What do you do when the communication skills aren't working? How do you handle impasses and disagreements related to sex or relationship issues that you may face? understand this, it is normal, from time to time to have disagreements with your partner. It's okay. There is nothing to get so frustrated about when you have a disagreement with your partner and feel that oh my god, I was going through this course. And now, the stuff doesn't seem to be working.

I've tried it just the way it was meant to be done. Yet, I'm not seeing the results. When you have a problem, the solution isn't always going to be immediate, even though most of the time it may be the case. However, when you do run into a brick wall, you have a disagreement with your partner. It's not the end of the world. It's quite Normal, and it does happen to many people.

However, there are some steps that you need to take whenever you reach an impasse, or you have a major disagreement with your partner. And here is the foundation for the same. If you haven't guessed it yet, it has something to do with emotional intelligence. Looking at the situation from your partner's perspective, and you do this to get a better understanding of their point of view. We've spoken about this in an entire module. Understanding emotional intelligence is going to be key if you're going to defeat majority of these problems, particularly related to any disagreements that you may have with your partner.

Developing an empathic understanding by putting yourself in your partner's shoes without putting on the socks. That is going to be the most important thing. What's the difference between sympathy and empathy? sympathy is looking down at your partner for how they feel, and then saying, Ah, I really feel bad for you. I'm not going to do anything about it. But I do feel bad for you.

Empathy, on the other hand, is getting down to their level, and getting down to the very feeling that they are currently experiencing and saying, I understand how you feel. You don't necessarily try to make it better. But you do that by getting down to their emotional level. That's the most important tactic that you need to take away from empathy. It's understanding that your emotional frequency needs to be on the same level. If you can achieve this, then you put yourself in a much better position to handle any impasses that you may face along the way.

So recognize your partner's goodwill. And that is going to lessen tensions. Let's say they have an argument with you, and you guys are fighting and there's no resolution in sight. Take a step back, try and understand what they're trying to achieve. Maybe it's something that they're trying to do out of good intention. And if it is the case, let them have their way.

Try and see how you can please them by not giving up your perspective at the same time, try and find common ground and systematically try and lessen the tension of the situation this way, say something like this. I disagree. But I see why you take your position. Notice how you're not losing any face, yet. You're agreeing to disagree. Now, you could also say something like this, although I don't exactly see things your way.

I understand why you think the way you do. And I feel it's fair to do. So. You're respectfully understanding their side of the story, your understanding that even though they have a completely different perspective on the situation that you don't agree with, you still acknowledge that, okay, this is something that we don't see eye to eye on. Let's move ahead and try to see what we can do with this. Is this actually relevant to the makings of your relationship?

Is this actually relevant to that? This is something that you want to ask yourself and confirm, before you make a big deal out of it. Usually these issues are of relevance, and sometimes they may not be whenever it's not very important. It's easy. To move on from there and just let it go. If it is a major issue, you can use the information that I've laid out in the rest of this module in order to handle impasses whenever you come across them.

I'll see you in the next lecture.