Hi, I'm Tony factory thank you for joining me today on living the lessons video series. today's blog is called How to deal with rejection. So once again three main points in under three minutes or there abouts in order to handle rejection. So first of all, the first point is rejection normally relates to the choices of the other person. And so what they're doing is attending to their own needs first, in in many cases or in some cases, it may be perceived by the other person as though they are rejecting you. Whereas, in fact, what they're actually saying in a very polite way or impolite way at times, maybe, No, thank you.

This is not for me, I'm attending to my own needs first. So what you are offering What you have is not to my current needs and wants at this very time. So therefore, when people advise you not to take it to heart, connect to that possibility that it's about the other person. Secondly, there's the saying that states that no one can reject you unless you give them the power to do so. Therefore, in order to avert rejection, we need to reframe rejection. So reframe rejection at both a mental and emotional level.

What does rejection mean for you when you reframe it in another context, and if we go back to that earlier example, the first point about rejection not being about us, it's about the other person attending to their own needs. We can see that by reframing rejection. It shifts the blame of all the attention about us and more about the other person's name. And finally, look to see within yourself where rejection strikes a nerve or, or a chord rather seldom what tends to happen is that there's a pain there's a thorn within us. And when we are rejected, the other person strikes that phone or pulls up that chord and effectively causes that pain to surface. Therefore, when that happens when you are rejected, if you are rejected, then go to the source of the pain and heal that pain.

Look at it, become aware of it, be with it, deal with it, see what that pain is asking you to be aware of, and then over time, you will begin to heal that pain. There you go, guys, thank you once again for joining me on this brief video blog on how to handle rejections on living the lessons video series. Thank you for joining me. My name is Tony.