Be the silver lining in someone else's dark cloud. Welcome back, be human, be grateful, be aligned. These are the steps in the three step model of healing your heart from the grief and suffering of person loss. Once you understand these and implement these, it is possible for you to not just cope with loss, but gain from it. When you can have more, Why settle for less. In the initial days of losing my mother to cancer, I was trying to adjust to the change which I believe is called coping with loss.

Even before I had lost her I noticed the doors of blessing open upon me due to my sincere submission and surrender to God's will, which I mentioned before as a first choice be human, but I haven't labeled it or thought about it in the terms of gains. However, even With that added advantage in place for me, my whole world had shifted upside down. This means that I understand how it is for those who don't even have that kind of anchor. In the beginning, I looked at others as a curious child in an alien land and saw how their lives are moving on smoothly. They remain unaffected, but my space had been shaken and torn with a devastating earthquake. Everything has been shifted, many things destroyed.

I was standing in the middle of the ruins. I looked at the rubble around and I thought, I cannot stand still. I knew I have to move. I have to rebuild my home from scratch once again, because my home My sacred place, my heart was deep rooted at first all this looks so wrong. You might ask yourself, why me? How come I have to go through all this?

It feels as if your rights have been violated or You have been wrongfully harmed, or like you have been the innocent target of victim of the turbulent chaos at many instances, I felt a victim, I felt different. I couldn't fit in anymore. So much had crumbled and shattered and shaken within me. But I gently observed and reflected without reacting to it. I tried to understand while remaining aligned with my destination, there is God. And I realize there's a purpose in all this destruction.

There are times in life when we have to rebuild, relocate and readjust our compass. It was my Time, My Time to regenerate, restart and refresh. A lot had been destroyed within me. When I refer to this destruction. What I mean is a lot of old patterns, habits, paradigms, and a lot of old ways of thinking, living and doing things. All of these have been destroyed within this calamity.

Destruction. is a bad thing, but from destruction comes the start of something fresh. So it's also a good thing. It allows you to release all that it's not serving you anymore in your own spiritual journey within this life so you can up level your game. And that's exactly what happened with me. I saw and knew about the destruction within myself.

The next step was to understand it thoroughly. So I gave myself time with gentleness in order to understand it. So this was my life and a major portion of it was occupied by my mother. I look at my life as my space as my heart space. Certainly she was removed from that space. I looked at the gaping hole within my heart that was now empty, and thought, what should I do about it?

How should I fill it? How should I adjust to this new change? I had no clue but my self reflection upon this calamity had made it clear to me that I didn't want to fill it with anything negative either. It was my heart, my sacred space, my holy temple. beautiful memories of my mother, her beautiful smile, her nurturing and caring nature. Her words and actions of strength, patience and faith resided, I let life flow without resisting the change.

And I kept on moving with a mix of neutral and positive attitude. I believe that everything that happens is always the right thing. And whenever it happens is always the right time for it to happen. I kept reminding myself that all is well in my world. I am safe and secure and protected and everything is improving by the day, I just cannot see right now. So as I started moving forward, people who had suffered similar losses started coming and opening their hearts to me.

I felt blessed as they were now trusting me with some of their most intimate and deepest feelings and memories. I was now their treasure. So when I turned my eyes from my calamity to this and I started focusing more on them. The desire to offered them healing was born. As I kept moving, one thing turned into another. And today I've amassed so many gains and trials not just at my spiritual level, but also at my material level.

All because I went to the trial of losing my mother a few years ago, it turned me into an author, our trainer, a speaker, it gave me a purpose not to just live but to celebrate life by co creating deep rooted transformation. It gave me the courage to be my true self like I've never been before open doors to deep, amazing connections, and gifted me with like minded individuals and their wonderful friendship that I've always dreamt and asked for but never knew how to achieve. my list is endless. But this list of abundance is available to you to your slate is completely blank, waiting to be filled. So I ask you why just go for it loss when you can gain from it. settle for less when you deserve so much more.

Stop focusing on your dark cloud start focusing on the silver lining to illuminate your path. In fact, to embrace light at the most rapid pace, focus on being the silver lining in someone else's dark cloud. There's a simple rule of life. If you want something, you have to start giving it away. The whole point of this video is based on this universal principle. If you want to gain you have to start helping others gain.

If you want to heal, you have to start helping other people heal. If you want to lose your loss, you have to help other people lose their loss. Do whatever aligns with you in order to give out what you expect back in return. keep focusing your eyes on giving to others what you want to grow in your own life. And believe me in no time you will start witnessing the gains. If you're here with me right now listening, watching and connecting with me.

I'm already experiencing my Urban Screw, I'm already experiencing my gains which I wouldn't have. If I only thought about my own self, my lack my grief, my own loss, my comfort zone, my fears of facing the camera, what to talk what to expect as feedback and a plethora of other limitations because I focused on how to heal others. I'm here experiencing an even deeper level of healing within my own self. Stop waiting, start moving because the light awaits to embrace you and its eternal joy. In the end, ask yourself this one question. Honestly, why just cope with loss when I can gain from it, your answer will light your path.

Remember, don't settle for less when you deserve so much more. Check the assignment in this section to further implement this learning. Until next time, love peace and blessings.