This video is going to talk about what are drama cycles? Do you ever wonder how you can feel like you love your partner one minute and hate them the next? You feel they're your soulmate. So why don't you constantly fight. If you feel this way, you're not alone. Many relationships go through a love hate stage, feelings of love can turn into drama, hostility, defensiveness, or withdrawal of affection.
This duality of pleasure and pain is considered normal by many people tend to believe that if you love the person all worked out somehow. The reality is that the relationship will probably get worse. Other areas of your life will begin to be affected such as being more irritable with your children or other family members or fight in front of them. You might withdraw from your friendships or get distracted at work. This cycle will keep going for a while until it grows so destructive that the relationship falls apart. It's as if you're trapped in an impossible destructive addiction that makes you feel so good, but it's also tearing you apart.
You might believe it's normal. But is this what you want? If you want to stop the love hate cycle, you need to know why it happens and how to make changes before the relationship destroys you or ends. So now what we're going to do is look at how relationship drama starts. When you're in love, you feel alive. Your life feels more meaningful and someone makes you feel special.
You feel whole, the feeling can be so intense that the rest of the world seems to fade. It feels as though your pain is gone. But in reality, it's just temporarily covered up to it feels great until your partner doesn't meet your needs or expectations. You can develop a feeling of neediness to three you feel addicted to the other person Which is the euphoric feelings you experience due to the chemical reactions hormones produced by your brain. When you feel in love. You feel amazing when they're around.
But even the possibility that they might not be there for you can lead you to feelings of fear, abandonment and rejection. For the effects of those chemicals and hormones wear off and you again, feel the displeasure you had before the relationship, except this time you believe your partner is the cause. Five, the drama begins. You both might start to feel jealousy or resentment. And you take offense to almost everything your partner says or does. You become possessive and controlling you withdraw, demand, criticize, Judge, blame and attack all in an attempt to convince your partner to go back to meeting your needs.
So you begin a love hate cycle, but now you're addicted to the drama cycle instead of the chemicals that produce that in love feeling. Research shows that relationships that are full of drama can be more addictive than a lot of addictive drugs. How is this possible? When you fight your body has an adrenaline rush. This adrenaline eventually ends and you calm down. You have probably heard the expression making up is the best part, right?
The reason that the makeup period feels great is because when you come down from the high of the adrenaline rush, you're usually apologetic. You both swing back into the positive feeling and the brain releases other chemicals such as dopamine and serotonin, making you feel happy and euphoric again. Yet, much like most drugs, your body will start looking for that adrenaline rush again. Once the rush loses its strength, you keep increasing the dose or you look for other ways to fuel the craving, the more of a habit it becomes to fight, the more adrenaline you're going to need. So you will find yourself fighting more often and with more intensity. This can feel like a never ending rollercoaster ride of emotions.