait that I mentioned before, I want you to write down why they are healthy, whole people, why you want to be influenced by them and why you want them in your support system.

And then I want you to give them a call, or a text or an email or a message, get ahold of them in some form or fashion, and see if you can meet up with them and talk. When you see them. Tell them a little bit about where you are in life and what you're going through in case they don't already know. Some of these people might be people that know your story already. And in that case, all you need to do is ask them if you can spend some more time with them because you want their powerful and loving influence in your life. You want to experience their peace and maybe you want to ask them for advice.

Maybe you want their help in your healing process. You are building a strong circle. That's what this is doing. And you're treating yourself with love and kindness and respect. Because you're surrounding yourself with love and kindness and respect After you have a short list of two to five people, and after you've messaged them to meet up, go have some great conversations. Go have some great life giving wonderful experiences with these people.

And write that down in your journal who these people are and what conversations you have with them. Write about your experience, write about how you're building your strong circle. And maybe that even means asking them if you can set up a specific time, once a week or every couple of days to talk with them to check in with them to update them on where you are, and have that accountability. This is really important. Whatever it is that you agreed to do with the other person, write that down in your journal and commit to it with your whole heart. When you've done this, you'll be ready to move on to the next lesson.

All right, it's time for lesson number three self love. Love is the ultimate vehicle for Life and transformation. It begins with yourself first. Love is worth fighting for right? And guess what else is worth fighting for, or in this case, who else is worth fighting for? That's right, you are worth fighting for.

We're going to reference the principles and methods and tools from the be solid book that are in chapters 1314 1816 and 20. Read that as you go through this lesson and return to it anytime that you want help. or anytime you want to bring love into your life more fully. you're approaching your heart in your mind with kindness. You're spending time with quality people and removing negative and toxic influences from your life. These are ways you choose to love, honor and respect yourself.

This is devotion. You are worth being fully devoted to. You have to be devoted first to yourself. If you approach the relationship Particularly a romantic one, seeking acceptance, validation, love or approval. You didn't fully love yourself. And this pattern created significant hurt in your life and in the relationship as a whole, the relationship itself, if you will, hey, just to be clear, I can totally relate.

That was a struggle and issue that I had with my relationships, especially in my marriage. It's one of the biggest factors that led to my worst heartbreak. I know that being first and loving yourself is the pathway to wholeness, because I live the story of brokenness. I got married to a very pretty woman and felt worth invalidation because she said, Yes. And then when she left, so did my sense of self worth. If you've experienced rejection, abandonment, or even betrayal from a cheating spouse, it negatively impacts your self worth and your confidence.

And you can feel like you're replaceable and disposable, like you were thrown in the garbage and walked away from Without care, I understand that that's exactly how I felt when my wife left me. That is the opposite of devotion. That is the opposite of respect. That is the opposite of love. To understand and practice self love. We have to explore the subject of love and its fullness and also understand what love is, and what love isn't.

Alright, here is video number two. We're going to talk about what is love. In this lesson, we're going to look at what love actually is. Because just about everyone uses the word love and even the phrase, I love you. But if you don't know what love actually is, and you don't fully love yourself, you won't be able to recognize real love or fake love when it's standing in front of you. And yes, I said, fake love.

Here's why. Love fights for itself, sacrifices for itself to ensure the safety and well being of those that cares about love fights for itself, which means love as a relationship fights to keep that relationship whole fights to keep that relationship solid and will do whatever it takes to keep the relationship in good standing, to keep peace, to keep wholeness, to keep connection between both parties have that relationship. That's what love is. If someone says I love you with their words, but their actions are emotionally verbally, physically or psychologically abusive. They're not practicing real love. And their definition of what love is, is way off.

If they're saying I love you with their mouth, but their actions are doing something different. They don't fully understand what love is. For some people, the phrase I love you really means you make me feel pretty good right now, which is essentially saying, I like the way I feel in this moment. And now A complimentary and unkind thing to say I'm not trying to be, be trivial about that. But communicating love is communicating more than just feeling good in a moment. On the flip side of that is what happens when you experience heartbreak.

And when you want to cope from negative emotions, when you're broken on the inside, especially after the end of a relationship. You can bring that brokenness in with you into the next relationship. And instead of trying to cope by jumping into a relationship right away, especially if you've experienced heartbreak, love yourself and let yourself heal. Let your heart become restored in practice loving yourself. That's what we're doing here in this course, this way, your whole for your net. This way you are whole for your next relationship, and you attract the right person into your life for the best relationship possible.

Now we need to do something real quick I want you to think about what does love mean to you? You, how would you define love? What does love do? That is remarkable and different than just liking someone or just feeling good when you're around them. When you use your journal here, take a page or two to describe what the phrase I love you means to you. Does it mean that you want the best for the other person that you will sacrifice to help them that you will provide for their emotional, physical, psychological needs, that you will treat them with kindness as your first way of being with them.

It's important to note what love means to you because you're going to give yourself this love as your primary recipient. And if you want to attract the right person, into your life for a healthy, whole and beautiful connection, it's essential that you know what love really is, so that you can recognize it when you see it. Also essential that you are giving yourself this kind of love so that you can attract that kind of love to you and also help you heal your mind and your heart by recognizing the ways that you weren't loved wholly and completely in your past relationships so that you can let them go and move on. You deserve love that is real. That is true. And that is what it says it is.

