When you find yourself on the receiving end of criticism, you want to find out for yourself. Why exactly are you being criticized? What is the reason that your partner has decided to point the finger at you and tell you that you messed up? The best way to find out? All of this is to ask clarifying questions, clarifying in order to get specific when on the receiving end of criticism. It's not easy to receive criticism from someone else.

And when it does come your way, it's important to understand why it is actually being given. For that reason, you ask clarifying questions to confirm why your partner feels a certain way. You can do this by asking certain clarifying questions like can you please be more specific? Could you rephrase that for me. Can you please tell me what I did that is bothering you so much. Notice how each one of these questions are designed to help you get more specific about what exactly your partner wants you to change.

So things become more clear in your eyes. And systematically, you can create the changes needed, if at all, they are needed, and then your partner will be much happier with you, then the criticism has some validity. Once you have achieved what your partner wanted you to change about yourself. Try this as much as you can use clarifying questions every single time your partner seems to be straying off course. And then you can get down to the actual Nitty and gritty, what needs to change. I'll see you in the next lecture