Next question. Yes. I have a question. No, you have a question go. Okay. My question is, I'm trying to do what?

We don't have. We don't use that word. What would somebody tell us? Please? Try trying. What What word do you want me to use?

I'm doing? What do you want me to say? challenging. I'm challenging myself with stories coming to my mind. And I say to myself, tell a good story. tell a good story.

How can I say a good story when something is bothering me when I want to deal with it, when I'm trying to understand it, and I did and move heal from it. I don't know how to add others to express how not to fall into the same trap because I don't want to fall into the same trap if I don't see it and I see that this thing causes me pain and it doesn't bring me any joy and it has loads of problems for me. If I don't accept it, I move on to a better story. I can't I'm trying but then I'm happy like, um, if I don't see Oh, I have to remind myself Oh, remember that this thing causes you this pain and this pain and the other pain so be careful. Be careful, don't fall again there. If I let myself and I don't remind myself of the consequences of my actions.

And re and what have you really before you get so that you understood my question I understood myself. Think of yourself in a Happy Valley with some stops. Tell me the story. What story Tell me the story. What do you mean? What story do you want me to tell you?

I have to go back to a certain person and I have to remind myself, this person is bad for you. Be careful, he's gonna come and get you and you have to be careful to stay away. Stop stop not to fall into the same trap myself what these causes in my life, okay, otherwise I'm gonna fall again. It's like drinking. You know, it's bad for you and you keep doing it again and again and again. You'll have to remind yourself that this is bad for me.

Okay? Or like, why have you been the president? You're not in prison. Tell me say yourself in my mind, I pressure myself I say Okay, tell myself a good story. Think about something nice. What's going to happen?

What? I love to do. Nice stops. Tell me a story. Think of you stop stop something. Yeah.

Tell me. Tell me a story. Now. That is upsetting you. I thought The story No you didn't. What story?

Are you that actually obsessed you in the now? Oh, just recently? Yes. Yes. I'm obsessed. I'm obsessed all day long about this.

And I can't get it off my head. Yeah, exactly what happened? Like what happened happening in my head? all happening Your head is not true. Yes, exactly. Yes.

So how can I get it off my head? No, no, no. No, it is not in your head is not true. But it's in my head. It's in your head. But because you're telling yourself the same story.

Somebody's going to get me now stop there. What might one you say? When it happens? I will deal with it. Might be it's gonna be too late. No, no, no, because you might never have to deal with it.

Now I'm going to remind myself it might never happen. Remember, I always say you must be in the present. did not think I have to remember this, I have to remember that when you have to have to have to have to, you're not in the present, let it happen and then deal with it. So, if a story they tell me Yes, something is happening, you see, such and such an incident is happening. It's making me upset, yes in the present now. So you're going to say, let me find a good reason why this is happening.

What can I learn from this situation? And when you ask yourself, what can I learn from this situation, as opposed to me the poor victim, say watch your yourself and think only because you might fall into the trap again. Stop there, fall into the trap, and then get out of it. Don't try and stop yourself falling into the trap. Let whatever the trap is happen first and then change the story. It might be too late.

It's like telling it Like, it's like you're telling a drug addict fall into the trap, take heroin, and then get out of it while you're dead already. Okay? You see you, you're not in the present and you're creating all this, it might be too late. You fall into the trap. So it's like saying, say St. Paul's harrowing. The problem was harrowing.

I fall into the trap, I take it I die. I'm done. No, no, no, no, that when you are confronted with the choice of taking heroin, then you can say, Hmm, I have a choice. If I take it, I will die. So I will decide not to take it. When is happening when you tell me to fall and then come out of and deal with it?

Let it come out. So herring is there. All right now I have a choice whether I want to take heroin or not, is not good for me. That's what I mean when you know, let it happen. And then you have a choice. Okay, before letting it happen, though.

Don't you have to think But this thing is causing you bad and so you have to watch it. Well then you're not in the present and you're really living in fear. Okay, maybe, okay. Yeah, because you're not in the present. You're waiting for it. You're trying to prevent it in such a way because it might never happen.

Yeah, it might never happen. It might never happen. It's just like people. We talked about worrying isn't it? When I say Why do you worry? only worry when when it will help you if it doesn't help you?

Why worry? Because it might never happen. Yeah, this is a very good Can you just say like, Oh, it's not happening and that's it not like might never because that gives you some Nori again. Again, again you're in you're not in the present because you you are in the fear mode or it may happen in might happen. See? It's not happening now.

Yeah, that's I'm saying not to use the word might is just like it's not happening. And that's it. What did I say? In the present? Be in the present? If you are in the present is not happening, is it?

No, you have to wait for it to happen. And then tell the story. Now, listen to this very carefully now. Yeah, nobody can make you do anything except you buy the story you tell yourself. Now, if somebody drops dead in front of you, yes, it could be a terrible thing, because that's the story you can say you're gonna say, oh, how terrible Are you can say how fantastic for that soul. You're painting the picture, aren't you?

