Now you've been listening to these lectures and what I've had to say so far. I'm very curious to understand what you're thinking about at this point of time. You may be asking yourself, Vikram, all of these techniques sound good. But why are you asking? So? Why are you asking me to understand my own likes and dislikes?

Why should I communicate this with my partner? Why should I try and understand the other person that much more? And what does all of this have to do with me having a better sex life, developing more intimacy in my relationship, sensing that feeling of love that I get from my partner? Well, the reality of the matter is that all of this is designed a certain way to fix a certain problem. Notice that every other person that you talk to you about sex, and all of these other doctors and professional We'll always try and guide you on the basis of what they think is the best thing to do. Now, what they fail to recognize throughout that process is, is that sex is an individual sport, they do not really get the entire perspective, they only see one side of the coin.

And that's why it's so important for you to educate yourself and discover what you need to improve at, and what your partner's needs are, what your needs are, to eventually get better at sex, and eventually, the relationship on the whole. That's why all of this stuff is coming together in a very specific way, so that you can solve your own specific issues throughout this entire process. That's why this course has been designed so that you have a personal guide so that you can use the best practices. available and apply that your own individual needs. That's why we are going through the system. So having said that, now we've gone through some important techniques.

But now let's get a little more specific about how to understand your likes and dislikes with regard to touch. Now remember that your partner and you may have different likes and dislikes may have different preferences may come from different backgrounds, which inadvertently leads to you having different thoughts about your own sex life, and what sexuality and sex is on the whole. Well, now it's time to concentrate on how to direct your partners and one of the most important things that physical touch that allows your partner to understand what you like and when your partner guides you understand what they like. So this is a very dynamic thing that you want to take as much time as possible. With going slow, really does work with this. Now remember that this is going to improve your sexual satisfaction and build your own confidence when your partner guides you, and they get this reaction that, okay, this person is getting me.

And you get this sense of feeling that, wow, I now know what my partner really likes, I should do more of that. And systematically, you build your confidence to have better sex. It's a systematic process that you want to develop in the bedroom as well. And once you reach that system, or you have created that platform that now I know what my partner likes, and my partner knows what I likes, you can experiment as much as you want to. That's why initial patience is needed with this. Having said that, know that you need to understand what your partner likes in terms of Have strokes and caresses.

So now let's run through some points on how you can direct your partners. And remember to be gentle at first. Rough touch doesn't necessarily work in the initial process, especially if you're inexperienced with sex, or your partner is inexperienced. So going slow, gently guiding the person's hands over the spots that you like and what you find pleasurable. That is really powerful. So guide that other person's fingers, hands throughout the entire process, telling them how you like to be stroke, where you like to be stroke, how long you like to be stroke, and what it feels like and that comes through signaling, telling them exactly how you are perceiving that pleasure or they are perceiving your touch when you give them pleasure.

So in case they're not liking it, a simple tap on the shoulder or a tap on face, that works great. Or if you're enjoying it, then a smile, or soft moaning, or however you like to express yourself, that works as well. So in the process, you and your partner need to overcome your mental barriers regarding different aspects of your sexual intercourse procedure, and at the same time, implement all of these things that you are learning by making mental notes. So let's say there's something that your partner likes. Remember that focus on doing that one thing, and learning to get it just right so that your partner knows that wow, okay, he's understood that I like to be touched like this. Now, I'm going to allow him or her to touch me more in that spot.

I'm going to allow that person to do this in future and at the same time, you can allow your partner to implement the same stuff and eventually All of this, once you make one note, two notes, three or four or multiple mental notes about what your partner likes, and your partner makes multiple mental notes of what you like. It all becomes a systematized process in the lovemaking agenda. Remember that guiding your partner's hand makes all of this possible. So do it gently at first, do what is working, rather than the stuff that is not working and make a mental note of what needs to be done so that you can implement it in future sexual interactions. To help you out with this, I've laid out some extras. In order to understand which parts of your partner's body are actually sensitive to touch, I've laid out some erogenous zones that are parts of the body which are sensitive to sexual or erotic touch.

So touching these different parts. The body allows you to get a better understanding of human sensitivity. Remember that the largest sexual organ in the body is not the penis, not the vagina, it's the skin. So focus on touch, majority of your sexual arousal is going to come from how and where you touch your partner, not to mention when you touch them. Here, I've laid out the erogenous zones that have been taken from a research survey from Men's Health magazine, and they talk about a scoring system from one to 10, where men and women declared that these were the parts of their body that were sensitive to touch, while others weren't as much. Notice how the pelvic region the genital area has more sensitivity versus the rest of the body.

That's why it's a recommendation that you focus on the other parts of the body that are Not necessarily as sensitive as the genital region, and focus on touching those areas. After that you can make your way to the more sensitive areas of the genitals. While this is a good guide to follow, you want to focus on your individual needs, that includes your needs, and your partner's needs. So actually talk to them while using this as a guide, and try to make them pinpoint exactly where they like to be touched, and at the same time, tell them where you would like to be touched. This allows a dynamic sexual practice to develop over a period of time where you're actually trying to understand each other's bodies. That's where sex comes from.

And that's how you turn it into a great experience every single time. I'll see you in the next lecture.