So now I would like to talk to you about the feedback cards. So the feedback cards is something where you can write your assertiveness techniques, tools, and how you respond to people. So you can write, so for example, you can you can buy a journal, you can write that on your phone, or on a piece of paper. So this is what I would like you to write the situation, what, when, where, Who? Your response, how you felt, and a more assertive response. Let me explain.
Let's say that you are at work. And then you have your your boss that comes and he asks you to do some extra work on Saturday. And you're like, Yes, sure. And you don't really want to do it because you have a family dinner. Let's say that you answered yes, sure. What I would like you to do is just write down on A piece of paper in your journal on your phone, this situation so what?
So when, where, who? So my boss came to my office today. And he asked me to work on Saturday. My response, I said yes, how I felt I felt terrible inside because I have this family dinner. And next time the more assertive response would be to say for example, I understand that there are some work to do. But on such day I have an important family dinner.
But what I can do is that I can stay up, I can stay late this Friday, or this Thursday night to finish the work. You see like this response here would have been much better than just saying yes, and going against what you wanted. So you can use this feedback cards to any situation. in your life, in your personal life or professional life, and the more you do it, the more you practice, the more you will be able to become assertive. Because maybe right now you're not really assertive and I will give you the techniques and maybe you won't really know how to use them. So if everyday that you have a situation where you are not able to be assertive, you write it down and you think and you and you just take time to to write down a better response.
Next time that the same situation would appear. You will know how to communicate in a more assertive way.