We're going to dig deeper into that in our next video. All right, let's practice some self love. Here's something to be very mindful of. We cannot control how people treat us, even those that are closest to us. But we can control how we respect ourselves. Give yourself the love, honor and devotion that you gave to someone else.

How, remember when we talked about in the first lesson of this video, and actually, in the first lesson of this course, speak to yourself with kindness. We're going to look at the practice of self love now. And here's a simple exercise that you can do. Anytime, compliment yourself. Note how you look. telling yourself that you're beautiful.

It doesn't matter whether you're in shape or not, whether you work out or not, whether you're dressed up in nice clothes or you're in your pajamas and slippers, you are beautiful. It's who you are. So tell yourself that and mean it. It feels good when someone compliments you, doesn't it? Give yourself that love to? If you're thinking, Man, this is silly.

I don't want to tell myself I'm beautiful or awesome or that I look good. I don't want to be arrogant and conceited. Not being any of those negative things. When you compliment and love yourself. There's a huge difference between loving yourself and being arrogant. It's not a lack of humility to give compliments to other people.

So why consider it on humble to compliment yourself. arrogance and conceit are in the heart. There putting yourself above others. self love isn't putting anyone over anything. What else in church? I don't know if you went to church or not I did.

And still do. Sometimes in church, we're taught to be humble and love your neighbor as yourself. But we're not taught how to love ourselves. But you're learning that right now. You have the healthiest relationships with whole people who love and respect themselves. The love and respect they give others is a reflection of what they give to themselves.

This is why having healthy boundaries for yourself is so important. Know What You Will and What you won't do, what you will and what you won't allow. Give yourself the respect you deserve by sticking with these boundaries. If people try to push your boundaries, if they don't respect you, or if they mock you for having boundaries. Why would you want to spend time with these people? What good are they offering you if they're not giving you love and respect?

Do one thing else? Ask your strong circle for help and accountability. For the people that you include in your greater social circle, and trust in their honesty, trust in their wisdom, trusting their judgment. This is one of the ways to foster love in your relationships. Be open and aware of what you see in your interactions with people. And note the love that's exchanged.

Love is respectful. Love is kind love is giving. Love is not self seeking. Love is not easily angered. Love keeps no record of wrongs. Love is peaceful.

Love is patient. Love always hopes, love, always perseveres. Love never fails. Use this description for love and your relationships with others and your relationship with yourself to practice real love on a regular basis. Alright, this is the fourth video. right we're gonna do a simple self love, practice an exercise to incorporate this into your life.

Is to use a journal to practice self love every single day. What I want you to do is I want you to write a series of affirmations to plant seeds of love and empowerment in your heart and in your mind. Now, I'll tell you something about myself. When I introduced myself in the very, very, very, very, very first video that you saw me, I call myself the growth farmer. What that means is, it's a principle and a way that I operate from I believe that your heart and your mind are gardens. What you plant inside your heart, in your mind is what you produce with your life.

What we're going to do in this exercise is plant seeds of love in your heart and in your mind, what you feel and what you think so that it will be what you produce with your life. Now, I write in my journal every single day, and I don't have my journal on me necessarily, I can tell you exactly what's in my journal. I write affirmations. Here's a couple of my affirmations I am love. I am love. I am peace.

I am solid, I am whole, I'm in the best relationship of my life. I am attracting the right people in the right circumstances to bring me happiness, fulfillment and success today. These are just a couple of affirmations that I write down every day. And after I write them down, I read them. So we're going to write down some affirmations and I'm going to lead you and what that looks like. And after we do that, you're going to read your affirmations out loud.

The more that you encourage and empower yourself, the more love you give to yourself, the better you feel, and the more transformed you become. This is one of the most powerful and important steps in your healing journey. You will attract people who operate out of love and have healthier relationships by affirming the love that is inside of you. So here's your action item exercise for this lesson. I want you to get your journal I want you to write today's date at the top of the page. And on the top line, I want you to do a couple things.

I want you to start with writing three things that you are grateful for, ah, we're not doing affirmations yet. We're going to start with gratitude. Gratitude opens up Heaven, for love and miracles to pour in to your life. After you write three things, you're grateful for it. Then I want you to write a series of affirmations you're going to use present tense, not I want or I hope to have, present tense is I am. Make your affirmations about being strong and whole, about experiencing the life that you want.

Again, here's a few of the affirmations that I write in that I read to myself every day. I am love. I am whole. I am solid. I am peace. I am joy.

I am the empowerment superhero. I'm in the best relationship of my life. I'm making a powerful difference in the lives of people all over the world. Now what you will find is in my life, I am these things. I am the loving the room. I embody that I am the joy in the room.

Embody that I am the piece in the room, I embody that and I am in the best relationship of my life and I am making a difference in people's lives all over the world. The simple fact that you're in this course is proof of that. I am is about being embody what you want to experience. I want love, I want peace, I want wholeness, I want joy. I want solidarity and the best relationship with love. And I experienced it everyday because I commit to it daily using this journal, writing this down reciting into myself.

That's why you write it and recite it out loud. It's a powerful impact on your healing on the healing of your heart, in your mind, in transforming how you live your life. You're making a contract with yourself that is both written and verbal. Now I want you to take this practice this exercise and I'm going to challenge you now. I want you to do this every day, for the next 30 days. And I want you to tell me how you feel You want to message me in this course do that.

