Welcome back, the first choice in any guy to floss to let go of all choice. How ironic is that? The title section is the first choice but I'm sitting here discussing with you to let go of all choice. In other words have no choice at all. let me dive deeper into the concept to help you understand what do I mean by it by sharing with you one of the incidents of loss from my own personal life. One day as I was driving back from work, the signal turned yellow, so I hit my brakes because I knew I wouldn't be able to cross it.
As my car came to a halt. I looked into the rearview mirror to see a Jeep approaching me from behind. As the driver hit his brakes in an attempt to stop my mind circled between hope and despair in those moments. Within those few seconds that seemed like eternity with my guests. Only a fixed at the rear view mirror, I realized that I was going to be hit and hit bad, how bad I just have to wait and see because I just couldn't do anything about it. I couldn't save my car or myself from the accident.
In those few moments my mind raised to find the best way out to save me from the upcoming disaster, but ended up clueless. I felt powerless. I realized that with all my mental equity, my physical ability and every capability that I had, I just couldn't stop it from occurring. I realized I was nothing and I had no control over what happened to me. When you are in such situations in life when after all your effort, your skills, talents, abilities, status and rank, you are unable to do anything it is then you realize how misled you were in believing that you had ultimate control over your life. And it's circumstances it is then you realize your true place and your true position in front of God.
It is then you realize you are human. And that was one of the moments where the truth about my humaneness, my humble reality, my nothingness unweld upon me, what choice did I have? I had no choice but to accept, accept what was written for me with utmost sincerity and humility, and base all my further actions and responses after the event on these humanly qualities. And that's what I did. I let go of all control over my perfect world where everything happened according to my will, and understood the truth about God's will, I surrendered and submitted to His will. This is the first choice you ought to make before, during or after loss, a choice to let go of your control.
You choose Not to choose but to surrender to whatever is happening. And how do you surrender? By accepting God's Will over yours. So what do you surrender your will, acceptance has many layers, but this is the first layer of accepting God's Will over yours. This is the first step, the first choice, which I refer to as be human. Think about your loss or the thought of loss if you are in a critical situation.
I was personally in such a situation where I had to fly for more than 24 hours to reach my mom who had just been shifted from hospital to hospice. For all those who don't know what Hospice is, it's a caring facility for the terminally ill. With no connection to anyone on Earth. I was in a state of limbo. I didn't even know if I would be able to reach her in time to meet her. During those moments. My ego crashed and burned.
And you know what I did, I fell to the ground on my knees, letting go of control. The outcome of situations and holding on to my attachments, that is my perfect reality with me and my mother and surrendering to God's will. In all this I realized my place, my nothingness, my humility, and gave up my will and my control, as I submitted and surrendered my will, over God's will and offered god my heart, saying that I am content upon your will, what, whatever it might be, whether it's my mom's wellness, or her departure due to her illness, I fully accept your will, Because you are the best planet and whatever you plan for me is for my own best. When I gave up my real over God's will, the doors of blessing open on me. When my Eagle fell to the ground. I was given the wings to soar in the sky.
I was liberated. I had discovered ultimate freedom. hamdulillah thank God and that is what I want for you to notice here that my acceptance of letting go of my personal choice over Gods will happen even before the loss had actually occurred in the physical world. So that is why I mentioned earlier that you can perform this step not only after or during loss but even before loss. When you suffer a loss, the first thing you must do is to realize your truth with utmost sincerity and limit. In other words, be human and surrender your will to God's will, with the sincere acceptance of the tragic event, or the future outcome, whatever it might be.
The simplest definition of a human being is a person who keeps walking on the path laid out for him, encountering situations with the best foot forward, leaving the results in the hands of God and sincerely accepting the results that he received from him. So the first step is to understand what it means to be human then Next step is to sincerely accept it and love it. Let's recap. You are a human being and it means one, you are no one and nothing without God's Grace To You are imperfect and so is your life in this world. Three, you're the best of all creations, which means you make mistakes, but you also have the potential for correction and conscious growth. To be your best you have to choose consciously to give up your ego instead of giving into your ego for you have no control over your external world outcomes.
Five, you have full control over your inner world that is what your thing how you feel and how you respond to someone or something. Six, you do your best in given situations. Seven after doing your best you leave the results in the hands of God and eight you accept the results you receive wholeheartedly by consciously responding to them. not reacting without we come to the end of today's lecture in which we discussed the first step that is be human, which you must take in order to heal yourself, either before, during or after experiencing the loss. Check the attach worksheet. to comprehend this concept fully.
Be human simply means to surrender your will over God's will. I'll see you in the next lecture. Until then, love peace and blessings.