Every being on earth has needs. No matter how much one tries to deny it. When we suppress our needs, we first stop ourselves to thrive holistically, plus we invest our energy in meeting those needs unconsciously.
A need is something that is required in order to live, succeed or be happy. And you cannot un-require something that is required. You cannot argue your way into seeing that it isn’t necessary. You have one option when it comes to your needs and that is to meet them.
To learn to meet these needs in a healthy way, one must be aware of what they are and define it for themselves. This helps them to stop playing games with people to meet their needs but simply get better at asking them without feeling guilty.
We don't come with a manual. That's true but what if we have already created the manual Our experience with working with people, and observing ourselves and the people around, we has clearly shown that 'we all have needs and we all meet them. So, why not understand it and create a space for better relationships and holistic success in life
In this course, we will be dealing with our emotional and psychological needs, keeping our survival or physiological needs aside, and accepting that we all know we need them. The needs beyond the basic physical needs such as food, water, air, shelter, and so on. It is not possible to thrive in life unless we meet these needs in our lives. We are not talking about wants or desires, but needs that imply them to be present in required quantities so we can perform the best and enjoy our lives.
There are times when we need another to hold us and empathically help us through core pain such as heartache and grief. There are times when we are ill and need another to soothe us. This kind of loving care is a basic need.
The sharing of love is also a basic need. However, there is a huge difference between trying to get someone else to love us, and our need to share the love.
We all need to learn to bring love to ourselves through our spiritual connection. It is only when we can fill ourselves up with the Source of Love that we have love to share. When are not taking responsibility for developing our spiritual connection and learning to fill ourselves up with love, then we become needy
When someone is not taking responsibility for their own feelings and pulling on others for attention and approval, they are being needy. You know they are being needy because it feels like they are draining you rather than sharing with you. You know you are being needy when you feel empty inside and upset with others when you don't get what you want from them.
Part of taking loving care of ourselves is to recognize our need to share love and reach out to others who also want to share the love. But asking for help from an empty place, hoping that another person will fill you up and make you feel worthy and safe, is needy. We are needy when we emotionally abandon ourselves and expect others to give us what we are not giving to ourselves. We are legitimately asking to have a need met when we reach out to others to share love, or to receive the help we might need to heal. Our need to share love can only be met by another person.
The difference between need and needy is mostly about energy. We are needy when we are empty because we have abandoned ourselves by not taking responsibility for our own feelings. We are expressing a need when we are taking loving care of ourselves and sharing our love with others, or reaching out for legitimate help. While the actions of need and neediness may look the same, the energy behind the actions is completely different.
So go ahead, and begin this journey of learning about human needs. So, that you can learn to meet them in healthy ways without any judgment for yourself. Please Note: We highly recommend that you make notes in a physical diary instead of making digital notes. So, please assign a small notebook for this.