Write it down, write down how you feel after 30 days now then keep it going and do it for another 30 days. So now you've got 60 days and look at how your confidence, your sense of self worth, and your relationships have improved. I promise you, you're going, you're going to be amazed. This might be the most important lesson in this course. But don't stop, keep going. You know, do it over again.

I want you to do this exercise for 30 days, every day for 30 days. Can you do that? I believe you can. Because you are fully committed to completing this course. Now, it's not going to take you 30 days to complete this course I don't think maybe it will. But fully commit to doing this exercise every day for 30 days.

I do it in the morning and I do it in the evening. Because the first thing in the morning that you put into your mind in your heart, the last thing before you go to bed, really, really important. Do this for 30 days. Then repeat it do it for 30 more days. Now you've got 60 days, that's two months. Note how you feel.

Look at your sense of confidence. Look at your self worth and your relationships. And I promise you, you're going to be amazed. And this might be the most important lesson and the most important exercise you do in this whole course but don't stop. Keep going. Alright, time for lesson number five decisions and choices.

Relationships are a humongous subject, they influence us in ways that we're not always aware of. In this lesson, we are going to explore some of the principles and tools that are illustrated in the B solid book and chapters 1618 2421 22 and 25. Now, why did I get that out of order? I don't know. Run with me though. If you haven't finished reading the be solid book or if you're following along with the book as you go along through this course.

Please be sure to spend some time in those chapters for this lesson. Now, you've made some massive changes in your life. Your friends in your social circle, have a different feel now don't they? Maybe you're hanging out with new people or you're reconsidering who you spend quality time with. Thinking about and speaking to yourself with love. You're treating yourself with kindness and respect.

This is a whole and balanced path in life which significantly impacts your actions. Every single Day, your primary actions or the decisions and the choices that you make every single day. Suffice to say, it's what you choose to do. We've talked a lot about be. In this lesson we're going to talk about do in this lesson, we're going to look at the decisions and the choices that you make when you operate out of self love and love for others. Love changes the game when it's real, when it's healthy, and when it's whole.

We're going to look at lifestyle choices, relationships and other decisions that you make that have a massive impact on your mental health, as well as your transformation out of heartbreak into wholeness. video number two let's look let's take a closer look. Let's take a closer look at healthy and unhealthy lifestyle decisions. I don't know what your lifestyle is. Maybe you like to spend your free time watching TV shows or Netflix with a group of friends. Maybe you curl up with a cup of coffee or tea, I drink tea instead of coffee.

Maybe you enjoy reading books. Or maybe you like to listen to music. Maybe you play video games or you work out or you paint pictures or you sew, or any number of things, all of these things are fine. I want you though, to be mindful of what your decisions and choices are for what you do when you're with your friends. And when you're by yourself. Remember, you're planting peace and love inside yourself.

And this is more than just the mantras and the affirmations that you write and that you recite to yourself. You plant inside yourself all sorts of things every day by what you watch what you listen to, and what you take it. Here's what I mean by that. The media that you choose to put inside your mind impacts and influences the way you see yourself and the way you see the world. If you're media viewing, listening, reading tendencies, Predominantly violent, vulgar, angry, disrespectful or negative. I promise you that's going to impact the way that you treat other people and the way that you treat yourself.

What you sow inside yourself, what you plant and cultivate inside yourself, is what is going to come out of you. This principle also applies to what you do with your friends and with your relationships. Remember, love and respect for yourself. If partying and heavy drinking is a part of your social circles way of hanging out, consider how healthy is that? I'm going to be honest with you, it's not healthy. That's just me being blunt, constant party and constant drinking and constant.

Overindulgence isn't healthy. It doesn't matter what your what your beliefs are. I want you to choose what is healthy for you. Now, I'm going to be honest with you I'm no teetotaller I'm not a perfect person, and I'm not trying to tell you that drinking is wrong or that it's bad or that it's evil or anything like that. Excessive anything We're getting into dangerous territory because it creates addictions. And it creates dependency, and addictions and dependency, or knothole.

I used to drink craft beer and wine for dinner a couple times a week. I didn't make getting drunk a part of my lifestyle, but I did get drunk a couple times with friends when I would hang out. What I found in my experiences was that drinking, yes, especially when I was going through heartbreak and trying to heal and recover, drinking did take the edge off of my stress, but it also negatively impacted my memory. I'm very detailed. I'm a very detailed person. And when I couldn't remember that details of my experiences the day before, that was a bad sign for me.

Sometimes when I go out with friends, I would make an excuse to have one more drink. And I was with good people and nothing got out of hand. I didn't do anything wrong. I didn't do anything illegal. But when I had that one more drink, I wasn't honoring my body. And I felt it the next day, in the first year of my healing journey and into this Second year, I also did something else that wasn't exactly healthy.

At least it wasn't healthy to me. I vaped I enjoyed the smell and the taste of vaping I still enjoy the smell of vaping when people are vaping around me, honestly, right after my wife left, I smoked cigarettes for a little while, because I just wanted the buzz that it gave me so I could get out of my head, and not be so consumed with all the pain and loneliness that I felt. But I hated the smell of cigarettes that it had on my clothes and on my breath and vaping took care of the smell issue. But as I built a stronger relationship with myself as I practice self love, as I grew in my relationship with God, and as I kept putting love into my mind in my heart and my spirit, my inner Jiminy Cricket, little conscience or my higher self kept saying to me, dude, you got to let vaping go.

