While this lecture doesn't necessarily tell you how to develop intimacy, it does certainly reveal to you how you can maintain it in the long run. What do I mean by this? It means that you need to learn how to manage and maintain your individuality. When you enter a relationship. When AI becomes we, you enter the world of being a couple. How do you continue to be the same unique individual person that you are right now?
And how does your partner do the same? How do you continue to be the same people? Even though now you are a couple? Let's say you're married, you're always in each other's faces. You're constantly around each other. How do you step out of that?
How do you continue to lead individual lives? A lot of people actually struggle with this, believe it or not. That's why understanding how you can continue to be the person that you are and people around, you can continue enjoying that person, that nothing's really changed. give off that feeling. You learn how to maintain your individuality. This covers two primary aspects.
The first one is now that you're in a relationship, you learn how to create or how to maintain that strong sense of togetherness, that defines a good relationship. The second thing is learning that there is no loss of individuality that has to happen. Now that I has become we, you continue to have the same good qualities that define a great relationship. And at the same time, you continue being the person that you are you are partner to strive to do the same thing. While continuing to be an intimate couple. You continue to be individuals.
Now the question arises, how do I continue maintaining my individuality? When I becomes we, here are a few pointers that you can follow to continue being yourself and maintain your own routine that allows you to live the life that you've always wanted. And at the same time, give your partner the attention that they need. What do I mean by this? Think about it like this. You enjoy hanging out with your girlfriends or your girlfriends, you enjoy being around certain people.
Now, just because you're in a relationship, it doesn't have to change your routine, you can continue to be yourself regardless of this change. There is no need for domination or submersion into the other person's purse. ality there is no need to reprimand the person for doing something that isn't for the good of the relationship, you can still continue to do things that favor your own individual needs and interests. Finally, despite those likes and dislikes, you do not lose focus of your own individual needs and goals. Regardless of who you are as individuals, you are once again, looking to balance things out. You're finding common ground and looking to bridge the gap between different aspects of your life.
If you're new in a relationship, this is typically much harder to handle. Or if you're in a relationship and you've been in this one for a prolonged length of time, or you've been in a long relationship previously, then you are usually more likely to know how to balance this out. Basically, having an understanding partner, and them understanding that, hey, you need your time, go out and have fun. You want to have your own routine. So be it. Giving them that freedom and leverage usually allows them to be more open and respectable to your needs.
In the long run, if you can manage to do this, I trust that you will be easily able to continue to be the person that you are your authentic self, when I becomes we. I'll see you in the next lecture.