So now let's talk about how you can connect with someone. First, let's say that you have started an interaction with someone, then how can you lead this interaction so that you are able to connect with this person. So my first advice to you would be to find something in common with the person. Because if you think about the people that you hang out with, you have something in common with them. Maybe it's work, maybe it's a passion, maybe it's an activity that you do together. Maybe it's something that you have.

So if you want to connect with someone, first, your goal should be to ask questions, so that you find something in common as quickly as possible. So my first suggestion would be to start talking about the place that you're in about the activity that you are doing together. Let's say that you meet someone at a networking event, something that you have in common, maybe is your business. Maybe it's work. You have something in common that you can About, let's say that you are at the gym. And then you approach someone, something that you have in common is you go to the gym.

So maybe you're also interested in nutrition in how to lose weight. And that's are things that you can use to talk about. So when you have found something that you have in common with that person, I would like you to stop talking about it. Because the more you talk about something that you have in common, the better you will be able to connect with someone. So start with the place that you're in and the activity that you are doing together. Talk about that.

The second advice to find commonalities would be to ask a question and try to find something that you have in common. The question that I always like to ask is, for example, what are your passions or interests? Or what do you like to do when you have free time? Why because if I can find a commonality with this person, based on their passions and interests, and then we talk about that They will be able to feel really, really great, and they will be able to connect with them. Now, I'm not saying manipulate the person and say that you have the same interests and passions out there than them. I'm not saying that, what I'm just saying is you should try to find the common ground, something that you have in common.

So try to ask questions. And then when you found something, talk about it. If you're not able to find something that you have in common, you can use what we call indirect commonalities. Let's say that we are talking and I cannot find something that I have in common with you. So what I will do is that I will use indirect commonalities. Let's say that you are talking about Barcelona, you want to go on vacation.

I have never been to Barcelona, I have no idea I, I cannot relate to you. But what I can say is that they can use an indirect commonality and say, Oh, I have a friend who went to Barcelona. He loved it. He loved this space here, he loved this restaurant, Barcelona is great. That's what he told me. And as you can see, I can use an indirect communality to bond with you and to connect with you.

So you can use someone who did that, or someone who went to that place. And that's how you can connect with people fast. Another advice would be that you should spend time with the person the more you spend time with the person, the better it it would be. And these years will be to connect. Why because you will get to know each other, you will be able to find commonalities, and you will be able to be comfortable with the other person. So when you're interacting with someone, try to spend a decent amount of time with them.

For example, if you go to a bar and you approach a man or a woman, try to spend I would say, at least half an hour before asking for the phone number so that you can really connect with this person and use the strategies that you are seeing in this course. If you go to a networking event, try to really take time to connect with the person because the more you can connect with the person, the easier it will be, then if you want to contact this person again, so spend time with them and make the other person feel comfortable and that's how you will be able to connect with people.