So I did in January of 2019 and I haven't gone back and by the way, my strong circle urged me to Quit vaping too. They didn't pressure me, they didn't force me. They didn't manipulate me, they didn't tell me that I couldn't do it anymore. But a few of them would not let me vape around them. And so that helped me be able to let go and be able to quit. As I explored self love, and as I studied to foster health in every area of my life, I started making changes about the choices of what I put into myself.

And this included drinking and vaping. It also included the types of movies that I watched, it included the types of music that I listen to the books that I read, I want loving things in me, because I want love to come out of me. Remember my affirmation that I told you in a previous lesson? I am love if I'm going to be love. And I'm going to be putting love inside of me and I'm going to be keeping things that aren't love from coming into me. Do you want that to?

Well then keep going. We're going to look at practical exercises and tools that you can use to make more healthy and hold decisions to heal and foster love and you transformation journey into wholeness. All right, let's do a practical exercise. I want you to listen to your body and your mind. And I want you to listen to your heart. And I want you to listen to your spirit.

Those are the four parts that make up you. All four parts of you will communicate to you and with you about what is healthy, and what isn't. If you will be disciplined enough to listen, honor yourself. The same is true for drinking or staying out all night or any choice that you make, honor and respect yourself. One of my favorite authors and a guy who has mentored me, even though he's been deceased for about 10 years now, his name is Wayne Dyer, and he has this intention that I have adopted into my life. He talks about it in his book, The power of intention, and it is this.

It is my intention to respect myself at all times. You respect yourself with your thoughts, your attitude, Your actions and your behaviors and the boundaries that you set up for your relationships. Look at your daily decisions and choices. There are things that you do that aren't respectful to yourself or honoring to you. Or are they're actually looking at your daily decisions and choices. Are there things that you do that aren't respectful to yourself and honoring to you?

Is it possible that your voice can crack in the middle of thing? Okay, look at your daily decisions and choices. Are there things that you do that aren't respectful to yourself, or honoring to you? I want you to write that down in your journal. And then I want you to make a commitment to yourself to cut out those choices that are not respectful and kind to yourself. Do one more thing.

Ask your strong circle for help get accountable, cut out influences including the media that you want. To listen to and this includes social media for that matter, cut out influences that don't empower you to make healthy choices. This is powerful stuff. But let's be really honest. It's also difficult. So give yourself the time, the grace and the kindness to flow in this process.

Which means give yourself grace. Don't expect perfection all at once, but get accountable and work with people be honest and vulnerable, and tell them hey, man, I want to have more healthy thoughts. I don't want to be thinking about things that made me angry or things that made me want to do destructive things. So I'm going to cut out watching professional wrestling, or watching movies that have excessive violence or something like that. Get accountable when people let them know what decisions you're making for yourself, so that you can have the most healthy things come inside of you. This is how you become solid and transform yourself into the best version of you.

All right, lesson number five is cultivating the practice of forgiveness. What we're going to work on in this lesson is incorporating principles that you've read in chapters nine and 10. of the be solid book. Also, we're going to dig into some of what is covered in chapters 2325 and 27. of the be solid book. When you change what you plant in your inner heart and mind garden, your life changes. cultivating these seeds of love every day, grows you into the best version of yourself. These practices are how you heal, become whole and live your best life.

A way to think about your life like the rain forest, think about the rain forests that are in Brazil. Now surrounding yourself with whole unhealthy relationships does what it creates a healthy and whole ecosystem. Stone for you to go beyond just survival mode. This is how you thrive. What about those memories? in those past traumas, though, that caused you so much hurt?

And so much pain? is healing just a matter of changing your mind and your social circle? What even what do you do about the memories of the pain and even the potential coming into contact with the person or the people that caused you the most hurt? In this lesson, we will look about how to let In this lesson we will look at how to let go of the past so that it doesn't trap you into a neverending cycle of pain. You're going to learn how to experience freedom and gain the tools to move on in pain. I'm into the section over again.

Starting with what about those pests? What about those memories and past pains? All right, but what about the memories and the past pains that caused you so much hurt and trauma is healing really just a matter of changing your mindset and your social circle? What do you do about the memories of the pain, the memories of the heartbreak, even maybe the potential that you're going to come in contact with the person who shattered your heart? What do you do about possibly seeing somebody that hurt you worse than anybody else ever has before. In this lesson, we will look at how to let go of the past so that it doesn't trap you into a never ending cycle of pain.

And you will learn how to experience freedom and gain the tools to move on in peace. All right, let's look at lessons and principles of forgiveness. This lesson is focused on an essential element that truly heals the wounds in your heart and mind. It's a process, not a one time thing, just like self love. I'm talking about the practice of forgiveness. Now, in some religious circles and communities, we're talking about You forgive people for their actions and you move on.

Never looking back at the problem. I don't know about you, but that one time forgiveness thing hasn't really worked for me. Just like trying to get in shape or lose weight by doing one series of exercises one time doesn't do the trick. Sometimes we have to forgive the same people for the same things over and over again until we don't feel angry, or negative, or bitter or resentful, and we don't have those kind of thoughts about them. Now, depending on the experiences that you've had, this may take several moments of forgiveness and you may find yourself suddenly feeling angry at someone that you forgave months or years ago. That's okay.

