You should find a common denominator. Having something in common with the other person builds rapport instantly. If you think about your friends, do you have something in common with each of them? Yes. And that's the idea. You maybe have the same values, activities, interest, and so on.

You share something in common. That's the idea. When you talk to people, you should observe and ask questions that can lead to a commonality. think in terms of an activity or interest, and even places that you have been to questions you should ask is different depending on the situation that you are in. Just use basic, small questions. And you should be asking yourself, do I have something in common with that person?

And when you find something, you just talk about it. And don't be too obvious, and don't fake commonalities. This technique can backfire is just too obvious. And if the person notices that you Just want to create a commonality with them. That's why the second rule is crucial. Don't fake commonalities.

If you hate fishing, and they love it, don't say, Oh, me too. I love fishing. People will sense it's fake and the technique will backfire.