It's not you is you're doing it to yourself. Nobody can do it to you. any situation. You are selling yourself the story. This is making say that Empire State Building two airplanes that crashed into the Empire State Building in themselves our story. That's the story how exciting for those 5000 souls who have made an agreement to bring Some awareness you because we keep forgetting the big picture.

Nobody's going anywhere, Groundhog Day, you go back to the thought and you come back again. It's only when you think that this is the only life here. And yes, all poor people, their family, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Whenever you look at the big picture, I mean, you know, to take it one step further 11 million Jews, how do you account for that one? Right? And when I say it is a master agreement, you get it.

Wow, do you know after that happening, there was never a third world war. We got little small wars, but no third world war. So it happened for a reason to bring awareness. You see, and the millions of people it doesn't really matter, as far as the universe is concerned, because it keeps going on you know, it's just like when you see a mountain and you pour hot water and you don't think anything about it, but there's billions of there all over the place. And it is the perception of what you tell yourself in any situation. is happening because nothing is happening except in your mind with the story that you're telling yourself and you keep hearing when you say circumstances doesn't matter state of being now in this teaching here some of you are getting mixed up you think about power realities.

Yes the power reality of what you wish is there. Like I was telling my good wife today we're having a discussion and I said to her, you know, I always wish you have a rich woman beautiful and all that instead I got a poor woman lesson the lesson is the universe in Guinea what I one but what I need to grow, but if I keep pitching to the universe, why does it happen? Why can you send me what I want? Yeah, I will be miserable in the situation when I like I understand that hold on a minute, you know, thank you University sending me something I need to learn. And when you start to ask what is not to learn is I have to learn patience. I have to learn non judgement.

I have to learn all these statements that she's brought to my life. But you saw you never stop learning, isn't it? Or because sometimes I think like years ago, for example, I had lots of lessons to learn. Because now is, yeah, you never stopped. But I still think now those lessons are or maybe I'm taking them differently now. I'm just not.

Yeah, I'm just taking it as a fun more. Yeah, so it's different. You're learning to look at it in a different perspective. Always remember when I talked about the leaf and the tree and the lead the branch and the tree? Before you were looking at one leaf. Now you're looking at different perspective from different leaves.

The next thing you'd be looking at the brunch. And then when you get to the later stage, when you come to all knowing you are the tree from you can look from it from every perspective, this is what the whole thing is all about. Nothing, nothing changes. The only thing changes the perspective where you can learn to shift. So if you're in a crummy situation, you ever need to learn to look at it one way, you know, bad luck or whatever situation You sell yourself but you say Hold on a minute. This is one you let me look for something good.

And until you look for lesson, you will not ship because you will stay fixed from that point. And so then it becomes your reality. Take any situation, come on, let's let's play the game. Give me Give me a bad situation that you've gone through or recently and see how we can change it. All of a sudden, there's no no complaints. Now, when there's plenty.

Every day we come across it. All of a sudden, we're quiet. Come on, let's prove to me that I'm creating it all the time. I was things I am good most of the time. But there are times I fall back into the patterns. Okay, let's work with the times that you fall back in the past and then say I was just coming back from the school.

I mean, somehow we decided to take the board from from Westminister. Mm hmm. So we go for the mass house you know, which is one stop before Greenidge. It was so cold and windy and I wasn't feeling well. Since this morning at all, I was on Lemsip and all that kind of thing. So I started walking fast.

And by the time we got home we have an argument about what that I left them behind. I mean, I left my family and kids behind so will you upset? I wasn't Oh, there you are. So there wasn't a problem then. He was like, is your your family's problem not yours yet, but that that that got me started again. Wow.

Because you know, I kind of I said like it was like I wasn't feeling well. I was on Lemsip in the from the morning. Yeah, I couldn't stand the call at all. So I just walked and I was not even working faster than I normally do. Okay, and then and that must started you it's a kind of pointing fingers right. So that got me started then I said I didn't.

This is what happens to me. Although I know the theory sometimes I do lose it. I the theory doesn't is I can get the theory work. I did. So I must have at least last 10 minutes of my life because you know, I got worked up and in all this for months and all I want up and down and all that kind of thing. That's okay.

10 Minutes is very good, because normally you would have been the whole evening. A couple of days. So 10 minutes. So next time make one minute. Yes. Correct.

But the point is about point I'm trying to make is that shouldn't have happened at that point in time because you learn from it. You learn. Yes. And the next thing is, you do not need to justify why you're walking fast. Correct. That was my point.

I was feeling cold. Yeah, I was feeling cold and it was it was almost like a hurricane wind. Yeah, because you're walking along the water sidewalk. I wasn't even Overleaf I mean, I thought I can walk very fast. Okay, but I was just walking my normal speed. I have a storm maybe five minutes before the storm.