It's part of the human story. I want you to when you feel suddenly angry, or you feel the painfulness of a past memory, and it causes you to hurt. Maybe somebody that you've said, I forgive you to. Maybe it's somebody that you've written forgiveness letters to or that you've done the work internally to try to forgive him. On, here's what you're going to do. Take a deep breath.

I want you to tell your heart, I forgive this person for whatever it is that you're remembering that caused you pain. Because sometimes we have to forgive people, the same person for multiple different things that they did to us that causes pain that I want you to take another deep breath. And as you exhale, imagine the hurt and the pain as part of your breath and as you breathe out, let go of the hurt that you've been holding on to. Buddha said holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one that gets burned. And that's totally true.

We're talking about forgiveness now, because it's a part of the emotional and healing process of healing. It's also a part of our spiritual journey, which we will talk about more in depth in the next lesson. But first, let's do a simple exercise to practice. The Art of forgiving the past and letting go so that you can move on. Alright, we're gonna do a practical exercise. Now, let's do this simple exercise that will help you forgive and move on, we're also going to incorporate our imaginations because so much of the pain that we feel we hold on to sits in here, want to do is want to get it in here out.

I'm going to show you some iterations of this activity. And it's what's worked for me and helping me be able to heal, forgive and move on so that I can fully be at peace and so that you can fully be at peace to now some people do this exercise and they incorporate burning things. I'm going to show you how to do this that doesn't involve any sort of pyrotechnics or any sort of fire. We don't have fire hazard at all. You do, however, need a pen, a piece of paper and a small box, maybe a shoe box or something like that. Alright, if you've watched any sci fi movies, and I watch a lot sci fi.

I'm a comic book superhero nerd. Anything that involves spaceships and aliens, you understand the principle that cargo on a ship can be released out into space to float on, into infinity and away from you. We're going to do that with the pain that we've been holding on to. Now I want you to take your one sheet of paper if you got a journal and that's what you're using, tear out a sheet of paper, take a pen, I want you to write down the name of the person who caused you emotional pain and trauma. And I want you to write a very brief description of what they did. That has hurt you so much.

If you want to write out everything down, that's up to you. But for the focus of this exercise, be brief, maybe a paragraph or two. The focus is on getting the painful memories out and onto the paper. Now, when you're finished, I want you to fold the piece of paper in half and I want you to place it in the small box. Now this exercise is something that I talk about inside the be solid book. We're going to do the exercise Together, I want you to imagine in your mind, and your thoughts that your mind is like a spaceship.

And inside the spaceship, there are all these crates that have things labeled on them. Now, what's inside these crates are things that you're holding on to, you get to decide what you're going to keep on your spaceship. As you soar through the galaxy of your life. You also get to decide what you let go of releasing it as maybe trash to float out into the universe and be free from yourself. After you've put the piece of paper in the box, I want you to go put the box in the trashcan. And in your mind, imagine that the spaceship of your mind the crate that has this person's name written on it.

And inside that crate is this memory, this painful experience that you've had. As you put that box into the trashcan, you are releasing that memory off into the infinity of space. Now this isn't something to overthink or overdramatize The point is to imagine releasing yourself from that hot coal that was hurting you and nobody else. And as you release it, now you're free. Now you can move on. Remember, it's okay if you feel some residual anger or pain later on, that's human.

You have to do these exercises over and over and over again. But if you struggle with ongoing or lingering bitterness and resentment, you're not fully letting go of the pain. Let yourself be free. And if adding a mantra or affirmation to this process helps you do this. I am free. I am free.

I am free from pain. I am free from heartbreak, I let go I choose to let go of this person. I choose to let go of this experience. I will hold on to it no more. Take a deep breath. Exhale.

Forgiveness is for you. More than it is for the person that you're forgiving. Forgiveness is about letting go of the pain. Because your heart and your mind want peace, not pain. You were worth fighting for years this exercise anytime you have serious issues with someone that need forgiveness. Now, before we move on, I want to say something real quick.

You have done amazing work. This stuff is hard. This stuff is difficult. This stuff takes practice. It takes consistency and it takes commitment. And I am so proud of you for staying with me all the way through these five lessons and doing this work.

You're an incredible person. I'm so joyful and so happy that you are staying true to yourself and staying true to your commitment. Alright, it's time for lesson number six. We're gonna talk about your spiritual walk. Spirituality is one of the four essential elements of the human story. We've talked about that a little bit already.

We are a combination our emotions, our heart, our thoughts, our mind, our body, and our spirit, our soul. Love is the centerpiece and creator of all of who we are. This principle is throughout the entirety of the be solid book. So there's not just one specific chapter for you to reference in this lesson. What I do encourage you to read chapter 29. And the title of that chapter is to be solid will take all of you as it incorporates your spiritual journey into the other areas of your life.

We've talked about mindset, we've talked about emotions. We've talked about your social and friends circles, we've dug into the garden of self love and self care. You're treating yourself with love and respect. You are operating with healthy boundaries. There are four parts that make up who you are. We just talked about that a second ago.

