Lesson number one is addressing relationship wounds, rejection, abandonment, cheating, abuse, any of that sounds familiar to you, what it does to your psyche and your sense of self. How you feel about yourself is tragic. Impact impacts every area of your life, from your work life to your friends and your family. And all these relationships because of the impact of heartbreak it can be detrimental to the health of everything. It changes how you see yourself and how you love yourself. This lesson is going to dive into chapters 237 and 10. of the be solid book once again, you have a digital copy of that.

I encourage you as you go through this lesson, read those chapters once again they are 237 and 10. When you experience pain in a relationship, especially heartbreak, that causes the relationship to end, it can scar you for years. If you let it this trauma creates a ripple effect on the way you see yourself, the way you see other relationships and your ability to trust yourself and others, it can impact every area of your life, from your family connections, to your friendships, to your working career, to your physical health to your spiritual health, and your mental health. problems that come with heartbreak are numerous. They include suppressing emotions, coping mechanisms that lead to addiction, including prescription medication, narcotics, alcohol, sex, and toxic relationships through codependency. You are breaking free from all of this here in this course.

In this first lesson, you're going to learn the backbone of healing, love, and healthy relationships. We'll begin by looking at the power of kindness. In this lesson, you'll discover how to use the power of kindness to heal your mind, your heart, your relationships with others and your relationship with you. You follow the principles, use the tools and do the exercise, experience the transformation. In this lesson you will need to write in your journal some specific things as we heal and grow together. What is the answer to the ills of the world?

I'll tell you what it is. It's love. Seriously, love has many facets and pieces. We're going to begin with kindness. Kindness is your first step in healing from heartbreak. Kindness has everything to do with how you talk about yourself.

And how you talk to yourself. Who you surround yourself with also has to do with kindness and your decisions and your choices. Everything blends into self love, will dig deeper into the soil of self love because ultimately that's the solution to our deepest and darkest pains and our worst fears including heartbreak and relationship trauma when You've gone through rejection in its worst forms. I'm talking about abandonment, cheating, abuse, etc. It's like your heart guy got hit by a speeding truck. And now your heart is an ICU.

Now wants to close your eyes and imagine that for a moment, imagine your heart is in an intensive care unit in a hospital. You don't take a person in ICU out partying to get their mind off of their pain. No, you sit with them, you let them rest and you let them heal. You be with them be this safe place. Now I want you to take out your journal or a piece of paper. If you are hurting from relationship wounds, where is your safe space?

Where can you spend 10 1530 minutes of quiet, peaceful time to just let yourself be? This is a place where you can go to be safe. It's in this safe space where you will experience kindness Now write down that safe split. Write down that safe space and write down in my safe space is where I experienced kindness. Because that is what you need to begin. Maybe your safe space isn't a place like a location, maybe it's going for a walk, or going for a drive, and getting away from your work and home life.

If the idea of getting away and being alone to yourself seems scary, just pause. We're going to do a few things in the next few lessons to bring you healing, peace and restoration. The first thing is to recognize that your heart and your mind, you need kindness, peace and rest. Relationship breakups and endings create emotional and psychological wounds. The cure is love. And it starts with yourself.

Before we dig into the wounds, we need to first bring kindness to you in this space. Remember the commitment that you made at the very beginning of this course. I want you to make another commitment right No commit to allowing yourself to have some good quality, alone time at least once per day for at least 10 minutes or more. Whatever and wherever it was that you wrote in your journal that is your safe space. That is where you will go to just be. We're going to talk about what it means to just be and why that's so important in just a little bit.

We're also going to start a practice that will bring healing and transformation to your life. Right now. It's a method of self love called mantras. A mantra is a statement or declaration that you make about yourself that is whole edifying, and empowering. Here's one for you to do right now. I love myself and will only be kind towards myself.

Now reciting that and repeating this mantra is a simple way for you to practice self love and kindness anytime, before you recite it. I want you to do Do one simple thing in your journal, I want you to write this down. Write down today's date or write down lesson one I want you to write down. My mantra is, I love myself and will only be kind towards myself. Now that you have it in your journal, you can reference it anytime you don't have to necessarily jump into this course to remember what it is. But make this a regular part of your day.

I want you to I want to, I want us to do this together though. Let's recite this mantra to each other three times. I'll go first. Then you follow? I'll do it a second time and then you follow I'll do the third time you follow one more time You ready? Take a deep breath.

I love myself and I will only be kind towards myself. Now your turn. Awesome. I love myself and I will only be kind towards myself. Now you go excellent. I love myself and I will only be kind towards myself.

You go. There that feels pretty awesome, doesn't it? Self kindness is so valuable. Kindness is the first step in recovering from relationship trauma and healing from heartbreak. And before we move on to the next lesson, I want you to take out your journal, your piece of paper and a pen. I want you to write yourself something very, very specific.

And this is the exercise for this lesson, as we practice self love, and self kindness. Are you ready? All right, I want you to write about how you love you. Remember you are worth fighting for. You have incredible value. I want you to write a love letter to yourself and I want you to focus on your heart.

We talked about if your heart has been hit by a speeding truck and now as an ICU because you're in the midst of heartbreak, how you go and you sit with your heart. You rest with it and you let it rest and heal how you be with your heart. You're going to do that right now. I want you to tell yourself kind and affirming statements. Tell your heart, how precious and how good it is. Make kindness and love the language that you speak to yourself.

When you're finished writing, I want you to read this letter to yourself. Now take this powerful exercise a step further. Go some more privately, like maybe a bathroom or a private room where you have a mirror, close the door, look at yourself in the mirror, and read your love letter to yourself. Now this may seem hokey or goofy. And if that's the way you think about it with me saying it, okay, that's fine. But there's something incredibly powerful and impactful about looking yourself in the eye and speaking directly to you.

You are giving yourself the love that you deserve, and you're visualizing who the target of your love is, and doing so in in loving yourself. You're breaking that cycle in that pattern of seeking validation from somebody else to tell you that you're worthy until you that you're good. You are good enough, you are worthy. You tell yourself that. Why? Because you were worth fighting for.

With this exercise, you were fighting for your own heart and your own mind. And you are reclaiming it from the painful experiences that hurts you and you're healing yourself with kindness and with love. I want you to I want you to do this exercise. And then I want you to take a deep breath and move on to the second lesson.