Module addresses some of the specific difficulties that most couples face. With regard to communication and sex. The most important one that we need to start things off with, that most couples fail to do is talk. That's right. Most couples just fail to talk about the important stuff. And in a sexual relationship, this takes precedence.
These are some of the reasons that you need to pay attention to, so that you can associate it with your individual problems, and then take off if you actually have this problem or you don't. If you do have this problem, you need to start putting in an effort and start applying some of the skills listed out in this course in order to avoid the communication gap that can possibly be lead you astray and cause a whole bunch of trouble that you just do not want to get into. The first thing is when one or both partners are unwilling to speak up about sex, or a topic that they find uncomfortable, this is really common. There are those things that you probably find sensitive or that you feel may offend your partner that you may not want to talk about is holding back that piece of information benefiting you right now.
Ask yourself that, because if it is, then it makes sense to continue it. But is it going to help the relationship is holding it back from your partner going to hamper the relationship? This is something that you actually want to try and understand for yourself? How does it relate to what you are currently going through. The second thing is When one partner misinterprets the other person, when you do not completely understand what your partner is saying, or the information that you provide is misread or you just had the best intentions, but your partner took it the wrong way. That creates a whole bunch of trouble in the relationship.
Think about this one as well. What are those topics that when you speak about them, your partner doesn't get the message that you wanted to convey. Problems continue to compound over a period of time because information is not brought up and communicated with the other person or information that is communicated. It is half information or it is just misinterpreted or misunderstood. One partner might even interpret other persons groans are grimaces of pleasure as signs of pain and pull back during sex, leaving the receiving partner frustrated. Has this ever happened to you?
Do you face issues in your sexual life where you are engaging in sex and your partner is enjoying it? And then suddenly, you stopped, you pull back, you held yourself off because you felt that your partner was being hurt? Well, this is something that comes with experience. What does your partner actually feel when you touch them a certain way? How do they communicate their signs of pleasure or displeasure when you do a particular thing with them? Sit down with your partner and try to create an environment where you can openly discuss this stuff, rather than engage in guesswork that may actually create more problems.
Than solutions. Speaking of solutions, most couples end up trying solutions that don't work. Or they keep trying the same solution over and over again, and believe that they'll get a different result. Remind you of insanity? Yep, doing the same thing over and over again. What may have worked in the past may or may not work right now.
It's important to understand what solutions do work and how long they can continue to achieve the same results that you want. This is something that you want to assess for yourself. What are the solutions that are going to play a role in terms of what you can do with your current ability and will your partner cooperate with lack of communication holds so many couples back from ever experiencing growth happiness in their life. And this is something that you want to start to get into. You want to be open to communication, you want to talk about sex, you want to learn more about what your partner thinks about different aspects of your relationship of your life together. Once you've done this, you can start applying some of the other stuff that I've laid out in this training system.
And that will help improve your relationship. I'll see you in the next lecture.