Once again, your thoughts, your heart, your body and your spirit, your relationship and your connection with God plays a huge role in your story. feeling in your growth into the best version of you and into the successes that you experience in life. Now, yes, I said, the three letter word, God, God. Now it doesn't matter to me what your faith or your spirituality is, your personal faith, and your personal faith journey is just that. It's personal to you. I'm here to encourage you and empower you in your journey, and to share my perspective on letting God lead you and guide you in truth and in love.

I believe that God is already doing that because he led you here to me in this course. In this lesson, we're going to explore your spiritual life and love. I call it God Almighty love to talk about that in its fullness. Alright, let's talk about love and spirituality. God is love. What else is love?

Or rather who else is love? Remember my affirmation from lesson number three. I am love God and are partnered in love and in healing people from brokenness, into wholeness. Always remember that God is love. And love is the force that creates life and makes all things new. And that includes you to my friend.

I've been made new into a completely different person from the inside out. Since I experienced heartbreak. I learned self love and self care in my healing journey. I gained true peace and confidence. I'm living my life's purpose and making an impact in the lives of people all over the world. God, Almighty love as I call him, had everything to do with that.

And with this course you are to, I pray constantly, I encourage you to do that as well. For me, prayer is a conversation with God. That never ends. I don't do the do please do stuff. That's not my thing. That doesn't feel like a relationship connection to me.

That feels like a letter to a pen pal that I've never met and don't really know or don't even have trusted No, I have a strong and vibrant connection and relationship with a real God who shapes my life every day. Sometimes I talk to God, well, sometimes I do it in my head. But I wait and I listen and I want to hear his response to me. Did you catch that last part? Listening is a key component to relationship to every relationship and it certainly applies to your spiritual relationship. Do that in your relationships with people meaning Listen, in your relationships with people, and watch the relationship transform.

The same is true in your spiritual life, in your relationship with God and in your relationship with yourself. God speaks in all sorts of ways. infinite love does that because it is infinite. Here are just a few of the ways that you can hear God's responses to you. Your thoughts, your dreams, and signs that just show up out of nowhere through other people's wisdom and perspective. In repeated words or symbols you see like If you happen to see times that are 444-333-1111 1010, what's going on in those in those time periods, what is happening in your life at those time periods, those are significant ways sometimes that God can speak to you.

Love will talk to you. Love will teach you love will lead you and love will transform you. Just give love, permission, intention, and time. Meaning just give God permission, intention and time. You are building a relationship with love with God with the universe, and that is the essence of all of spirituality. Regardless of what your religion or your spiritual, regardless of what your religion or your spiritual practice is, we're going to do a simple exercise for you to connect more fully with your spirituality, or your higher power to grow your connection with Almighty love.

Alright, let's do it. Exercise involves meditation. This exercise will be a little bit longer, but it's well worth your time. And once you learn this, you can use it any time of day to connect with yourself, clear your mind and tap into the infinite love of the universe. And God. Have you ever tried the amazing power of meditation?

Or are you familiar with it and how it works? If not, that's okay. We're going to dig into the soil of meditation right now. I meditate quite a bit. And this is easy, unless you overthink it. By the way, I'm a recovering over thinker.

So meditation has been a little hard for me. And if it's been a little hard for you, I completely understand that was hard for me when I first got started, but I'm going to show you a way to make it really easy. Meditation is about being centered and quieting your mind. So let's do that now so that you can experience the simplicity of meditation and experience the peace of mind First, I want you to go to a quiet space. If you need to pause this video so you can go to a quiet space, do that. But pause the video, go find a quiet space in your house or somewhere, wherever you are a place where you can be totally alone for about five or 10 minutes.

Okay, press pause and then come back. All right, so you're in a quiet space for free from distraction. And you're ready to get started. All right. It's probably also best if you're alone right now. I hope that that came through too.

Hopefully you're in a quiet alone space. Ready? Okay, good. Here's what I want you to do. I'm going to close your eyes. I want you to breathe in slowly.

Fill your lungs with as much oxygen as you can. And I want you to count up to 41234 now hold your breath for two seconds. slowly exhale out of your nose, I want you to count down from eight. focus only on your breath and on the counting. When you get to one, I want you to pause and start counting up again without repeating the one. So you're going to do this with me, we're going to do this real careful.

Okay? Read all of your arrow. All right? When I start counting with one, I want you to slowly start inhaling. When I get to four, you're gonna hold your breath for two seconds, and then I'm going to start counting down from eight. When I get down to two, as I hit one again, that's your cue to inhale.

Okay. Now, before we get started with this, you might be wondering, what do I do about the thoughts in my head? What am I supposed to be focused on? What am I supposed to be thinking about? You're supposed to be releasing thoughts from your mind as part of this exercise. Now you're probably going to have thoughts and that's okay.

This this is what has This is a process of letting go of our thinking, letting our mind be separate from where we are right now. So we can totally connect with our self, we can totally connect with God. If you have thoughts that pop in your head, it's okay, acknowledge the thought but go back to focusing on just the count. Just breathing. Okay? The purpose of this once again, is to train your brain to let go of thoughts to focus just on breathing.

