We're going to talk about an accountability partner. Now, so many times I've been doing different things for my business for my health, changing my diet or whatever. And I will be talking to someone I'm like, Yeah, I was talking to my accountability partner. And they'll say, what's my accountability partner? I don't know what that is. And I'm happy to tell you because my accountability partners and I actually have more than one are crucial to my success.
These are people that when I set my goals like you have set your goals, I share with them what my goals are. And I talk to them every week about how I'm doing with my goals. So accountability partner is someone who holds you accountable. Now, there are a couple of things that I want you to think about before you choose an accountability partner. Because you need to choose someone who was supportive of your goal, someone who was positive, someone who just mirrors back to you what you say that you want, not someone that's going to beat you up make you wrong, make you feel bad. It's someone who you look forward to talking to not someone who you dread speaking to.
So I'll give you an example. So every week, I have an accountability partner. And she and I spend only about 10 to 15 minutes, once a week, and we go over our goals. Now we have goals for how we were doing eating, how we're doing in terms of our exercise we do in terms of our goals for our businesses, how we're doing with that, and their specific goals. I had this meeting yesterday, and hopefully it's gonna achieve this thing, right? And we also even have we talked about our personal lives.
Are we connecting with our families? Are we connecting With our friends, you know, are we doing something for ourselves that help us feel restored? Are we practicing self care? So these are the topics that we talk about every single week. And sometimes they'll say to me, Damon, have you been doing your exercise? I haven't heard you say that.
You've been to yoga once this week. That's all she says. She's reflecting back that I have a goal of going to yoga three times a week. And if I don't do that, she just asked me about it. She brings it up, and then gives me the opportunity to say, you know what, that's right. I haven't done that.
And one, I'm going to change my goal, or two, I actually need to put it on the schedule. It's that simple. That's what accountability partners are people that are your cheerleaders. There are people that you tell them what your goals are for the week and then when you talk to them, they check in and make sure you have achieved those goals. What I'm going to ask you to do is to think about someone who can be your accountability partner, who is going to just mirror back your goals to you, who's going to be a cheerleader for you, who's going to support you, and someone who is not going to make you wrong or bad. If you do not achieve the goal for the week.
They're supposed to help you move forward, not make you feel bad for what you haven't done. So important. And the handout is going to give you some ideas about who you want to choose what kind of qualities are the best qualities for an accountability partner, and maybe setting up a time that you're going to ask them to be your accountability partner, and a time 10 or 15 minutes once a week where you can check in. Now you might not talk to them on the phone, you might send them an email and have them just confirm That they perceived it, or you might talk to them in person, you get to choose how you do the communication. But I'm telling you, having someone who you can trust and who is a safe space for you to give your goals to is going to make this program so positive for you.
And if you're like me, I didn't even know Wendy, who's my accountability partner going on for years, we were in a program together, we got matched up. She was such a fantastic accountability partner, that after the first year, we just decided to stay together even when the program was over. And now, four years in, we are still accountability partners, and we still talk every week or we send an email. We text each other with high fives when we do good jobs for things that are important to us. So that's the power of having an accountability partner having a good account. A belly partner may be someone that you stay with for a very long time.