Okay. irrespective of what the response bonuses you got from your family Yeah, it shouldn't matter but you made it I've made it You made it matter your family didn't upset you you upset yourself because you made it matter this is the point what I'm trying to get across to you. Nobody can upset you because I got but I got screamed at him so that you know you know I've probably also human being right unless you are unless you're very high level isn't it? That's it you know it is practice that's all not a very high level this is it you know it's good that your you know your wife challenge you all the time and pisses you off. It gives you a chance to say thank you why I'm gonna start playing again I'm gonna tell myself a good story. And the most good stories you tell whatever she's gonna come and nag you is not gonna matter because you're not going to allow yourself to be upset by the stories you're gonna tell yourself.

Keep telling you circumstances doesn't matter. It really Doesn't matter is your state of being and why do we get upset is because our expectations are how we expect the other person to react? Do you understand SP? Doesn't matter, but sometimes the circumstances come over and over again. And it's like, you just ignore them. They don't come haha.

No circumstances will happen over and over again. Yes. However you tell yourself a different story and then the circumstances will slowly change. But you expect instant change in the way we were talking? No, you don't give any meaning to the story first, but you give a meaning to the story you want. You want the circumstances to change, you know, circumstances will not change.

You have to change and until you change, the circumstances outside will eventually change. Because you're running in a different frequency then isn't it so it will not attract what it was before frequency. You hit it on the nose, right? Somebody wanna power reality? If you match that frequency, you go back to the old way, if somebody is on a frequency of whatever it is attacking you, yes, you look at the frequency and you say is nothing, yes, nothing's gonna happen. But because you give it meaning, and you match that frequency, because if the frequency is coming from anger, and you've gone into judge when you've already matched it, isn't it come from a point of non judgment, and then eventually, unconditional love and compassion, or we can even get to that state until we go into neutrality first.

So whatever is happening, you have to go through the neutral stages, and then the compassion and the understanding as to why that person is behaving that way, we're all come to be so clear, and you start to understand that person's background, why the person is behaving that way, but if you go into judgment, you can, why does that person keep repeating that pattern? That's the question I want to ask. I'm getting angry. That person because that person doesn't know what they're doing. This is going to a loop if somebody is in the loop is best to give it a neutral meaning first to make them come. Because once you start to attack them and defend yourself, what is going to happen?

The other person who is not awakened will start to attack you. Because that's the only way they know how to react. Is this making sense? pick up any situation. Last month where something happened, you reacted and arouse acid. Oh, by the steel those of you that have been practicing, share with us some incidents that happened in the past where something happened it didn't affect you circumstances doesn't matter what it is you have to tell yourself we neutralize the whole thing and have compassion for that person.

This is a big big one here this today's lesson, although I've explained it before, over and over the penny is not dropping Neelam you're deep in thoughts share, please. No, I was just trying to think of one of my issues that I've had with with myself. Sister in law my brother's wife, yeah. For for many, many, many years, and because my brother was diagnosed with cancer last year when he's in remission now, there's been more more opportunities when I see opportunities, I'm using the right opportunities to meet her. Now, whereas before I would go into a fear mode almost, I could barely walk and describe it as fear mode thinking. Now what you're going to say to me what you're going to do what you're going to say, what has happened is off late, I have been been practicing my acceptance and so on.

And even though now I on the I when I have to because I have I do phone my brother a lot more now because of various things. And going to with the lady was mentioning, you know, in the head, it sort of goes into say, oh, and then I'm like, calm down. And then I started practicing the acceptance acceptance and I'm actually sending love now and I'm actually When in my own way doing the love thing and that the exact so that's what I was trying to think that the more I've practiced it for me to get out of the fear thing. All right. Now the next step for you is to go back and say Why? Why did I have this fear about my sister in law?

Okay, just on this side. And you see why did I have this fear and it will come out? Most probably will be what people will think of me. Yes, yes, me. The ones who say, I keep guessing I'm a spiritual being. I'm the perfect person I am all the time.

What I was actually going to say further was that a lot of the times it's what I was thinking what they are thinking, because you are thinking yeah, what I'm thinking they are thinking correct at that time which which which has been brought forward into my head even more exciting is happening all the time and for me to be available. Cute listener. And I'm, I'm talking to people and all of a sudden I hear something I said, I didn't say that. But they assume. And they thought that I said something, Jonathan. And this is when the skills in listening would come in when people start to make stories up when you didn't even ask them a question.

And he happens all the time. Now, this is like it's a challenge in relationship until you both can get onto the same level of talking. See where you're coming from. It's good that you shared that example. You have, you're having more the teachings of allowing the other person to be right now I don't have to defend myself. Exactly that Yeah, yeah.

And I'm really a perfect, perfect being. I don't have to be better, accepting myself more for the way accepting myself for myself. So not worrying about what the other person is thinking. But as I said, a lot of the time it was what I was thinking, what you're thinking what they were thinking when and not the truth. Yeah, and what thinking is not my problem. A bit more.

I don't know combo, it makes you come because you're not allowing your you're not allowing the other person to upset you because you're telling yourself a very good story.