And there are a few health components to this aside from the mental health stuff of this exercise, one thing that breathing does that we don't naturally do as 21st century human beings anymore. Breathing gets the right amount of oxygen to our vitals into our body, and improves every system of your body, your nervous system, your digestive system, your circulatory system. When you're first getting started. With this exercise, I want you to set a timer you can use your phone for it. That's easy, but let that be the only thing that you've that you utilize your phone for it might be good for you to put your phone on it. airplane mode or do not disturb or something like that so that you don't get calls during this time.

But I want you to set the timer for five minutes. And I want you to work your way up to 10 minutes, and then 15 minutes. As you do this more and more and more. The more you do it, the more clear you will become, the more focused you will become, the more clarity you will have and the more peaceful feel, among numerous other benefits. Okay. Now for me, I find it easier to commune with God, and to hear the voice of love clear after I do this exercise.

So if I'm going to do a prayer, if I'm going to do a meditation of some kind, that's me connecting with my higher power, I do this breathing exercise first, I gained crystal clear clarity on direction and I feel peace, which helps me be the peace in the room wherever I am. Now, if you want some more help with me meditation, I encourage you to go do a search on YouTube some time for what you want to experience. There are all kinds of guided meditations for just about everything. From peace to manifesting more money, manifesting true love. There's all kinds of great resources out there for you if you want help with guided meditation after this course is completed, right? These are great for quieting the mind for retraining your subconscious to believe positive things and healthy things.

Again, planting love and wholeness inside yourself. It will improve your relationships with people with God and with yourself. And you can also listen to soft music and let love speak to you. Now, I do all three of these throughout the week. Meaning that I do all different types of meditation throughout the week. The main thing is to build your relationship with divine love with God and keep that connection strong.

It's also most important thing for your inner peace, your balance, your healing, and your wholeness. Okay, now for the sake of time, we're going to do this exercise for two minutes. Okay. And when you do this on your own, remember, set your timer for five minutes, work your way up to 10. Okay, we're going to get started right now. We're going to start I want you to Breathe out all the way.

As I start counting up from one, you're going to inhale slowly. Hold your breath for two seconds when I get to four, when I start counting down from eight, you're gonna start slowly exhaling. Okay? I want you to fill your lungs with as much air as you possibly can, okay? And as you breathe out, breathe out all the way so that all the oxygen, all the carbon dioxide or all the air comes completely out of your lungs. Okay, and we're gonna start with one again.

We're start breathing up again. Okay, ready? Breathe out all the way. All right. One, two. Inhale, three, four, hold.

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And when you do it for five minutes, you will experience all kinds of peace, all kinds of rest and find that your mind has calmed down a whole lot. Return to this exercise. Anytime you want to feel peace, gain clarity or open up the doors for better connection with Almighty love in your prayer life. We're going to do that more in the next exercise. Alright, let's talk about how to pray. Prayer isn't limited to religious people or religious places.

It's a conversation with the divine. And you can do it out loud or in your head and you can do it anytime you want to. What do you say in a prayer? What do you talk about with God? What do you ask God for? ask God for help.

If you're an incredibly strong, self reliant person that may stretch you a little bit. If you struggle with asking for anything out of a sense of worthiness, that may stretch you too. But needing help is a part of the human story. And asking for help from God is a part of the spiritual journey of every human being. Even Jesus did it as you heal and want to have another relationship that's healthy and whole. ask God for guidance and ask God to bring you the right person.

He knows you that is you rebuild your ability to trust after heartbreak by rebuilding the trust connection with yourself. With God, and since you're loving and respecting yourself, you know how you want to be treated. And you know what love is, because you've experienced what love is not. You don't need anyone to validate you or find you to be good enough, you already are good enough. Trust God in His timing, to bring what you seek, and who you seek into your life experience. be one with love.

Be one with God. When you write in your journal every day, write prayers for other people and prayers for yourself. This is asking, make this a ritual you have daily with you and with God. Love will lead you and love will guide you. Love will be your best friend. Healing, wholeness, peace and success are yours in this journey.

Alright, I'm gonna give you a bonus because I talked about this a little bit in the first introductory video of this course and because Because it's something that all of us wants to experience in life. We don't just want to heal from our past traumas, but we want to attract the right relationship into our life. And so we're going to talk about attracting true love and loving relationships. Now, yes, I did tell you how I was going to show you how to attract relationships into your life that are healthy, whole and good, and how to attract the right person into your life. Now, this might be a difficult concept if you are just coming out of a breakup or the end of a long term relationship or marriage. So if that's the case, give yourself time to heal.

Do the exercises and the lessons that are in this course. When you get to a place where you're, you're ready to really move on and you're ready to start the process of maybe seeking out finding the right person for you come back to this bonus lesson. As you heal and as you learn about how your past experiences have showed you the things that love is not it will become more clear to you what you don't want to experience in a future relationship. But that's not where you're going to put your focus and attention. Actually, you're going to focus on attracting love that feels like love. As you explore what love is and what love isn't.

Let your focus shift on what you want in your life regarding relationships. This is essential to attracting healthy relationships and friendships at work, and improving your relationships with family. It is also essential to attracting the right person into your life, to have the kind of true love relationship that you've always dreamed up. A simple way to make this work is to add to your affirmations every day this simple mantra I am whole and perfect as I was created and I am attracting my ideal mate and true love into my life. Another mantra or affirmation that works is this. I am in the best and most healthy relationship with my true love what you focus on grows, what you put your attention on comes into being and becomes a part of your experience.

