Self reflection. At the end of the video, if you go and look in the resources section, there will be a couple of sheets for you to download with some questions for you to answer for yourself on self reflection, you and your spouse can do that. roles. So here's some things to think about. What roles Do you believe partners are supposed to play in romantic relationships? Because what you believe might be different from what others believe?

What role do you believe you're supposed to play as a parent or a child or a friend who taught you? Or where did you learn the above roles? Are there any roles that you're playing that don't feel right to you? What roles would you need to change to feel balanced? expectations? Do you have any expectations about how your partner should be?

Are they realistic? Could your partner live up to them? Should they have to? Do you have any expectations about relationships That you feel might work against you. patterns. Can you think of any patterns that have shown up in your relationships?

What are they? Where do you think they come from? Have you ever felt like you were with someone just like one of your parents? Or you keep dating the same type of person, what things keep repeating and what negative things have been repetitive. Can you identify any triggers that you have such as certain words or behaviors, what is the reaction you have to these triggers? And these are just some ways that you can look deeper at yourself and what your what it is that you want out of a relationship and what kind of partner you want to be.