On the leadership, and this is one of my favorite quotes, when you are attempting to do anything is to be the change you want to see in the world. Gandhi was a very wise man. Don't start by trying to change everybody else. If you really want change, start with yourself and be the change. And you'll be on the path, a path of leadership right there just with that simple, perhaps simple, guiding light. Now, self differentiated leadership.

It's a concept by a man named Edwin Friedman. He was a student of Murray bones. And I had the good fortune of listening to him in a lecture shortly before he passed away, maybe 10 years ago, and that's where I got some of this material and some of the material for my next video. So first and foremost, there's three concepts here. First and foremost, the leader must stay in touch. Now I like to draw on historical figures.

I know every historical figure, it can be a lightning rod. But one thing that General Sherman did, as he marched to the sea was stay in touch with current conditions. He was a master at getting out on his horse to the front, talking to the soldiers that were out closest to the action, understanding conditions, and making decisions usually decisions which his followers appreciated. Now, we're not going to attack their strongest position, we're going to go around them and let them try to figure out how to get to us. So that type of thinking could only happen. If the leader gets out of the office or whatever situation they're in and walks around and talks to people.

You And stays connected also so that the people know the leader. If you are in a position of leadership, don't kid yourself, you do matter emotionally to the people that are following you. You are in some way a mother or father figure, to those individuals in a deep emotional sense, the past is fused with the present. And so the more distant you are, the more likely many of them will imagine the worst about who you are what you're about. You have to go out and be present with people and know how to do that without skipping levels and causing confusion. But you have to get out there stay connected.

Now, equally important, you have to take clear, concise stands. And so both of these individuals General George Patton, and God Mahatma Gandhi were masters at this imagine Gandhi trying to influence millions with no cell phones, no video recordings. He just had to get a message out that people wouldn't screw up as they passed it around. So he said simple things, like an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. No retaliation. I do not want people to take revenge.

I do not want violence, no violence. If we become violent, we are becoming what we are trying to resist. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind boom, that spread through an entire nation without modern communication devices. Patent patent did not want his people to dig in, dig in and you are dead. That was one of his many quotes along these lines. He wanted his people to do what Sherman's people did get moving, keep moving, move around them, move through them, but go do not start to create trenches and sit there, then you will get shot, you'll be more likely to die if you do that we are going to keep moving forward no matter what.

So he had some simple messages to convey. And he also was a master of staying in touch as was Gandhi. They were constantly out talking to people Patton constantly talking to the infantry soldiers. Yes, he had a temper and he didn't like a soldier if you consider him a coward, and he took clear stance on that, too, whether you agree with it or not, but for most of the troops, that he had a warm relationship despite the circumstances, none of them liked the circumstances. But he was in touch and to clear stands now in History. Most history is written by whoever won, or whoever thinks they won for a while at least.

So I keep searching for historical figures that are less known and I really like this story from Queen Yeah, US son tale. I hope I'm saying that right. I'm sure the Ashanti would pronounce it differently. So but with no disrespect intended, when the British were invading her country, the men said, Hey, she's, you know, this is crazy. This is hopeless. We just got to give these people whatever they want.

Of course, the British had guns and the most formidable army in the world at the time. So it was not going to be a fair fight. It was a hopeless fight. However, rather than capitulate, the Queen wanted to fight and she said to her men, Well, fine. If you're not going to fight, the women will, I'm going to get the women and we're going to go take a stand We will fight to the last of us falls in the battlefields as the quote says, and so she got up and she went, and the women went with her. And guess what soon the men followed, and they resisted, valiantly, more valiantly and longer than in other situations that were similar, where the odds were completely stacked against them.

But they still resisted. So the sabotage that Friedman talks about here the capacity to deal with sabotage, the third element of self differentiated leadership, it's not sabotage, like the workers sticking their wooden shoes into the machinery because of the conditions in early industrial times. It's sabotage that is unintentional, it's the emotional field being activated. It's somebody saying Will you really think that's a good idea? It's somebody saying that's too risky. It's somebody saying you just don't care about how we feel.

It's people with good intentions, most likely, possibly pulling the emotional strings, that the leader allows them to pool and the leader losing their sense of direction. And so becoming an ineffective leader, to be an effective leader, you have to lead. Some people aren't going to like the direction you're heading. Try to learn from them. Maybe there's good information there, but some of it's just going to be fear. And you're not going to know where you're gonna get until you get there.

So all leadership is a risk. So you have to again, stay connected, take clear stance, and don't get caught up in the emotional side. sabotage. Okay, so that is the lesson for today. I appreciate your time and attention and I look forward to talking to you again. Take care