Here's another practical way to align yourself with the right person and bring them into your life. Take your journal out, write in your journal, the characteristics of your dream partner. Write down how you feel when you're around them. Write down what you're looking for, and make it about their heart and their character qualities. Let go of appearances for a bit. Ladies, you might have in your mind that you want to attract a tall, dark, dashing man who drives a Mercedes and wears a $5,000 Armani suit every single day on the dates that he takes you on.

Okay, that's fine. That's great. What about his heart? Is he kind is he courteous? Is he generous? Is he a gentleman?

Is he generous to you with his time and with his resources? Is he loving and caring and loyal? Is he faithful? Does he show you ever Every day that you are his queen, and that he is completely devoted to you in every way. These are the areas where you put your focus. attract the partner for you, who fills your life with happiness, and joy, who sits beside you when you feel like you're at your worst, who encourages you regularly, who never, you never have to compete for attention from who sees your beauty, whether you're wearing makeup or not, who you have fun with and enjoy life with.

Now, guys, the same applies to you. Let go of appearances for a moment. The long legged luscious lady with big hair and great boobs isn't what you're wanting to attract unless she mirrors your heart and has the internal attributes of a loving faithful, genuine partner. Still focus on who she is on the inside. Write down the character qualities you want in an ideal partner. Is she loving and caring and sweet.

She's strong and vital. Did she take care of her business? Is she full of joy and laughter and brings light with her wherever she goes? Does she help you be the best version of you? Does your relationship with her make you grateful and thankful every day? That's where I want you to start.

Add more characteristics for what you're looking for, but write down the character qualities of who you want to attract into your life. What does she look like on the inside? Because the most beautiful woman or guy that doesn't have the right heart can break your heart again. And I don't want you to go through that experience. I don't want to go through that experience. This works.

What I just told you this works, it worked for me. I've journaled for two years what I wanted in a partner, I focused on character qualities and traits. I focused on compatibility. And I believe that God takes notes with us because love wants when it wants true love. What I want and all my you have wants me to have that love to love wants to be whole. I found my true love and my partner and I could recognize her almost right away because she matched everything that I've been writing about everything that I've been focusing on.

Everything that I've been praying for. The love that I felt in her as who she is, is the love that is in me. We recognize love in ourselves, and we can recognize it and other people whom we're operating and we're sowing love into ourselves every day. But here's the thing. I had to surrender, finding her to God instead of trying dating sites or dating apps or going to places to just meet women and go on dates and all that stuff. I did a couple people for a couple months, but two years ago, and the dating side of things didn't really work out for me all that well.

I had to surrender all that stuff, and focus on this is what I want in my life and I'm going to trust Almighty love to bring it into being and as I'm letting go of control. If you've experienced controlling a relationship before somebody trying to control you, you know how control really Jacks things up and makes things not work the way it's supposed to. So don't try to control how you find the right person. Trust God, trust Almighty love to bring that relationship to you, but focus on what it is that you want. Which means don't force this surrender, let go. Don't rush into it either.

Surrender control of how it happens when it comes into being the right time is the right time. Trust Almighty love to bring you the relationship of your dreams. Now, one other thing to practice when you're doing this, don't tell yourself that you're unworthy of love or that it won't find you. Because if you do that, then you'll fulfill what you believe in what you think your thoughts in your focus, shape your reality. Keep your focus on what you want and trust God, trust the universe. Trust Almighty love or whatever you call the divine.

Trust love to make the meeting of your perfect person become a reality. All right conclusion and getting results. These lessons and pieces are the essential elements of the be solid journey to healing and wholeness. using these tools and practices daily is how you recover from past relationship trauma, how you heal from heartbreak, how you bring peace into your life, by being the peace that you seek. As you grow in love, and embrace what love is you become the love that you seek. This is also how you attract peaceful and loving relationships, people and situations into your life.

Utilize everything that you've learned here and make these practices and exercises part of your daily life. Especially the journey of what, especially the journey especially the journaling, of what you want to experience the person you want to attract. In the daily affirmations, what you focus on grows, what you do consistently becomes a part of your life. We heal when we make wholeness the way that we live every day. One thing that I haven't mentioned in detail here is diet and exercise that goes with self love and self care. give your body the nutrients it needs, give it exercise to movement is critical.

Here's what I do. I eat cereal or a shake for breakfast and I make a lot of my meals at home using a healthy dose of vitamins, minerals and proteins. A simple exercise routine of basic stretches and push ups and crunches, some light weights and a little walk jog that I do every morning. If you need help with diet or exercise or your physical health, there's all kinds of resources that you can look up on YouTube for help with both diet and exercise. The key though is consistency. Do the steps that you've learned in this course.

Love, honor and respect yourself. make healthy choices Surround yourself with healthy people. Foster your connection with Almighty love, aka God, heal and be whole, be solid. B love this course. And these exercises are tools that you can use anytime. Remember the commitment that you made to yourself when you began this course.

Keep that commitment going. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you for completing this course. But your work is not completed yet. consistency and practice is the key. Just like playing an instrument.

You have to use these tools over and over again to master them and master the art of love and the practice of wholeness. I be leave in you. I'm proud of you. You are worth fighting for. I ask that you please leave a review for this course and feel free to contact me with any questions that you have about your wholeness journey. Thanks for being a part of this program.

I look forward to hearing from you