What people would think of you. So everyone has the sphere, to a certain extent, there are people who are always wondering what someone would say if they act, and there are people who are just able to express themselves freely. So in this video, I would like to share with you my own advice, and how I was able to care less about what people would think of you. Because it's not something that you can stop, you cannot stop caring about what people would think of you, because caring what people think of you to a certain extent is great, because it can give you social feedback, it can show you if you are doing something that is right or that is wrong, but then the problem becomes, if you are always worried about what people will think of you if you take action. So the first advice I would like to give you here is that you cannot control the impression that you will make into someone.

It means that I cannot control the impression that You will receive of me, I can't. Most people think they can. I can't. Why? Because when I'm talking to you, the only thing I can control is 50% of the interaction, because you control your other 50% of interaction. So I can maximize my 60%.

In other words, I could have amazing communication skills, great social skills, I could have a great outfit, I could really take care of myself. But then I don't know how you will perceive me. So I cannot control how you perceive me. Let's say that tonight, I go to a bar, and I approach a girl and I give her a compliment. Maybe one year we say, Oh, that's amazing. Or maybe the other girl would say go away.

I cannot control her reaction, but I can control how I express myself. So this was really a huge shift for me. Because when I was young, 10 years ago, I'm still young, but 10 years ago, I would adapt who I was to please people. And I thought that I could control their impression, I could control how they would perceive me. So I would adapt to I was to a, to an extent that I love playing tennis. And I would say, Hey, I play tennis.

And then the other person say, Oh, I hate playing tennis. And I would say, Oh, yeah, you're right, tennis is awful. It's not great. And I would destroy my self esteem. I would really try to adapt that. I know, it's an extreme example.

But maybe you are adapting who you are. Just to make a great impression and into people and try to control what people would think of you. So if you are doing that, I would suggest that you try to express yourself more freely. You try really to think about the things that you really want in life. And something that has really helped me is when I heard a study. That's Brony ready?

She was taking care of people just before they died. And she asked the question, and the question really made me think the question was, what is your biggest regret in life? And you know what, more than 95% of people answered, they said, I regret I didn't have the courage to live a life according to who I was. But instead, I've lived the life according to what other people wanted of me. So that's why I'm saying I'm saying, if you're adapting to much who you are, to just please people and to make a great impression. And you are destroying who you really are.

That's not worth it. Because I really don't want you to arrive at the end of October of your life, and just have this regret of I didn't live the life that I wanted. So I know like it's pretty deep, but it's time to do it. Life is really short, and it's ending one second at a time. So with this video here, I would like to ask you this question. Do you really want out of life?

What do you want? What kind of people would you like to have in your life? What would you like to experience? What are the things that you want to have? Where would you like to travel? And try to think about what you really want.

That that's what matters. You try to think about what you really want, and you optimize your 50%. Remember, the 50% is the thing that are in your control, because I cannot approach you and control how you will perceive me, but they can control my passions, my interest, what I like, what makes me alive, there are things that I can control. So if I go and approach you, it's better if I really express who I am, and I would see if you liked me or not, rather than trying to be liked by everyone and adopted. who you are. So this is really a powerful concept here.

They've love who you are, express yourself freely. I'm not just saying, oh, express yourself freely and don't care about people. No, I'm dressing, express what you like, express the things that make you alive, express the thing that you want to do. And then you will be able to connect to the right people. Because here it's associates keeps course, it means that you also want to connect with the right people. And you start with being honest about yourself.

For example, I'm an entrepreneur, I have my own business, I travel around the world and I coach people. So this is what I do. And there are many people who don't like it. There are many people who don't accept it, but that's who I am. That's the people who really accepted and people who love me for that. And that's how I'm able to really connect with these people.

So I'm not trying to control the impression that I'm making you know the people undressing. This is why I have the courage to be myself. There is a quote that says, it's better to take the risk of being hated for who you are, rather than being light for who you are not. So this is really powerful here. So, to recap, be yourself. You cannot please everyone.

You can't think about what you really want in life and do the things that you want. And really try to be the best version that you can express yourself with joy, with happiness with love, and you will see you You will be able to connect with the right people, rather than trying to adapt who you are to please people