When you're looking to convey information about something that you deem important to your partner, you need to remember that verbal and nonverbal cues that you express are going to be really important. This includes making sure that your feelings are in line with what your face says. Your facial expressions need to convey exactly what you feel. Rarely do you find people being mindful of this, and neither do they really think about what their body is doing while they think or feel a certain way. ever gone up to someone and ask them, Hey, how do you feel right now? And then they tell you that they're fine, but in reality, their body clearly shows that they're probably sad and depressed.

We do this really often. And that's exactly what I would like you to avoid by accentuating the positive and telling A partner exactly what pleases you and what you enjoy. Then you put yourself in a position to actually do the stuff that works, rather than fixing what isn't working in the first place. So don't focus too much on the problems at hand. Instead, focus on what is actually working right now, and amplify it moving ahead. This can be used in terms of a certain communicative technique, or maybe cooking a meal for someone, just do the stuff that you like.

That's the most important thing here. So communicate that to your partner, and then ask them to do more of that. It's pretty straightforward, and I'm sure you'll pull this off. I'll see you in the next lecture.