Let's play a game of dating Madlib. Wow, you are really attractive for a blank. I would never date a blank. Or how about I only date blank because they're really blank. I've got some bad news for you whether it's online or in real life when it comes to dating. At some point, the question of racial preferences comes into play.

You're going out with that? No, no. I mean, hello, Obama. When you look at the numbers, dating sites paint a very specific picture of who's trying to get with who online A recent study analyzed 2.4 million interactions on the Facebook app. Are you interested, and it found that most men were interested in women outside of their race, but overall, they preferred Asian women and data from over a million messages exchanged on OkCupid showed that white women tend to favor white men, while Asian and Latina women almost exclusively go for white guys, man, when is a white man going to get a break in this nation on the other hand, Black men, Asian men and black women tend to get the lowest response online. And keep in mind, that's just when it comes to straight people know what's going on here.

Now, when you bring it down to a personal level, you can argue that you can't control what you're attracted to. I don't know. It's just like in my bones, I just want to bone Asian chicks. As it turns out, attraction is really complicated. That's because perceptions of who's hot and who's not are largely influenced by society. I was born this way.

Okay. I've just never been into black guys that includes everything from social status, body type. And yes, race. Historically, white people have always been framed as the ideal beauty standard. Just Google beautiful woman or beautiful man, and you'll see lots and lots of light. And other than Denzel, People magazine's Sexiest Man Alive is always a white guy.

Really. We got old ass Harrison Ford and no Rinaldo, that man is simply dashing even in communities of color. Historically, people who are multiracial part white or fair skin are often seen as more attractive In the 1920s, the paper bag test was used to mark the cutoff for attractive black books as nothing darker than a paper bag. Allegedly, there were even black sororities and fraternities that required pledges to pass the test. But it's not just the black community that deals with these nasty beauty standards in China and India. It's not uncommon to see skin lightening commercials where women go from ugly to beautiful as their skin becomes lighter.

And that's one of the most popular photo editing apps in Asia can not only lighten skin tones, but even widen eyes. So yes, attraction and beauty the things that feel incredibly personal and almost automatic can be skewed by society's preconceptions. But it's not just about whiteness, when being white is presented as the ideal beauty standard, society fetishizes and dismisses anything that's different. I mean, how many of these have we all heard Asian women are like delicate and submissive. Black men are aggressive, but dinos are passionate Asian dudes are weak. I have no The problem is even positive stereotypes or Wow, I can't believe you don't fit the stereotype.

Still racist once this guy told me Well, you're like the prettiest black girl I've ever seen, which sounds like a compliment, but, um, have you been beyond that essentially says that I'm pretty despite being black or that all black girls are ugly no things but what about people of color that don't want to date white people? Well, that's kind of tricky too. Because usually people of color are not wanting to date white people is a defense mechanism to avoid being fetishized or overt racism. So who the hell can you be attracted to? Can you never date outside your race? Can you even change your own psychology here?

I'll let you in on a little not so secret secret. I'm married to a white guy. I don't even know you, but I didn't end up with him because he's white. I like him because he's funny and weird and it makes me happy. And if you haven't really dated outside of your own race or ethnicity, just leave yourself open to being surprised. Maybe that Asian guys got a huge Have you ever dated someone outside of your race?

Let me know in the comments. And check out the description box to take the look different racial bias quiz to dig deep and see some of the ways racial bias might be affecting you. In our first vlog we asked if fried chicken and watermelon were racist. Let's take a look at some of your comments. I'm sorry Misha loves anime I would totally offer you some chicken. But I'm stuck here inside your computer help.

Thanks, Miss light 2008 We are all about the learnings here at decoded. Oh really? Alan? TJ Am I annoying? Am I Emily? Never heard that one before.

Splink but fun fact. Some people actually put Mayo on their french fries. Not gonna say who think about? Well, Brian, you are in luck. We talked about lots of racial stereotypes in this video. Oh, Sam.

Yes, salt on watermelon is the weirdest thing but it tastes so good. And thank you for the compliments. Like you. And finally, john. You're actually Right everyone loves doughnuts and if you live down south, you like donuts with a melted piece of cheese on top. Don't judge me.

Kind of tastes amazing.