When things go out of control, and you're not able to reach a resolution immediately, it's best to take a break on the issue, put it into incubation, and bring it up later for a better time. How do you do this? Let's say you're in the heat of the moment, things are going out of control. Words are flying between both parties, you're arguing with your partner and you just cannot seem to find common ground. Remember the timeout, call it, call it and take a break on the issue. instead of dragging it any further.

Bring it up at a later point for discussion. And make sure to bring it up at a later time that you have decided upon right now. This is very important. Decide to bring it up later, however, assign a time to do so. Something that you can actually practice is to have something along the lines of thinking time or discussion time. Put aside some time in the week where you are alone, find the right time and place to do so where you're comfortable, where you're not going to have any interruptions where you can actually talk about the stuff.

What is the stuff that is not working out? What are the things that you don't see eye to eye on? What do you usually disagree upon. You can use that time to bring up any of these issues that may be relevant to your sexual or interpersonal issues. Talk about it. Try and understand why your partner is feeling that way.

You aren't putting aside the issue forever by taking a break. However, you're trying to find a better time and place to discuss the same issue. Do this much and you will find yourself in a better position to handle disagree mints wherever they arise. I'll see you in the next lecture.