This video I'm going to show you a technique for problem solving. When there's a problem that comes up that needs to be solved, it can't just be vented, it needs to have a solution. Here is a technique that can help it from escalating into an argument or anger. Number one is pick a specific issue take on each individual issue separately. Remember, when we want to deal with things and solve problems, we want to do it a little bit at a time so it's not overwhelming to brainstorming. Once you have this specific problem, you will be working on together start brainstorming together.

Brainstorming is a useful way to come up with solutions and ideas that you would never have thought of otherwise, write down absolutely every idea that either of you think of. Don't talk about the ideas while you're brainstorming. Don't make fun of your partner's ideas. brainstorming is about coming up with as many ideas as you can even Silly ones pre agreement or compromise. After brainstorming both of you should select a few of the ideas that you feel will help the most. Discuss it until you can find a solution.

And remember to work as a team together. The goal is to solve your problem, not win a fight, try and compromise so that you're both satisfied with the results. And four, check in agree on a check in time at some point in the future. It depends on the problem, but a week to a month should work. The reason following up as important is because as you begin to make the changes to solve the problem, you learn new things. This will give you both a chance to talk about how it's going.

Setting a date helps you both stick to it as well. If this doesn't work the first time, start over and do it again.