Hello, and welcome to the lecture on abandonment. So abandonment is the twin sibling of unworthiness. As we learned in our previous lecture about unworthiness, we are brought into this world dependent on each other for our survival 24 hours a day, seven days a week. And so the fear of being left alone is actually instinctual. We're not designed to be isolated. We can't survive by ourselves.

And in a way, being alone isn't really human. Yet, ironically, we come into this life alone, and we go out alone. We must face every life transition by ourselves, and sooner or later everyone gets kicked out of the nest. So to mature fully, we have to stand on our own two feet. And it's not always easy. So how is subconsciously suppressed emotion created in relation to abandonment Well, those deep feelings of abandonment occur when there's no loving presence to guide us through the early phases of childhood development.

We're too vulnerable or innocent and we're ill equipped to understand or handle the initial life transitions on our own. And when we're forced to do so, the resulting subconscious fear that gets created can cause debilitating circumstances in our adult lives. There are three techniques I highly recommend freezing with your clients who are dealing with abandonment issues, and the very similar to the techniques we use for unworthiness. First, I would use the guide technique, we call it a spiritual guide to at the age regression, and three would be self forgiveness, or rebirthing. And please refer back to clinical hypnotherapy certification course part two, to brush up on the mechanics of how to implement these techniques. Now let's talk about the guide technique for just a sec.

So what you want do is to get your client very relaxed, and have them call in a spiritual guide that they can actually sense their presence. And do this at the very beginning of the first session, and then include it throughout each session that you use because remember, when you're dealing with someone who's who's dealing with the issue of abandonment, we're really dealing with their deepest fears as a result of being left alone. And having a constant spiritual protector can be an enormous comfort to keep people from being left alone. Next, I would use age regression, I would, after you've called in the guide, then implement an age regression technique for the first session. This can help you release any remember trauma, whether the remembering of the trauma is conscious or subconscious. And if it goes well that may be all you need to do.

However, abandom issues can run pretty deep just like an or the innocent soul will probably require multiple sessions and then after the age, regret Again, I would use the self forgiveness technique and the rebirthing technique where you take your clients into the time before they were born, and have them go through the birthing experience, again to the perfect parents and then having them really in state the experience that what has happened up to this point is not their fault, until they're absolutely unconditionally loved. And then when there's a guide in there, to help them through the presence, it can be very reassuring and deeply healing. And also, when the session is over, remind your client that they can call up on their guide anytime they want simply by thinking about them. And they can also start to develop an interaction or a dialogue to actually call on their guide for help whenever they need it.

So let's go to the next video, which is a little story about someone I knew who had some abandonment issues just to give you an idea what it might look like in someone's day to day life. So I'll see you there